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So theres this guy…

I’m in college, and he lives in the dorm next to me. We have a large lecture together, and since we live next door and we’re going to the same place, sometimes we end up walking together, but not “together.” The other day, I approached him and asked jokingly “are we going to the same place” and then we talked the whole rest of the way. Before I talked to him, I was always physically attracted to him, but after taking to him , I realized it could be much more than that. We have very similar interests from music to sports. Music similarities are very important to me, so I have feeling this is why I can NOT get this kid out of my mind for the life of me. I always see him at the gym too. basically, i want to get to know this kid, but I don’t know how to go about it without seeming desperate or needy. I never get like this with anyone, especially someone i don’t know, but i get butterflies when I talk about him.
Any suggestions that could help me get to know this kid?

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tallulah offline Verified User (1 year, 9 months) Long Term User Shouts: 2 #
An Undisclosed Location | 1 year, 8 months ago (7 minutes after post)

Carry on as you are doing for the meantime. After you have bumped into eachother a few thimes you will know eachother well enough to go over and say Hi if you spot him at say, the gym. I think the secret with this is not to rush it or come on too strong - after all he lives right next to you so he isn’t going anywhere!

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Zoeangel2 offline Verified User (1 year, 8 months) Long Term User Shouts: 0 #
US | 1 year, 8 months ago (14 minutes after post)

Just be youself. Keep being his friend for now. Maybe a little later on you can think about a relationship but for now, just try and be a friend.

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Ripe, E2, GB | 1 year, 8 months ago (16 minutes after post)

i think you should take it easy after all you dont want this boy you like to think your a stalker, suggest you study together if possible and try to get to know him on a friend basis first, it should become easy to see if he feels the same way by hopefully wanting to spend more time chatting or studying with you,but as xljx says he isnt goinh anywhere.

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sublimesurfer89 offline Unverified User #
Fort Pierce, FL, US | 1 year, 8 months ago (17 minutes after post)

Yeah thats what im trying to do. As crazy as it sounds, I feel like im being draw to this kid. And I nEVER get like this!!! :-(
We talk on facebook and stuff about our class. I’ve realized how much we have in common, but i dont know for sure if he has…

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Ripe, E2, GB | 1 year, 8 months ago (19 minutes after post)

do you know if this lad is already seeing someone?

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sublimesurfer89 offline Unverified User #
Fort Pierce, FL, US | 1 year, 8 months ago (22 minutes after post)

no he is single

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Ripe, E2, GB | 1 year, 8 months ago (26 minutes after post)

well im relieved of that, maybe you could suggest you both go for a drink after classes have finished to discuss that days class, just try not to make it seem like your to into to him as it might scare him off a little if he is interested in you, which i hope he is .

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sublimesurfer89 offline Unverified User #
Fort Pierce, FL, US | 1 year, 8 months ago (28 minutes after post)

haha i hope he is too. We’re on spring break now, should I ask him how his break has been? to start a conversation possibly?

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tinkerbell offline Verified User (1 year, 8 months) Long Term User Shouts: 0 #
Ripe, E2, GB | 1 year, 8 months ago (38 minutes after post)

i think that would be a good conversation starter, but try not to let your heart rule your head, good luck xx

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