My dad
I don’t know how I’m gonna keep going, but I know I will just so he’ll be proud of me. My dad died of a heart attack at 1 am this morning. I saw him yesterday in hospital after he had major surgery the day before. He looked so much better than I had thought he would, even though he was tired and drained he was talking to me, and behind those tired eyes my father who I truly loved was all there giving me a little smile and laughing at our silly jokes. I’ll always treasure the fact that I got to see him one last time and tell him I loved him before he died. It’s so hard cause I went to sleep thinking the future for him and my mother was finally beginning to looking so bright, daring to dream he might recover, only to wake up to the sound of my mothers tears. The only thing keeping me going is looking after her.
This has been the worst month of my life. I’ve never lost any one and now in the space of under 5 weeks Ive lost my girlfriend who i’d lived with for two years and now my father and best friend. I’m not gonna go off the rails though, for him I’ll be stong and look after my ma, its all he would ever have wanted from me. R.I.P Michael John Williams
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Cheers.
Life is truly happiness,
and death is truly life.
I am so sorry. I’ll pray for you.
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Do you have family/friends that will be there for you and your mom during this time?
That’s good. Do you have extended family or other friends who can support you during this time? I wish there was something we could do for you…
Not really atm its just us three pulling together, ive tried calling my aunty but shes not picking up, theres my dads step dad and brothers too but my dad hadnt talked to them in years, i’ll call them all in the morning.
What time is it there?
your doing plenty, see every ones gone to bed n i just need to write this down, it helps to have people to talk to. Its 5 am
So your dad just died 4 hours ago?
Seems a bit sad to be on here so soon, but ive done all the crying I can for now, n i don’t want to wake ppl up with phone calls, its a small house and i’d feel awful if i disturbed my mum while shes trying to get some rest.
If you lived around here I would arrange with some people at my church to bring you guys supper everyday for the next few weeks. We do that kind of thing… I’m sorry that I can’t do that for you. I guess the world just isn’t really as small as it seems.
“its a small world but i wouldnt want to paint it” My mothers a jehovahs witness and they seem to take care of her very well, hopefully they will do something like tht for her.
im sorry this happen to you,good luck
All I can offer you are my prayers and to share with you my Jesus who is all I live for. But I don’t want to preach to you or anything and if you would rather I didn’t then I won’t but I don’t really know what else to say.
i’ll pray for you too
do not go sudle
Lord, I pray for Joel right now that you would comfort him and his family. May they feel you near to them at this time and may they have the peace beyond understanding that you alone can give. Please provide them with all the support that they need. Thank you Lord that Joel got to see his dad one last time and tell him that he loves him. We know that even the worst things that come in life, you God can turn them around and bring some good out of the situation. Lord we ask that you would do that now. That you would strengthen this family and bring blessings to them. Amen.
Amen
Hey. I am so sorry to hear about your loss but it is truly inspiring to see your attidude stay as positive as it can be. Stay strong. I am sure your strength at this time is a crutch for your mom when she needs you the most and makes your father so proud of the man he helped to raise.
We don’t know eachother but thank you for reminding me how short and delicate life is and that we need to appreciate every moment we get.
Remember the good things. The smiles. And the laughs.
That’s what he’d want, I’m sure..
Sending you a big hug, love, and prayers.
God bless.
Thank you all very much, I’ve been gone for abit cos my mother bless her couldn’t sleep and I wanted to make sure she wasn’t alone. Gave her a sleeping pil so she could get some rest. Youv’e all been so kind.
Anything I say would be trite. My deepest sympathy.
I’m sorry Joel about your loss, I hope you’ll feel better soon
I wish I could do something to lessen your sadness and make you feel ok for even few moments
Just don’t loose hope in life, your dad wanted you to be happy, and you still have your sisters and mom to live life together …..
I’m so sorry about your father, He must have been a really good man from what ive read. Hope you feel better soon
Sorry. This month I guess is the month of sorrow. But it’s nice that you were able to spend time together before the end. Every day I guess is special in it’s own way. Time is too fleeting, the days we want, go to fast, and the days we would rather not have, tend to stick around. Right now getting it all out and looking after your mum is the best thing posible. You need to be strong for her.
what happend with you and your friend?
im so sorry about your dad.
i’ll pray for him.
Dude that is sad. thanx for helpin gme with my problem.
Friend? Sorry don’t remember which one I said, but thank you and your wellcome.
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My dad
I dont know how I’m gonna keep going, but I know I will just so he’ll be proud of me. My dad died of a heart attack at 1 am this morning. I saw him yesterday in hospital after he had major surgery the day before. He looked so much better than I had thought he would, even though he was tired and drained he was talking to me, and behind those tired eyes my father who I truly loved was all there giving me a little smile and laughing at our silly jokes. I’ll always treasure the fact that I got to see him one last time and tell him I loved him before he deid. Its so hard cos I went to sleep thinking the future for him and my mother was finally begining to looking so bright, daring to dream he might recover, only to wake up to the sound of my mothers tears. The only thing keeping me going is looking after her.
This has been the worst month of my life. Ive never lost any one and now in the space of under 5 weeks Ive lost my girlfriend who i’d lived with for two years and now my father and best friend. I’m not gonna go off the rails though, for him i’ll be stong and look after my ma, its all he would ever have wanted from me. R.I.P Michael John Williams
your dad would be proud of you for being so strong
il pray for you and your family
keep being strong, especially for your mum
it just shows us that life is too short and we should live everyday as if it were our last
god bless you+your mum
Man i am sorry to hear.. I think your handling this the right way.. To lose your gf and to lose your father.. But i suppose my correctly in this life we are not meant to last. We live the days we live but then when our number is called we go.. So many people dont understand how short life really is.. Make the most of what you have, appreciate the people who are there for you.. Pray that one day God will be waiting for you on the other side.
I admire your courage and steadfast standing
You still have your mother, and your mother still has you. Be grateful for what you have, be glad you had what you did in the past..
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