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because most only show their faces online=/

urgh i know what you mean

People are like bank accounts, you can only get as much out of them as there has been deposited. I think that given our self-centered ways most people just don’t have been given enough to be able to give anything back.

You are looking in the wrong places.

you look in the places YOU love to be.

Those people are hard to find because there are SOOOO many things we do and don’t like that it is super tough to find someone who feels the same way about all those things… AND likes to do the same things.

Realize you are not likely to find someone who feels the same way about ALL the things, and likes to do ALL the things you do. That would be boring. What would you teach/show eachother.

Don’t worry about the small stuff, just be sure the CORE, super important, you must believe the same way as I do, stuff is thought of the same way by the other person.

And again, just go out and do what YOU like, and get involved in what is important to you. You’ll find like minded people there, and maybe “the one”

well i must agree with the post good ppl are hard to find cause most ppl now a days are self centered and stuff and fake ,, well i got use to it that ppl are self centered and stuff… in this life i have learned that with wise ppl i can talk with wise words , with kids i must talk childish so they can understand me … btw goodluck :)

because we dont search for them hard enough!

princessclaire wrote:
because we dont search for them hard enough!

trust me this is not the case :P it’s more like luck to meet a good person then really searching :)

Just be the good person that that other good person out there is looking for?

Why do you think that?

I dont know how you can find a nice person, other than to look for the good in others and yourself, build on this if it’s posible.
It takes a lot of working on yourself, to making you, what you think of as nice to start with. No-one, as far as I can see, is purely nice all of the time. So forgiving must be a part of it. Some people are more able to do this than others.

When you have found it in yourself, you will be able to see it in others, When you see it in others, share it and let it grow. The more you grow with being nice, the more you can share it with others. I think it is a two way traffic, you wont find it if you cant give it.

A lot of people use and abuse other peoples niceness, this unfortunately can make you react in a way that is like theirs. They are the ones that you have to learn to walk away from. You can still try to do your best to help them but dont let them turn you away from being nice to yourself and others arround you.

All that just to say you need to search for it.

Thep makes some very good points. It is true that in order to see the good in others you must first be brave enough to show goodness to the world. There are many good people in the world. Everyone has good in them, but too often the harshness of the world has made them scared to show it. People will often let their guard down once they have seen you do it first, so my guess is that if you are finding it hard to connect with people it is because you have very thick walls. Remember we are all just human after all, and like Court said we are not perfect, but we are innately good.
I suggest volunteering to meet some good people. People who volunteer for a good cause usually are not guarded and it is so easy to connect over a mutual cause that you are passionate about.

usually find good people when your not looking for them

y do u say that?

RAWR wrote:
usually find good people when your not looking for them

I use to believe this, but it is not so true. I think when you truly want something you need to make steps to make it happen. I have tried that not looking philosophy; trust me it does not work.

what i mean is . . that often you cant see the good in a person until you look for it

princessclaire wrote:
what i mean is . . that often you cant see the good in a person until you look for it

Maybe its just your perspective. I see the good in people, I dont usually have to actively look for it.

i no what u mean,,,, because you only have one true love….

people try and be someone they are not I do not now why because It is so easy being your self

they are afraid of what ppl think of their true selvs