Love help: I can’t decide…to go for it or not.

so_sienzz

I can’t decide…

to go for it or not.

I was bored in college, and i just randomly came up to this guy(let’s call him H), whom seems like a really nice guy, and i asked him if he wanted to play pool with me. after a few rounds, we chatted for awhile and gave him my email. that was the last i saw of him until after the semester break.

before the beginning of the new semester, someone added me in msn, and it was the guy’s best friend(let’s call him M) who i played pool with. he told me that H has been trying to contact me this whole time and that he finally found my email. M told me that H really like me and that he’s been talking about me ever since that fateful day.

hard to believe, i know. then i started chatting with H, and true enough, he confessed his feelings but i was puzzled cause i barely even know him, so i had to refuse. But we still kept chatting and texting, getting to know each other better first, and soon enough, i think he’s really a nice guy. we have almost the same taste in music, great sense of humour, speaks fluent english, *cute*, and…ladidadida.. but i cant help but feel afraid to start a new relationship.

i’ve been through 2 relationships, and i’ve learnt alot about relationships through the hard way. i dont want to get hurt again for the 3rd time, or maybe even hurt him. but M claims that H says that im so perfect in many ways. and that he’s hoping i’ll give him a chance.

and here’s another issue that im worried about. he’s from saudi/sri lanka and im chinese. im worried that if im going for a long term with him, my family might not oblige or find it weird. M has been pestering me (lol) and telling me that i should go for it and that i should give him a chance.

i’ve only told a few close friends about him, and they said i should try it too. but i only know him about…less than a month now! and i dont want to ruin this relationship by rushing into it! what if it doesnt work out right? then we’re both screwed. i do like him..but i just can’t decide. help!

PS sorry for my grammar mistakes and punctuation. and for the looooong read. thanks to anyone who dropped by to give me a hand.

-peace out-

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More Than A Feeling 0 #
Jacksonville, FL, US | 1 year, 8 months ago (8 minutes after post)

Go for it. There’s not really much else to be said, but go for it. Life is simply too short, so take a chance. Good luck.

Help me with: So, my best friend, unbeknownst to me, used me in a lie.

Falling Up 6 #
Makurdi, 26, NG | 1 year, 8 months ago (9 minutes after post)

come on now, dont pass up what you know you want. people get hurt relationships. do want to be alone and depressed are do want to risk a little heartache for love?

Help me with: okay i think i jus figured it out.

so_sienzz 0 #
An Unknown Location | 1 year, 8 months ago (21 minutes after post)

i guess so.. i’ll think about it when the time’s right. but, im not sure if i should ever tell my family about him. plus, i dont want to disappoint them, by being in a relationship instead of getting good grades in college.

-peace out-

Help me with: Culture shock for my parents?

Rahat Lokum 6 #
An Undisclosed Location | 1 year, 8 months ago (48 minutes after post)

I don’t understand what another guy M is doing there? Something strange.

so_sienzz 0 #
An Unknown Location | 1 year, 8 months ago (52 minutes after post)

haha..well M is H’s best friend. that time when i onlined, M was the first to manage to contact me through msn and H wasn’t online at that time yet.

-peace out-

Help me with: Culture shock for my parents?

Rahat Lokum 6 #
An Undisclosed Location | 1 year, 8 months ago (1 hour, 5 minutes after post)

That still seems strange. But it’s like you M is some kind of a messenger between you two, why wouldn’t he mind his own business. Or is it because H is too indecisive.
Anyway I suggest not to hurry, see more what they do.

so_sienzz 0 #
An Unknown Location | 1 year, 8 months ago (1 hour, 9 minutes after post)

M and H are really close, M just doesn’t want to see H hurt because he’s been through alot. and they’re both almost like brothers. i can tell that they’re really close from their conversations. and he keeps rushing me, asking me why don’t i want to go for it.

yeah, i’ll probably accept him, but maybe later.

-peace out-

Help me with: Culture shock for my parents?

Rahat Lokum 6 #
An Undisclosed Location | 1 year, 8 months ago (1 hour, 15 minutes after post)

Ok then, good luck.

model_maker 0 #
An Unknown Location | 11 months, 2 weeks ago (9 months, 1 week after post)

ATTENTION, PLEASE READ! :P

greetings all! hahaha i dunno why I’m doing this but i just want to let you all know…

I am the boy So_Sienzz is talking about! yup, i was in contact with her for a long time, and we would chat endlessly online. My heart grew more fond of her with every minute i spoke to her. Now, i am happy to say, that we finally took the plunge and have been together for nearly a year. woohoo! It has been the happiest time of my life, and i am thankful everyday that i met her. She is honestly the love of my life.

To answer all the questions above, M was my rock in forming the initial bonds with Sienzz. I am a timid boy by nature, and was much too afraid to talk to her, partly because i was so petrified that i might scare her away. In honesty that might have been the case, but i forced myself to show her who i really was. M, having the notorius label as a “playa” was confident enough to suggest the possibility to sienzz…and thus helped us out a great deal.

I cannot believe the way things have turned out, and i should say “thank you!!!” to those who told her to go for it!

I now believe that love is real, and communication is the foundation that strengthens those emotions. If it wasn’t for our long chats, and careful time in getting to know each other…things might have turned out completely different. I urge all who are pondering the same problems, to TAKE YOUR TIME. Get to know him/her…and allow the feelings to grow inside you before rushing into anything. Sienzz and i were in contact for a month or two before even discussing meeting face to face! but when we did, well…the sparks just ignited cause we were already comfortable with who we were.

i tell you all, taking the risk is well worth the reward…so don’t be afraid to talk to that special someone. I don’t mean run at her saying “i love you!” I mean taaaalk to her…understand her…and be comfortable with her. This is the most important thing in the early stages of any blossoming relationship!

good luck to you, who is captivated by love’s temptations!

ATTENTION, PLEASE READ! :P

greetings all! hahaha i dunno why I'm doing this but i just want to let you all know...

To answer all the questions above, M was my rock in forming the initial bonds with Sienzz. I am a timid boy by nature, and was much too afraid to talk to her, partly because i was so petrified that i might scare her away. In honesty that might have been the case, but i forced myself to show her who i really was. M, having the notorius label as a "playa" was confident enough to suggest the possibility to sienzz...and thus helped us out a great deal.

I cannot believe the way things have turned out, and i should say "thank you!!!" to those who told her to go for it!

I now believe that love is real, and communication is the foundation that strengthens those emotions. If it wasn't for our long chats, and careful time in getting to know each other...things might have turned out completely different. I urge all who are pondering the same problems, to TAKE YOUR TIME. Get to know him/her...and allow the feelings to grow inside you before rushing into anything. Sienzz and i were in contact for a month or two before even discussing meeting face to face! but when we did, well...the sparks just ignited cause we were already comfortable with who we were.

i tell you all, taking the risk is well worth the reward...so don't be afraid to talk to that special someone. I don't mean run at her saying "i love you!" I mean taaaalk to her...understand her...and be comfortable with her. This is the most important thing in the early stages of any blossoming relationship!

good luck to you, who is captivated by love's temptations!

Help me with: CRAZY RASH SPREADING ON MY BODY!

so_sienzz 0 #
An Unknown Location | 11 months, 2 weeks ago (9 months, 1 week after post)

AAAWWWWW!!!! you don’t have to write it all out!!!! Well, what model_maker (pfft! i know :P) mentioned earlier, it’s true, we’ve been together close to a year now, and i never regretted my decision to ‘let go’. I am especially thankful i met you, and i love you dearly, Keith! You are my friend, my lover, my angel! (okay enough mush :P)

-peace out-

Help me with: Culture shock for my parents?

model_maker 0 #
An Unknown Location | 11 months, 2 weeks ago (9 months, 1 week after post)

awwww baby i love you too, with all my heart. i’m thankful everyday that i met you, and appreciate the affections that you have given me.

Let this be a lesson to you all! I was a shy, introverted individual who believed that i would never have someone to talk to and share my life with. Indeed in my early years i had low self-esteem because of this…but i stuck it out, and grew more and more.

ALL IT TAKES IS CONFIDENCE to know that though a single moment can be paramount in your life, it is still transient to the insurmountable time you have to make it up. life is fleeting, and rarely is one hiccup gonna cost you a big deal. So take the initiative, try it out, and see what happens! there really is nothing to lose! :P

And as for you baby, know that there are no more doubts. My love is assured, as is yours…and we will always be happy together.

Help me with: CRAZY RASH SPREADING ON MY BODY!

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