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Maybe you need a new job more along the lines of you true talents where you will be sure to succeed?

Are you only depressed about your work or is it life in general? Sounds like you might want to think about getting a therapist. I also would open up to your friends, if they tell you to pull yourself together, that to me, doesn’t seem very compassionate. After all, everyone goes through tough times in life. True friends are there when the rest of the world is not. The main thing is to love yourself enough to realize you need help.

My experience with the Suicide hotline has been if you are not on the brinks of killing yourself, they will not sit and talk to you, they will give yo a pep talk and send you on your way. However, I am not sure to the degree you are depressed and I am not a therapist,so may be a good idea for a starter or they could give you resources.

Hello there, depression can be very troublesome. It affects you and people around you. But tell me, do you like the job you are at, is it in line with what you like? staying in a job less or more than you are capable of could either make you feel incompetent. And if you need you have to improve, do so…like attending or trainings. Ask your boss for one or two and let people know how this job means to you.

Depression can sometimes be a cause of the feeling of helplessness.Do you get to join outdoor activities like voluntary community projects. That would give you some self fulfillment. Try not to to entertain negative thoughts as they are not going to help you out of anything.

I have been in some depression myself but i manage by the help with my friends. Do you have some of them? actually, i learned that real friends stick with you through thick and thin. They love you whether you got a penny or some dollars in your wallet. They just love you.

Write about these feelings. Do not give up. Things will soon brighten up. And usually they do…when you believe.

Hang in there. :)

what do you enjoy? expand your mind and get involved in learning about things that you find interesting and perhaps even in your work place, take the initiative to talk to your employer if there are any courses that you could take for the job detail.
Employers love “go getters” if your attitude shows that you could take it or leave it, they may have decided that perhaps there is someone else who could be more suited for the job… It doesn’t matter if you make mistakes, taking the time to learn from them, and perfecting what you do speaks volumes, and also the right attitude when you do make a mistake.

Never stop growing your mind, and enjoy what you do.

We all have areas in our lives where we would rather be somewhere else, but if we can make the most of it, so much the better.
In your spare time, perhaps developing your strong attributes and discovering your inner child, or your hidden desires and dreams… save up for a balloon ride, go on a hiking or white water adventure, nothing’s stoping you from succes and enjoyment in life.

You don’t have to make appologies either, just take a deep breath and say to yourself ” I can do this” One way to build confidence is to learn about what you find confusing or disinterested in. I myself was intimidated by cars, but now I know abit about them because I didn’t like people assuming I was a woman, I didn’t know about cars so if there was something wrong with my car… then It was because I was inept because of my social status… I learned what I could, not everything because I still don’t understand everything, but that shows I am well aware of my limits… be confident to say ” I am not sure, I don’t know” and be willing to look it up by saying ” I will check up on that and find out though”

learning within your limits builds confidence and shows you that you are cabable than what you give yourself credit for… all of us have our short comings, so don’t appologize for that stay true to yourself, and try not to sell yourself short, and learn to give yourself a pat on the back once and a while. You have the wearwithall in you… you just have to let it shine.