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Hey this girl ive been with for 3 years, says she wants some space.

we wanted to get married and everything, but we had our problems and she wanted to see other people to make sure that she really wanted to be with me. she hangs out with this one guy shes says they dont fit and whatever but i dont no if she is just leading me on or lieing to me. She tells me if they had kissed and everything so she says she dont lie to me. I want to be with her more then anything in the world. Do girls do this alot when they feel like there gonna make the big marriage commitment. i mean we did have our problems but who dosent. every time there together i feel like i cant control myself. i just want to go overthere and take her away, but i cant because she wants space and i want to respect her wishes. i dont no what to do im sad all the time and i cant eat or sleep and when i talk to her about it shes says she cant deal with the pressure even tho im dying inside, can anyone tell me if this is normal for girls. and i made an appointment for the doctor cuz i feel like i cant rely on my self so maby talkng to a professioal will help. thaks for any of the help

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jcd offline Verified User (2 years, 2 months) Long Term User Shouts: 1 #
An Unknown Location | 1 year, 9 months ago (4 minutes after post)

If I had a girlfriend that did and said those things, I would dump her. You don’t need to see other people to know if you want to be with someone. That’s BS. I think she is just stringing you along just incase the other guy doesn’t work out. But that’s just my opinion.

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angelfly offline Verified User (1 year, 9 months) Long Term User Shouts: 2 #
An Undisclosed Location | 1 year, 9 months ago (10 minutes after post)

i told my husband that i needed some space when we first started dating, but he wanted to see me every day from the start. and that is before i fell in love with him. when we first starting dating i was single so i was going on dates with several men, but when i realized that i wanted to be with my husband, i stopped seeing all of the other men and i told him that he was my first priority in terms of men. this process didn’t take more than a few months. at that point he was my boyfriend and we moved ahead from there. i think that most women will stop seeing other people if they are really serious about a guy and ready to commit to him.

it definitely doesn’t sound like she is ready for marriage, and whether or not she returns your feelings is questionable.

what does your gut feeling tell you about how she feels about you? listen to it.

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Brighton, P6, GB | 1 year, 9 months ago (13 hours, 17 minutes after post)

i dunno, i have a friend that was with this girl for 5 years but everytime a certian sum1 came back from Uni she wanted a break. It kept happening and he everntually dumped her.

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Destrehan, LA, US | 1 year, 8 months ago (2 days after post)

thanks for the advice, do yall think i should just let her be and dont pressure her and call her constantly or do you think i should just act like nothin bothers me and make her think i dont need her

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An Unknown Location | 1 year, 8 months ago (2 days, 20 hours after post)

I think you should just move on and find someone else. Someone who will treat you with more respect.

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Brighton, P6, GB | 1 year, 8 months ago (5 days, 16 hours after post)

jcd wrote:
I think you should just move on and find someone else. Someone who will treat you with more respect.

I can second that!

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