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i’m failing miserably at graduate school, and am not
really wanting to even try at it any longer as it has been ages since i have reaped the fruits of any of my labors. depression, absolutely. quitting/homelessness, probable. preeminent death, possible?
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Maybe you could talk to your adviser about it
Spring term lighten your load and take classes that you will be really interested in. Talk to your adviser about possibly finding something to keep you motivated.
8 hours of sleep
and dedication (and a firearm to control the crazy people)
Check with a doctor to make sure you do not have any medical problems.
When I was in engineering school I was rewarded for doing a bad job.
I handed in an important technical paper one week past the deadline.
I was surprised to receive a mark one week later of 98%.
The highest mark I’ve ever received in school.
I was also surprised by the professor pointing out to the class
that this was one of the best reports he’d ever seen
and they should look at it.Many of the students were pissed because
I received such a high mark after handing in late.
The professors point of view was that I could not help the fact
that my experiment was a failure. We learn by failure.
in the early days of Nasa. Many of their rockets were blowing up
on launch pad. A newspaper reporter asked someone at Nasa about
all their failures. The Nasa spokesman said “we don’t have failures
we just have partial successes”. Buckminster Fuller said that humanity
has one step forward and 35,000 steps backward. His point was
that the one step forward was so powerful it made up for the 35,000 steps backwards.
How long have you been there and how long have you got to go? I got like this half way through and it was a nightmare. You just get so worn out from studying for so long and knowing you are going to have debts doesn’t help either. You have to talk to your advisor, maybe there is some way you could negotiate some time off. Could you intern at the job you hopefully want to get? That might help you find out if you really want to continue or not. Unfortunately some of these jobs won’t look twice at you if you don’t have the right degree, so you may just have to stick it out and find a way round if you are committed to a certain career. Good luck.
I am in graduate school right now. I’m failing my first course which is a 9 credit course. I feel so stupid. I have the lowest grade in the course. I have not told my friends, family, or more importantly my husband. If I fail out, everyone will know just how unintelligent I am. I will not earn my master’s and will not earn the salary I desire. People will forever know how stupid and incompitent I am. Would you think I am dumb?
I am in graduate school at the moment, on a great project from the National Science Foundation, thing is I didn’t plan it this way. I wanted to go to school for Entomology, I didn’t make it because I didn’t have all the requirements. But I made a good enough impression on the entomology professor that he said that he wanted me on the project, so I should go for my master’s in CSE since I have my bachelor’s in computer science. Interestingly I am a CSE master’s student but I guess I was missing some core requirements for most graduate CS degrees. I had very little math in undergrad(Trig only). I found out that my research was going to primarily be Pattern Recognition, which is an electrical engineering discipline. It’s extremely heavy in math, I even was enrolled in graduate level Pattern Recogntion in which I got a C. This of course doesn’t fly in graduate school. I have this semester to get my GPA up .2 points which isn’t so bad only, I am once again in classes that I do not have the prerequisites for. Its killing me and I am preparing for life after failing graduate school, its been 3 agonizing quarters. I want to succeed but no matter how hard I work I just seem to get just below the needed grade. I totally understand the notions of feeling dumn, I feel like an idiot most of the time. I was out of school for 2 years and worked as a web developer before coming back to school. Its amazing how much you forget. As you can see I constantly try to make excuses for myself why I am failing. I guess its just hard to accept. But I really feel looking at the positives is important, because even if we do fail. We have learned alot, and what it means to work your *** off! I totally understand the feelling though, because I think the same thing, my family, friends etc will all know that I failed in graduate school. Its really an embarassing thing to think about!
i am a failure too i am scared i will be homeless because n one wants to accept me.
It is sad to say, but it is comforting that so many of us are experiencing the same anxiety… meaning we are not alone in this. I am a first year graduate student, and I feel like in between all of my studying and struggling to pay the bills I am doing nothing else other than crying. I keep getting grades back that are considerably lower than the average in the class. In the past, I would earn A’s and B’s with no question. Now I am struggling to get a C? I think the only advice one can give is that we need to keep with it until we get kicked out. Let’s not give up, because that is what will make us a failure. Success is measured by our attitudes. Let’s get one thing right: we belong here.
I am going for my second masters degree. In school administration and let me tell you I have not taken a day off to just chill esp. since I teach too. Life is crazy.
The worst thing is to get less than 8 hours of sleep and then go teach. I can’t stand it!! But, i am getting this masters for free so I am just tring to stick this out. I never know when I may need this degree! But, it is just endless hours I feel like I am loosing my mind someimes.
Don’t kill yourself. Are you trying your best? I find that in grad school, you cannot have ANY distractions whatsoever or then you are screwed if you can’t unfocus on it. Maybe the program is not for you. Make sure you stay on top of your syllabus by all means!!!!
I just found out I failed my stats class at graduate level. I read all the ****, did all the work…………….only to fail. It’s ********. The teacher was horrible at teaching, and she was a total nazi. I want to poop on her car and carve **** off in her car next to the flamming terd, but I wont cause we can’t give up. There are stupid ******* obsticals on this planet that retarded people put there to challenge us and make sure we are on top of things. I have never failed a ******* thing before in my life and now this!! This is a devistating for me and I cannot belive that this has happened to me…………my ‘perfect life’ has a crack in it and has been damaged permantely, but the scar will be a reminder of what I have accomplished when I graduate and I am able to find that hookers house and **** on her car…..or her door step, and not get kicked out of school.
I’m afraid I might have flunked out only after one semester in graduate school too :-( Sounds like a lot of people are on this boat.
me too. I flunked in 3rd semester and was kicked out of univ. now working in univ itself as a researcher. Life just treats u very bad sometimes.
I am so depressed. I’m not contemplating suicide. I know I would never do it. but I wish I could get into an accident and die. at least I wouldn’t face my failure. If I don’t make it now, there’s no way I can return. I have too much dead and little prospect of making a fair wage.
The first taste of failure can be extremely devastating. After graduating in the top ranks of a top department in a top university, I found myself at the bottom. Outside of school, for personal matters I suffered a severe depression and found myself giving less than my all to subjects that once mattered so much to me. True, I worked very hard as a TA, but I did feel strong and persistent suicidal ideations.
What I would like to see is people who do not let a poor grade decide their worth and fling them off the path that is in their heart. People who have a life outside of graduate school to keep them in a reality check. Look at the list of failures in Lincoln’s life. Success goes to the diligent, not neccesarily the intelligent.
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