Love help: how can you tell if you are in love?

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how can you tell if you are in love?

i am a 21 male in college. i am in a poetry class and the teacher after class said that she hadn’t had a chance to read my most recent poem and she asked me if i would go get food with her. so we did and we discussed my poem but we chatted for over an hour mostly not about poetry.

i felt chemistry. i know you are going to say that it is dumb but i do have crush but is it more? she isn’t that much older than me, just a grad student but she is an intellectual and beautiful!

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NothingMore 4 #
Biggs, CA, US | 1 year, 8 months ago (3 minutes after post)

You might just be good friends. You can get good chemistry with griends. You might fall in love with her but you need to take it slow and see what happens. Take time to build a friendship first.

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Anonymous #
1 year, 8 months ago (5 minutes after post)

she talks extremely casual with me. like she has mentioned a few guys that she has dated putting this idea in my head in the first place. i don’t know, i just want to be with her. she is korean and she is beautiful and so nice and easy to get along with. like i said, i just want to be with her so i have no idea what to do, or not do…

thanks for the reply

NothingMore 4 #
Biggs, CA, US | 1 year, 8 months ago (7 minutes after post)

Just try to stick to being friends for right now if she is a teacher of yours. Just an idea.

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Anonymous #
1 year, 8 months ago (7 minutes after post)

and by the way. i am totally the kind of guy to just come out and say i love you and be awkward as i don’t care about embarrassment or anything. i swear i almost told her during lunch.

NothingMore 4 #
Biggs, CA, US | 1 year, 8 months ago (9 minutes after post)

Oh…ummm…thats hard. I don’t know what to say to that.

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drama queen=]] 0 #
Bowling Green, KY, US | 1 year, 8 months ago (10 minutes after post)

dude..you probably are in love with her.. there is no signal to tell you whether or not you are in love. you will know when you are in love..if you do have a crush on her, talk to her more often and invite her to dinner or something. then see what happens from there.

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Anonymous #
1 year, 8 months ago (10 minutes after post)

not that i want to if it would get me nowhere however…

Anonymous #
1 year, 8 months ago (11 minutes after post)

thanks for the reply marisa. yes i could invite her to something more intimate. if she rejects than ill know where i stand right away. good idea thank you.

The Astro-Man 1 #
An Undisclosed Location | 1 year, 8 months ago (55 minutes after post)

To answer your initial question, the minute you know you are really in love is when you decide to love her for the rest of your life.

Love is not just a feeling. Emotions play but a small part in true love. Love is a decision and a commitment. What you’ve got is infatuation, which is not a bad thing at all! Infatuation will always precede love, but it’s important to understand the distinction between the two.

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Anonymous #
1 year, 8 months ago (1 hour, 13 minutes after post)

thanks astro-man. i just want to be with her so i think i shall do my best. good luck friend!

i think i love her

Catty_Sue 1 #
Perth, 08, AU | 1 year, 8 months ago (4 hours, 9 minutes after post)

You know you’re in love when someone loves you back….

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behzad 1 #
Jannatabad, 26, IR | 1 year, 8 months ago (7 hours, 12 minutes after post)

I think you should ask your self ‘are you really fall in love?’ or you feel something else. If you really fall in it doesn’t matter she’s older than you. but don’t forget this that she should fall in your love too!

Nensix 1 #
Nottingham, J8, GB | 1 year, 8 months ago (8 hours, 20 minutes after post)

If you’re in love you don’t need to ask the question ‘how do you tell if you’re in love?’

Sounds like you’ve pulled a teacher though. Congrats.

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Nothing & No1 1 #
Boston, MA, US | 1 year, 8 months ago (12 hours, 26 minutes after post)

No that’s def not love. Love is unconditional. Seems like you haven’t had a chance to see her flaws. You might just have a crush

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Ashburn, VA, US | 1 year, 8 months ago (14 hours, 3 minutes after post)

All you do is think about them . you cant sleep some time . you text are call them all the time . and you cant go a day not see them . if you dont talk to them all day you get mad . you tell ever1 about them you talk a bout them all the time .

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drama queen=]] 0 #
Bowling Green, KY, US | 1 year, 8 months ago (1 day, 21 hours after post)

Anonymous wrote:
thanks for the reply marisa. yes i could invite her to something more intimate. if she rejects than ill know where i stand right away. good idea thank you.

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