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i feel like im responsible for my friends self destruction.

i know..go tell someone about it..but thats already been done by many people. i just want to know how i can help him. everythings been tried but we’re not getting through to him. i just met him this year and i barely know him..yet lately ive been starting to have feelings for him beyond apperance..like he makes me melt inside..typical. but there are four girls that he knows that hes practically playing with..im one of them. i told him that my best friend Riley likes him and she told him she did then the next day she said she had mixed feelings and i understood but now hes saying that if she doesnt talk o him hell start cutting himself again. hes been cutting constantly for the past few weeks. deep cuts. i cry when i look at them. i cry when he hurts himself in front of me. his wrists are torn up and his chest looks like it’s been attacked by broken glass. well somehow my other best friend chelsea talked him out of it a couple of days ago but he started cutting today. again. and hes telling me he wants to kill himself over and over. and then he tells me that me, riley and chelsea are the whole reasons he cuts himself. i was about 2 go tell the counselor anonymously..but he got called down to the counselor today and they were asking if he cut himself and he said it was his cat. i dont know who else to go to. riley and chelsea are at a loss too. and now im starting to like him and i guess because..well idk

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Sir Urgdu offline Verified User (12 months) Long Term User Shouts: 4 #
Evanston, IL, US | 10 months, 1 week ago (6 minutes after post)

Its over you? If you’re showering him with love why would he want to hurt himself?

Is your love well known?
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GB | 10 months, 1 week ago (19 minutes after post)

Don’t force people into stopping, it just makes it worse in the long run and makes the person feel guilty. Accept that they are struggeling and just say that you are there to listen if he wants to talk. Try not to tell him your too worried because he might get upset that he is getting the attnetion. As for the fact that you like him, if he’s trying to split you and your friends up he’s not worth it. And if you don’t like the fact he cuts himself do you really like him. I doubt he will change overnight.

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