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Hi I’m a 34 years old and I have been having strong suicidal feelings for the last few days now.

I come from a very loving family and I did well enough in school to go to college etc but I was bullied in school and I am still feeling the effects. I was laid off from my first job after I qualified because I couldn’t handle the work load.I would make mistakes no matter how hard I tried. After I was laid off a second time from my second appointment I attempted suicide. I am now in a sales job I hate and my figures are poor. i have been told in no uncertain terms that I will be laid off if I don’t shape up. I am feeling pretty desperate- I have been limping from one job to the other- one crisis to the other for a number of years now and it is becoming par for the course for me. I’m really exhausted by it. I also find that whatever abilities I had I have lost. My brain is slowing down and I am forgetting a lot of things recently. I also find that when my boss tells me to do something it has to be explained to me a number of times which makes me feel stupid. I have read that depression can have these effects and i am trying to see it in that light but I am not very hopeful about my prospects. I bought a house with my mother two years ago whom I love dearly and she is the only reason I have not taken my suicidal thoughts any further. But that only increases my feeling of quiet desperation. I am not an attention seeker and I do want to feel happy again- at the very least my mother deserves it- she is retired and she deserves to feel peace an fulfilment at this stage in her life without having to worry about me. Just a couple of words of encouragement from whoever is out there is all I want-and some advice. Thanks Folks.

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Anonymous #
10 months, 1 week ago (8 minutes after post)

“Remember, everyone has self worth in our world.”

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matthewgindi offline Unverified User #
Winnipeg, MB, CA | 10 months, 1 week ago (9 minutes after post)

See a therapist or counsellor immediately. It sounds like you are suffering from depression, and though you don’t realize it the depression is interfering with your functioning and skewing your perceptions. You need to seek professional help right away. There is hope. You can find a way to live which will bring happiness and peace, and where you can flourish and unfold your self. Don’t give up.

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conorjmduf offline Verified User (10 months, 1 week) Long Term User Shouts: 1 #
Dublin, 07, IE | 10 months, 1 week ago (11 minutes after post)

Thanks Matthew

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lanjack3 offline Verified User (10 months, 1 week) Long Term User Shouts: 1 #
An Unknown Location | 10 months, 1 week ago (30 minutes after post)

i would recomend talking to someone that cares about you if you dont have someone like that i am glad to talk to you

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conorjmduf offline Verified User (10 months, 1 week) Long Term User Shouts: 1 #
Dublin, 07, IE | 10 months, 1 week ago (46 minutes after post)

Hi Lanjack. Thanks for your reply. I don’t have friends outside my family. Living with an elderly parent at my age has a stigma against it unfortunately even if it’s my choice. I do have brothers and a sister and they do care but they will be more anxious about our mother. My greatest fear is losing my job and the prospect of not getting another. I feel I have to deal with that before I can deal with my depression.

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conorjmduf offline Verified User (10 months, 1 week) Long Term User Shouts: 1 #
Dublin, 07, IE | 10 months, 1 week ago (2 hours, 35 minutes after post)

Thanks for that

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CerridwenNail offline Verified User (10 months, 1 week) Long Term User Shouts: 1 #
Lockesburg, AR, US | 10 months, 1 week ago (3 hours, 33 minutes after post)

It would probably be a good idea to find a counsler. Counslers, if you find a good one, help you work through the problems and not be dependant on medication. Be very careful about prescription meds, some of them can make you depressed. As a matter of fact, there are some prescription meds for depression that can make you have suicidal thoughts. A great herbal supplement to take to help with depression is St. John’s Wort. Remember that YOUR life is a gift, life is beautiful… everyone has a purpose in life and you are still here which means, that someone out there needs your presence in their life; you just haven’t met them yet. Everything will work out, if you just hang tough. Nothing in life that is worth having ever comes easy, besides, if you left now… you would miss out on some really great things yet to come :) I hope I helped some.

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10 months, 1 week ago (5 hours, 29 minutes after post)

I know that you need some counseling, but try to relaxe and pray. You know sometimes i feel the that way too, but I always start to think about the good times and what I could leav behind if i do, just remember that God loves you so do your mother call a friend wirte aletter about your feelings and watch the difference, but please don’t kill yourself because if you Ai will surely miss you.

Love someone who really cares!!!!!!!!!!!

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lanjack3 offline Verified User (10 months, 1 week) Long Term User Shouts: 1 #
An Unknown Location | 10 months, 1 week ago (6 hours after post)

so if i may ask do you belive in god.

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conorjmduf offline Verified User (10 months, 1 week) Long Term User Shouts: 1 #
Dublin, 07, IE | 10 months, 1 week ago (11 hours, 46 minutes after post)

TO Lanjack3- yes I Believe in God.

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lanjack3 offline Verified User (10 months, 1 week) Long Term User Shouts: 1 #
An Unknown Location | 10 months, 1 week ago (1 day, 4 hours after post)

well lisen do you think goad forgot abot you?

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conorjmduf offline Verified User (10 months, 1 week) Long Term User Shouts: 1 #
Dublin, 07, IE | 10 months, 1 week ago (1 day, 17 hours after post)

Sometimes I do feel that way Lanjack. You know, someone had a posting about the saying that “God helps those who help themselves”. The person who started the posting doesn’t like the saying at all and neither do I. It’s not that I don’t want to take responsibility for my life- I do but I want a purpose and because I haven’t found that yet no one seems to want to know. People like people who are confident, ambitious, bright side out 24/7 and all of that. And because I don’t have the wherewithal to have such an attitude I Kind of feel lost in this life. My mother and, in fairness my siblings too are the hand at my back but you know the way it is- your loved ones will always think the best of you even if you know they are wrong. I feel it’s the world outside that you have to convince- and God- that you are worth something. I am not one of those people who is happy to be sad. I want to get out of this funk. Desperatley want out of this dark place I’m in right now. Just can’t see the light at this moment.

lanjack3 offline Verified User (10 months, 1 week) Long Term User Shouts: 1 #
An Unknown Location | 10 months, 1 week ago (2 days, 1 hour after post)

ok i know what your talking about you need a big change. and ill tell you what i did i joined the coast guard but you know sometimes you just need to talk to someone and i am allways willing to talk to you.

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conorjmduf offline Verified User (10 months, 1 week) Long Term User Shouts: 1 #
Dublin, 07, IE | 10 months ago (5 days after post)

Thanks for that Lanjack- you know that’s something I know I should do- join a club or a soc- take me out of myself. What’s stopping me is the fact that my job is going down the swanny. When you feel that you are about to get the sack it’s hard to contemplate meeting new people. If it does happen and I do get the sack then what do I tell people who don’t know my situation? It would be just too embarrassing.

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