Love help: I dunno how to ask this but yet again i need help with my relationship. - Help.com

I like the poem. It’s sweet.

I don’t know what to suggest. Can you ever meet her in real life? Where do you see this relationship going?

Does she feel the same? If you both feel that way you should stick it through. This world is so messed up it really is best to have a soul mate to go through it with.

Maybe back off a little on the rining and txting if she seems annoyed. There is such a thing as too much of a good thing. Even couples in love need to have some separate interests and other friends. That keeps the relationship healthy.

I know exactly how you feel monkey, my last relationship was semi long distance but she never really put much effort into it and i kept on trying and giving her chances and struggling to make it work but in the end it wasn’t ment to be.. but every relationship has its up and downs, my parents have been married for 20 years and they fight some times but look how long they have lasted.. I guess what i’m saying is just try to make it work but make sure she’s trying also and so you’re not the only person doing the loving.. if you can make sense of all this..

I think you should tale some time to yourself and think about what you want, if she wants to be with you she’ll message you or something.. not that i’m telling you what to do..

I think she’ll understand..

im going thru the exact thing….try reading my post….i feel so depressed and i just dont know what to tell you…right now im trying to give my boy friend a bit of space…which could work both ways…buts he doesnt prefer that…try reading my post and the responses maybe it could help you…

I guess it depends how much time you really spend speaking to her dear. Just remember she fell in love with a guy who has outside interests as well. Give it a bit of slack and try and sort your side of the world out. If it was meant to be she will not dissappear over night. Ill keep thumbs for you both because there is nothing like having somebody who cares. Amy

Hi there mate,

Here is some advise, I really hope you take up on. All woman like a challenge, they do not always admit to this as they don’t know it. It is in their DNA. Just go back to any relationship you had with woman and you will find that the reason that she was attracted to you was because you came across as a ‘price’. Looks on a guy can be important, but beleive me if you are a confident man you will not fail. Try not to come across to needy, poems and loving words are nice, but if she has it all, what is she going to look forward to having?. Do you see my point,make it a challenge, let her win you back.
Let me know if you need more tips, but try this one out. No woman likes needy, dependant guys. It is just not attractive for them.

It is not a surprise because many people are having the same kind of relationship. Truly, communication should begin from both parties and it feels like hell when one does not feel the same depth the other one is feeling. If distance is difficult to deal with in a relationship, how much more when language is involved. English is also not my mother tongue. And my partner lives oceans away from me. If i was in your girl’s shoes, i would also have a double difficulty dealing with it.

Maybe your girl thinks that she feels helpless not being able to make you happy because you have these worries. As much as you want to hold you and make you feel better but she could not. And she feels that he words are not efficient to get light hearted with things. As a result, she feels down and feels useless.

Try not to concentrate too much with your girl. Sometimes she needs to see that you are in control. And that if you’d get together and end up together you could be the leader of the pack.

Take control over your health. In order not to lose some sleep you can sleep in the morning and be up when she is online. But remember not to sacrifice too much or you’ll end up feeling lousy.

A man needs to gain his power even just a bit. You will need it.

:) Keep us posted.

To gain power: practice self confidence. Be self assured that you could do things and make them work, develop a positive attitude. Most of the time, guys like to measure their power through financial aspects or career moves. Search for trainings or seminars that would help you widen your horizon on which job to take inline with your major or field of interest. That way you would have better fulfillment. Thus, would make you less stressed. Because most men when stressed are could not deal with emotions. They tend to escape and feel isolated.

To come less needy: when you have identified your own strengths at work, social life, and emotional capacity, you would get the same self assurance that would help you make it through. Having friends in real life would help, having a hobby, develop a sport or other interest aside from your girl could develop independence.

How do you trust after having been cheated before: wow this sounds very familiar. Any relationship is with no assurance. Therefore, make sure the person gives the same amount of attention you are giving her. Not necessarily clinging to you totally because love is all about give and take. Long distance relationships require more trust than the usual face to face relationship because more than a 100% percent is needed. BUT, communication makes it all possible. When the feeling is reciprocated, when the other person does her job to make you happy, and being listened to, i don’t think you’d have a very big problem.

What Do ladies look in a guy: We are talking about ladies coming from different culture, religion and environment. Which means every woman has different things to consider in a relationship. Therefore, it is important for a guy to know what this particular lady expect of him when they are inlove. Does she expect him to be independent or would show too much attention? Does she want you to call her to hear your voice or she is happier when she gets mails. Does she want to be pampered and treated like a queen? or she wants to practice independence herself.

All in all, it takes a lot of time to get to know the person before knowing what you both want in the relationship. All the above, are just my opinion based in my observation in my tiny world. :)

Thank you for appreciating my thoughts. Most of the time, I don’t think I am good at giving one. My words do not match and my spelling sucks! and you know, i see the whole thing wrong when i have sent a reply and i cannot even edit it. gggrrr! :)

But you know, i do wish i can hear you laugh. ( i mean with the smilies and stuff in your post). You seem to be a nice person, respectful and polite in your post. You deserve to have friends, i even think some people are just waiting to befriend you, all you need to do is to reach out to them.

Have you tried volunteering at Red Cross? you’d get to meet people and you can get some fulfillment on it and other voluntary works.

Well, i have said too much in this post and you don’t want to see my name the whole time, so you see I talk a lot! lol

Have some laughing time will you? SMILE! you will look a LOOOTTT better!

Hugs! :)

WOW really?!! that is sooooo nice! what a good news you have there!!!

Quotable! very good realization! :) now the next step is…. trying to get yourself a life! Let me know how you are going to do about it. Then we’ll see how it goes.