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hey i’m sort of your typical teenager.

i know that compared to other problems this is nothing, but please hear me out.
i’m 15, i’m one of those kids who has no real label, although i like heavy music and the like but i dont dress like it. but recently i have had to make a difficult decision. i used to be friends with all the cool people, you know, the “in” crowd. but i found i didn’t belong, i found that i wasn’t invited much to outings and when they go to town,when i found pictures of all my friends together except me on bebo and that made me kind of depressed. so then i started to hang out with another group of people that are slightly emo, but like the same kind of music as me and are really nice to me and after each lunchtime i feel happy, because i spent time with them.i have been invited to outings with them and i’ve been to a gig with them and went into town twice already and am going to one of them’s birthday party. so i finally feel like i fit in. but recently i have found that my old friends have been slagging my new friends off, in class they tend to give me the cold shoulder, i can’t believe that they are the “in” crowd when my new friends really deserve to be up there. when i try and stand up for my new friends my old ones give me wierd looks and tell me to shut up. so the question is do i start really standing up for my friends and shun my old ones? what should i say to them? i know it shouldnt be difficult but i still feel restrained to do anything. thank’s for reading

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floreann offline Verified User (10 months, 1 week) Long Term User Shouts: 0 #
An Undisclosed Location | 10 months, 1 week ago (4 minutes after post)

I’d say stand up for your true friends, the ones who care about you. I know there are times in most people’s lives where they wish someone had stood up for them, I’m no different. Try to explain that your new friends are important to you, and it is disrespectful to your new friends, and to you when they criticize them. Who are they to judge anyway? True friends are more important than most other things in this life. If you value them, make sure they know it.

samos offline Verified User (1 year) Long Term User Shouts: 0 #
An Unknown Location | 10 months, 1 week ago (8 minutes after post)

yea thanks alot, most of it’s just bravery really, summoning up the courage to stand up to them.

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Deimos offline Verified User (10 months, 1 week) Long Term User Shouts: 2 #
An Undisclosed Location | 10 months, 1 week ago (23 minutes after post)

Don’t participate in the slacktalking, but stand tall in the middle of this in a non-judgemental way.

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Sodapop offline Verified User (10 months, 1 week) Long Term User Shouts: 2 #
An Undisclosed Location | 10 months, 1 week ago (25 minutes after post)

if your old friend are disrespecting your new ones, then they’re probably not your real friends. I’ve been in a similar situation…hang out with the people you feel most comfortable with and that you can be yourself. if someone has a problem with that, then let them; they are insecure, and probably jealous of you and your new situation. :) dont worry about them, they’ll get over it and move on.

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love_lost offline Verified User (1 year, 2 months) Long Term User Shouts: 1 #
An Undisclosed Location | 10 months, 1 week ago (3 hours, 9 minutes after post)

i like ur icon pic!! i like them too!!
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love_lost offline Verified User (1 year, 2 months) Long Term User Shouts: 1 #
An Undisclosed Location | 10 months, 1 week ago (3 hours, 9 minutes after post)

i agree with soda

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quizzie offline Verified User (2 years, 1 month) Long Term User Shouts: 3 #
Longwood, FL, US | 10 months, 1 week ago (4 hours, 30 minutes after post)

if they werent involving u. then they werent your friends. it happened to me, i shunned the old “friends” and found a new group of “emos”. im the happiest i have been in a long time.

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Little Miss Enigma offline Verified User (11 months, 4 weeks) Long Term User Shouts: 5 #
Las Vegas, NV, US | 10 months, 1 week ago (6 hours, 29 minutes after post)

first they didn’t sound like friends anyway! But if you are hanging with another group and your happy then stck with them! Don’t worry about the old group if they are giving you the cold shoulder do the same to them! It may sound a little mean but what goes around comes around! It is all about you being happy!

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samos offline Verified User (1 year) Long Term User Shouts: 0 #
An Unknown Location | 10 months ago (1 day, 3 hours after post)

thanks everyone for your input, i really apreciate it

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Little Miss Enigma offline Verified User (11 months, 4 weeks) Long Term User Shouts: 5 #
Las Vegas, NV, US | 10 months ago (1 day, 10 hours after post)

No problem! we are here to help!

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