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bekier_00

How explain something to someone when you are scared to tell them at all?

I have had problems with depression since i was little. It started to go away when I was in high school. Then i decided to join thte marine corps. since joining it has come back way worse. I know I need some help. Especially since I even wake up in the morning wishing I wouldnt wake up on a constant basis. Not just keep sleeping but die. Its just getting worse. I want to tell the chaplain so i can get some help but I am scared because I dont know what will happen or what my platoon will think. What should I do.

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Sir Urgdu 4 #
Evanston, IL, US | 10 months, 1 week ago (11 minutes after post)

Who care what your peers think? Every once in a while we need to start thinking of ourselves….our society focuses too much on helping others sometimes we forget about ourselves

Dont hesitate to talk to anyone…”the soul that is within me, no man can degrade”- ex-slave Frederick Douglass

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Hope 1 #
An Undisclosed Location | 10 months, 1 week ago (23 minutes after post)

I know how hard it can be. But in the end you have to do what you think is best for you. If the only way you can deal with the depression, is by telling someone else and getting help, do it. Don’t worry about what your platoon will think. They are not the ones living your life, you are.

But I’m going to be honest with you. I was going to join the Navy a few years ago, and if you’d been taking any medication for depression (I think that was it anyway, it could have been just being diagnosed w/depression, but it was something like that) they would not let you join. At the time, I’d been thinking of seeing a psychiatrist and possibly getting medication for my own depression and the only thing that stopped me from going was the fact that I wanted to join the Navy. A few months later, I’d decided that I didn’t want to join the Navy, at least not anytime soon, so I ended up seeing a counselor. I wasn’t prescribed anything, it was just counseling, but after talking to the counselor (and a few other people as well) I felt so much better about everything. You have to weigh your options. Just don’t forget that you are the only one who is living your life and you only get one chance, so if you need to talk to someone, do so. And I have no idea what they would do if someone was diagnosed with depression while they were serving, though. You’d have to ask someone above you to get a definite answer, I guess.

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An Unknown Location | 9 months ago (1 month after post)

My husband is a Marine. I understand what you mean about not wanting your platoon to know, you’ll probably get discharged. And the discharge won’t be honorable, it’ll be discharge because of medical problems, and every future employer will worry about it before they hire you. Depression is harder on guys because they sometimes think they are looked at badly if they don’t “take it like a man.”
You have a few options:
1. You can find a counselor and pay with cash. ($150/hour)
2. Tell your chaplain and risk being discharged, but leave it up to fate and take life as it happens.
3. Talk to the wife of someone you trust in the platoon.
4. Call military One Source. They have licensed counselors answering the phones at all times, and are paid to just sit and talk to you.

Most of the time having a sounding board is all you need. I have mild depression and I usually don’t realize I’m depressed until I’m coming out of it. I know it’s hard because right now your job is your life, and if you hate your job you hate your life, but try to get excited about life!

Think of all the reasons why you joined: see the world, toughest & strongest, best looking dress uniform. Start experiencing your surroundings, and try to relax. Most of the people I know with depression just need to relax. The problem with depression is you don’t want to do anything. So do the opposite and see how you feel. You might get back to your bunk and get depressed again, but for the time you were out doing something you probably felt good.

Here’s my greatest piece of advice. Don’t make excuses. Sometimes you get in a funk and you just “want” to feel bad. But sometimes we make excuses to stay in that funk. We feel bad and we want the proper recognition of it, and we sometimes unknowingly, expect certain things of certain people. Without knowing we sometimes decide not to feel better unless someone else does something, and we decide not to feel better until it happens.

I believe depression is very real, but I also believe most people take it beyond the borders.

I hope this helps.

Patricia

My husband is a Marine.  I understand what you mean about not wanting your platoon to know, you'll probably get discharged.  And the discharge won't be honorable, it'll be discharge because of medical problems, and every future employer will worry about it before they hire you.  Depression is harder on guys because they sometimes think they are looked at badly if they don't  "take it like a man."
You have a few options:
1. You can find a counselor and pay with cash. ($150/hour)
2. Tell your chaplain and risk being discharged, but leave it up to fate and take life as it happens.
3. Talk to the wife of someone you trust in the platoon.
4. Call military One Source.  They have licensed counselors answering the phones at all times, and are paid to just sit and talk to you.

Most of the time having a sounding board is all you need.  I have mild depression and I usually don't realize I'm depressed until I'm coming out of it.  I know it's hard because right now your job is your life, and if you hate your job you hate your life, but try to get excited about life!

Think of all the reasons why you joined: see the world, toughest & strongest, best looking dress uniform.  Start experiencing your surroundings, and try to relax.  Most of the people I know with depression just need to relax.  The problem with depression is you don't want to do anything.  So do the opposite and see how you feel.  You might get back to your bunk and get depressed again, but for the time you were out doing something you probably felt good.

Here's my greatest piece of advice.  Don't make excuses.  Sometimes you get in a funk and you just "want" to feel bad.  But sometimes we make excuses to stay in that funk.  We feel bad and we want the proper recognition of it, and we sometimes unknowingly, expect certain things of certain people.  Without knowing we sometimes decide not to feel better unless someone else does something, and we decide not to feel better until it happens.

I believe depression is very real, but I also believe most people take it beyond the borders.

I hope this helps.

Patricia

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An Unknown Location | 3 weeks, 4 days ago (9 months, 2 weeks after post)

Have a good breakfeast and that will help and then if you live with a friend talk to them about it and that should get you going. And one more thing try energy drink it helps me alot sotimes you only feel better if someone else dose somthing

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