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i know this may sound wrong but why do you have to tell them?
1) How old are you?
2) You should NOT lie to your doctor.
3) You could have your mom not go in with you?
usually they ask your parent to step out of thee room so you will tell the truth and they cant say anything because of doctor patient confidentiality
just tell her that you want to go in by yourself… your a big girl now =]
I agree, tell your mom that your going in alone, then tell the doctor that. The doctor will support you.
you will need to talk to her about getting on birth control. Condoms DO break.
Sixteen is plenty old enough. Go in yourself. She just loves you and its her instinct to protect you- a good mama - but she does need to give you a little room to grow.
Just be safe, and if you can, let the doctor know you want to go in without her there. He’ll understand.
Are you going to want to get on the Pill? You’d have to tell her then.
Well.. :/ You accepted the responsibility by having sex. Unfortunately you’re going to have to deal with the consequences. I remember when my mom found out. She took it a lot better than I thought she would have. Maybe you’ll be pleasantly surprised?
you don’t exactly have to talk to her about it depending on where you are… there are places who give girls birthcontrol without their parents knowing so they can be protected… are there any planned parenthood clinics or whatever itts called around where you live… its all free too….
im not trying to get you to hide stuff from your parents its just sometimes somethings are better left unsaid… but if you were to get pregnant or something then you should defenantly talk to your rents’
Call Planned parenthood. Maybe you can get yourself on birth control (pills, ring,etc) WITHOUT your mom. To this date, my mom doesn’t know when I started having sex. But don’t take the birth control lightly. Don’t let the guy control it either. Take charge of it yourself. YOU are the one who would be preg after all.
About the physical, what about telling your mom it makes you feel like a little kid with her there, and you’re embarrassed. Maybe suggest a nurse be in there instead (if the dr. is male, she might actually be worried for your safety)
None of her business. If she insists on sitting in, lie to the doctor - the sky will not fall in, and you won’t contract an STD because it doesn’t say “sexually active” in his file.
If you tell a doctor you are having sex, the doctor will insist on a Pap smear and talk to you about birth control. If you are having unprotected sex, the doctor will tell you about STDs and perhaps offer testing. That’s it.
If you don’t want your mom to know, tell them both you are celibate and pure as the driven snow or whatever bs your mom wants to hear, then go to planned parenthood and get yourself the pap test, any other tests, and birth control of your choice.
It sounds like a sneaky move on your mom’s part, if she wants the truth she should ask you directly, not insist on sitting in at the appointment. Deep down, she knows this, but has chosen to put you in a difficult position. My advice: don’t play that game. You discuss your private life on your own terms, in your own good time.
Planned parenthood, by the way, is confidential. They won’t tell your mom.
You know… One’s sex life is… private. Things like sexual behaviors I don’t believe to be things worth sharing with parents.
I can understand your problem, however I don’t know why you would think you NEED to tell your folks. As you age, people are allowed to have private lives.
they all have points you really dont have to take your mom in to the doctor and the doctor wont say anything…but there is the chance that your mom will ask for them to check you to see if youve had sex or not…and also yea condoms break but the pill isnt all that reliable either…so just be prepared for the worse if you wanna continue and also you need to make sure your bf wont leave you…but sooner or later your parents will know at one point or another cuz it cant be hidden forever…so yea hope i helped laterz
book an appointment with a doctor before u go with the appointment wih ur mum and be honest bout the situation. surely they can help. or go in and ask advice where the doctor works.
If you believe you are mature enough and in love enough to be sharing your body physically with a young man — one whom you acknowledge and accept could be the father of the child you are both making — then you are certainly mature enough to respond to a parent who has legal responsibility for you until the age of 18. A mature person will take responsibility for their privacy — as well as other aspects of their live (bills, food, shelter).
If you are comfortable with your decision to allow men to enjoy your body, then you certainly should be comfortable announcing your decision.
If not, then why?
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