friends help: I don’t know how not to be shy. - Help.com

well I doubt your old enough so this is probably useless but I find drink breaks down most barriers. As for church, well im no help there. Family, dont worry about, I was like that round them at first, then we were all withdrawn, finally we talk, although now its deteriorated into a necesity relationship again.

As for school what you need to do is change your attitude in your head, you need to realise that youve got nothing to lose, maybe youll get judged, maybe youll make a fool of yourself, hell maybe someone wont like you, but youll feel so much better for it all. Youll realise that even if all that happens, the people youll speak to, the attention youll get, the fun youll have, will outweight it all.

****, that was really uplifting for me

I use too be really shy when I was younger. But I don’t know one day I just woke up and I just started going outside of my normal self. I know thats its hard but sometimes you just have too take a deep breathe and speak out. Just self talk and remember you can do it!!!!!!!!! Practice in a mirror and then just get out there and do it!!!!!!! I belive in you!!

yeah why not, fidel castro used to practice infront of the mirror, and has some of the longest recorded speeches in history

People are insecure about all sorts of things that they do not even realize. You may not think you are as attractive or as smart or as funny as others. You need to feel good about yourself and project that to others. Sit down and write a list of things you like about yourself and things that are just positive about you in general. I am extremely talkative and extroverted, but I find when I am around people for the first time, or people I do not like, I tend to be quiet. I realized that I do not like to be judged either. People who are extremely secure with themselves don’t tend to care. So, just remember to like yourself, and if that doesn’t work for you, then just remember there is nothing wrong with being shy…it tends to be safe :o)

One thing that is helping me with my shyness is that “people aren’t paying as much attention to you as you THINK they are” “talk to people about THEM, everybody loves to talk about themselves”

I’m kinda like that but I’m myself when I’m with friends and family. Just keep pretending that you are relaxed and confident and it will trick your brain into thinking that you really are. If that doesn’t work, don’t worry you will become less shy as you get older. When I was younger I was really shy around everyone.