friends help: I am friends with a guy that says that if he remarrys, that it will only be to an Italian woman. - Help.com

what does it matter, you said he’s your friend

Are you interested in dating him? Years ago I worked with a guy who was Jewish and felt the same. A group of us were single and would often go out and do things together. One day he sat me down and “broke” up with me and said his family would never accept me because I wasn’t Jewish so before things got to far, it was just best to end things. We were friends but I had no idea he thought there was any more to it.

I’m met guys like this and usually when they say they want to marry a specific type (like you mentioned), it is some times because of family. Maybe try talking to him about what went wrong with his marriage and if he will talk about it, you might get some clues. Or if you have a close enough relationship, why not just ask him how he could be a possibility if you are not Italian. He sounds interested but why set yourself up to get hurt later just because you aren’t Italian.

You simply have to decide..Are you in it for all or nothing?! I married a Greek guy and just being around his people..Being Greek was a huge deal…I think it is all a matter of the individual person. Some guys have had that drilled in their head by their parents to strenghten the bloodline….I firmly believe that if you find someone in this world you love and they love you back…None of the other stuff matters…If he has flat out told you that..Then sorry to be rude,,But to heck with him…He is basically saying, “forget about getting married” And using the Italian thing as a excuse…If you love someone, that would not matter…
Be careful with him..He is sending warning signs and a few red flags..Be clear about what you want and what you are looking for…I am not trying to be rude at all..But life is to short to waste your precious time with someone who cannot return your love to you in the same way you give it…Good luck and be blessed

Then you better get started on getting an Italian passport, eh?

even if he does change his mind he will probably be wishing for an italian woman… i would discount him as a relationship possibility.

if a guy really really loves you, he will want to be with you regardless of his previous “type” or his family preferences, and he won’t say to you that he will “only” date his type, because he would want to be with you. believe me, i know that from personal experience.

i would discount the relatinoship possibility as well if he has it in the back of his mind it will always bug him! although if you have strong feelings for him and you feel he is responsive to you then why not? LOVE overcomes all boundaries