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In desperate need of help!

My best friend just told me that she is bisexual and likes another girl but neither of us have any experience in this area and I am looking for advice on her behalf on how to approach this looming situation. Any tips, ideas, or solutions would be greatly appreciated.

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NothingMore offline Verified User (1 year, 9 months) Long Term User Shouts: 4 #
Biggs, CA, US | 1 year, 8 months ago (1 minute after post)

Just be respectful of her choice. Don’t make her feel weird. Just try to be ok with it.

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1 year, 8 months ago (2 minutes after post)

Thats not the problem. She doesn’t know how to talk to the girl she likes.

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NothingMore offline Verified User (1 year, 9 months) Long Term User Shouts: 4 #
Biggs, CA, US | 1 year, 8 months ago (4 minutes after post)

Oh….well are these girls bi or les too?

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No Name offline Verified User (2 years, 4 months) Long Term User Shouts: 1 #
An Undisclosed Location | 1 year, 8 months ago (4 minutes after post)

That’s the problem. She doesn’t know.

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dumbie offline Verified User (2 years, 1 month) Long Term User Shouts: 6 #
US | 1 year, 8 months ago (14 minutes after post)

First off, it’s good she has the support of a friend like you :)
Does she talk to this girl/have classes with her?

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No Name offline Verified User (2 years, 4 months) Long Term User Shouts: 1 #
An Undisclosed Location | 1 year, 8 months ago (16 minutes after post)

I don’t think so. She said that she was walking by her and then tripped (obviously) making a (fool?) out of herself.

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Little Miss Enigma offline Verified User (1 year, 10 months) Long Term User Shouts: 8 #
Las Vegas, NV, US | 1 year, 8 months ago (31 minutes after post)

well I think that she needs to have someone faithful like you go and just make small talk with this girl and then casually ask if she is bi/les and if she is she is and if she’s not she’s not!

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UCreateUrReality offline Verified User (2 years, 4 months) Long Term User Shouts: 4 #
Atlanta, GA, US | 1 year, 8 months ago (32 minutes after post)

How old is your friend.. as a gay person, I would say if she’s under 20 just leave it alone and focus on other things for now.. theres no need to force anything

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dumbie offline Verified User (2 years, 1 month) Long Term User Shouts: 6 #
US | 1 year, 8 months ago (39 minutes after post)

Well, she has to start small. Get your friend to say hi, or if they have something in common, make small talk out of it. Having a class with the girl would be easiest, because she could be like “Hey, could you help me with this?” or “what’s for homework?”, ect.

Don’t creep the other girl out, though. Your friend has to find out if she’s homophobic or not. She should hint towards it.

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No Name offline Verified User (2 years, 4 months) Long Term User Shouts: 1 #
An Undisclosed Location | 1 year, 8 months ago (40 minutes after post)

ok thanks smarty. lol

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dumbie offline Verified User (2 years, 1 month) Long Term User Shouts: 6 #
US | 1 year, 8 months ago (41 minutes after post)

hahahah :)

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