I see, hard times. But how to help?
hey lillies, we are here for you. Take time out, take it easy and have a sit down. Just take five mins to yourself and forget about everything that needs to me done. I hope you feel better soon. But we are here for you if you need us. just remember the world gets on top of everyone at times and you can only ever do what you can do. If your doing your best no one in this world can expect or ask for anymore. Take care hun
We hear for you big hug and big smile:)
Thank you for noticing my post friends, actually i don’t even think i wanted to state it here, i mean i don’t say it anyway so how can you help? but i know i could not keep ALL of THESE to myself. So i guess, by just reading this and nice words from you could help me make it through.
wow I think you just labled how I feel too…
Not nice :(
Lilies I hope you are ok, I hope these things are not too bad and I do wish I could make it all go away for you.
If you ever want to talk about it, or anything, I am here for you :)
Just mail me if you wish, whenever and about whatever, I realy don’t mind :)
Bummer Lilies,
Can ya go for a nice walk? Take a dip in your beautiful ocean? Being outside to walk with my dog always makes me feel better. I always bring seeds in my pocket and feed birds whereever we end up. What about writing things down and expressing yourself to you? Hope you are feeling like yourself soon. Been there, when it rains it pours!
You have a heart of a angel :)and every angel needs a rest once in awhile. Take it easy. hug:)
yes lilies we are all here to help you if we can. SO if at anytime you feel you cant cope or juggle all these things that you have going on, then at day or night feel free to call on us. A problem shared is a problem halfed my mum always used to say. Your in my thoughts
Well in some cases it really might make you feel better just sharing it with somebody rather than explaining what’s the matter. Hope it worked.
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Why explain yourself to others? I find that many times it is easier and more comfortable just sitting down and doing free writing. Don’t focus on what you are writing and what it means. Just sit at your keyboard or at your desk with a pen and paper then simply let you mind go. Don’t regulate what is there. Be calm and flow. It really does work, I’ve tried.
I hope you find the strength to release what is going on in your head. You are such a lovely person and deserve the peace you seek.
Thanks guys. You know it’s like wanting to share it with people you care about,just to make yourself feel better but you know you can make it on your own and let time do its job. BUT at the same time,overwhelmed of these concerns.
I wish i can get away even for a day or two. Could make it but am not sure yet. I feel stuck and frozen.I am not good in handling stress. I could not even put them into words in my own mind, but i know they are there sitting around and waiting. Now i sound silly.
Please don’t mind me if i don’t get to answer you but each reply is very significant. I am reading and trying to learn from them. I read each reply thrice before getting into another answer, letting each thought sink.
Okay, i am breathing. they say it’s one way of calming down.
Lilies, don’t sweat it. I know exactly how you feel. Sometimes you wish you could just solve all of life’s ills in a matter of minutes. Wish it worked like that. Everyday, I’m faced with so much stuff… But I’m still living, I’m still striving… I think that’s what it’s all about. Having the guts to face life head on and having the strength to get back up when you are knocked down!
You’re in my prayers!
You are the most sincere and best user on this site.
You treat everyone with the kindness and respect that everyone should have.
You are well liked and well love because you deserve to be.
Hope things improve.
Love Sophie.
Breathing is good. Do you meditate? It is hard to get started but it does calm the mind.
It is not always necessary to give your problems a voice but more important to just reach out for help. We talk about what we are comfortable sharing and please don’t feel you ever have to share more than you choose.
I am overwhelmed with a lot myself and it seems like even though I have been through some difficult things in life at other points in time, that right now the burdens seem heavier and it is hard to pick one small thing that I know I can handle and move to put it behind me. I realized last night that my Mom is stressed by my situation and so I’m now more motivated to tackle a couple of big things. I didn’t get a lot of sleep from thinking about it but I think I have a plan. Please know you are not alone in how you feel.
The best advice I can give is to make sure you are doing two nice things for you every day. That doesn’t have to cost money or take a lot of time but it is important when we feel this way to remember how valuable you are. If you can think about just one small thing and see if you can get something off your plate, it might start to help. I wish the best for you and I hope you are able to find peace. Whatever you are going through, just remember you are strong and can get through it - it just might take time. You have friends and people around you who care, so ask for help (that was a hard lesson for me).
Some times we have to make choices in life that we don’t want to make (like one I had to make last night) but once you get things started and you get through it, the weight is lifted from your shoulders and your energy returns, as does sleep. Be kind to yourself and don’t beat yourself up. Things happen - not because you deserve hard things but just because they happen. I know it is hard. I have tried to look at my hard stuff and say somewhere in this is an opportunity. Once I figure out what it is, it seems to make dealing with the situation a lot easier.
Maybe a day off from thinking about it will help. Try to go out today and have a “mindless” day where you don’t think about anything - just be out in nature or present with friends or doing some activity you enjoy. It is a good way to recharge. Good luck sweetie.
I hope things get better for you soon.
*hands you a flower* :)
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:] *huggles*
Make that two. :]
Hey Lilies….:-) it sounds like you’re in need of a break. i’m not surprised you are stressed with all the work you are doing!!
I feel the way you describe sometimes too (often actually !)….there is not enough time in the day or limbs with hand on etc!
I don’t know where you live but I have found a great support thing which is helping me loads with the emotional stuff….let me know if you are interested…might not be your thing but I can let you know about it…….
sounds like you need a day wondering around some galleries, drinking tea in a nice coffee shop somewhere and a massage so you can clear your mind before you tackle stuff.
Well that s what helps me sometimes.
anyway, whine away….it’s therapeutic….!!
You take care xx
em x
Ah! I know exactly what you are saying. Have been hit with a bit of the ol’ stress myself this past week. I talked with a friend who reminded me to put my worries aside, take some time for myself, go for a walk, sit infront of a beautiful setting, come home and light some candles, listen to some relaxing music or look at a book of beautiful pictures, have a cup of tea and catch my Zzzzzs at a reasonable hour. I know those are small things, but in my experience they seem to make a bit of difference if I put them into practice. It helps me to sort things out and puts me back in touch with my senses again. Taking some time for yourself was also suggested by a couple friends on this post as well. What a great group of supportive and encouraging friends above! :)
Sometimes we just all need a (((((hug))))))!
I know it’s not about me lillies , but REALLY I could have posted this .You are strong right !!! Just breathe ,take it slow , knowing that everything will work out !! When it’s the darkest is when the light starts to sneek in . All of these things that seem to want to bury us , only make us stronger even though it doesn’t feel like it .I will keep you in my prayers when I ask GOD to show me the way I will ask the same for you…………………..RON.
hi hun.. sorry to hear that you are having a tough day today.. hope you are feeling a bit better knowing that all the comments above are because we all care. remember.. we are here to listen.. not to judge.. and if and when you feel like you just need to vent.. we are here for you.. great big hugs hun… and lots of love.. shie.
hope you feel better soon!
*** hugs you *** I’m here for you. Let me know if there is anything I can do to help.
(((hugs))) Hi Honey… welcome to the human race. Sounds pretty normal to me. We all go thru down times, and times when everything seems to press in on us, from every side. Not every day, comes up roses. Unfortunately…. However, the good days, make us really greatful…. which is a good thing. Many Blessings…
When our cup is full, we have plenty to share, but, we are leaky vessels… and have to be constantly refilled.
Time out!!!
For me, if I fail to pray, or read my bible, or seek Gods strenght for each day, I end up depleted, spent…. empty. With nothing to give. He is my source of strength and inspiration. His spirit renews and envigorates me. One touch, from his spirit, is enough to carry me all day. Did you take time to pray today?
Our head can become jumbled with all the demands that are put upon us, he can sort them out, and help us to priortize. This is the key to success. Depending upon his strength to get us thru.
The word and the spirit, combined together is dynamite !!!
The Tyranny of the Urgent… is a book that I read once, and I try to remember the title, when things press in on me. It reminds me, to take time out, to pray. To put the multitude of things demanding our attention, back into proper prospective. Not allowing them to control us, or steal our joy.
Father, I pray that you will touch Lillies, right now, with your peace, giving her back her confidence, and faith, to make it thru. Encourage her and bless her,and help her to find time for you and for her. In Jesus Name. Amen.
(((hugs)))
Honey,
I had hoped that your boyfriend was good enough to make you feel better.
I know he is trying.
Hello Dearies, I am doing fine, i was away the whole day. I felt bad for not having been able to visit the site for so long but I guess there are some advantages to it.
Now I am back trying to complete this journal-like post. I have so many reasons to smile and thoughts to think of. You guys sure know how to make me feel better. Your words of encouragement help me a lot. Even the hugs make it right. Your ideas and wisdom help me lots. I believe I have not been able to get contact with my inner feelings. I have been very busy with the outside noise i face at work or in school. Then i forget that happiness start within its roots.
Someone told me, it’s another one of those shifty moods. But i sure would want you to know about it. I sure would want to let you know how I feel. Well, not exactly because I don’t share the details.
But with or without the details, thank you for the love.
im glad your feeling better lilies. Some times you need to take time out, time to break through the noise and regroup so that you can face the world and everything life throws at you. Take care and never feel bad for taking time for yourself. All the best.
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*Maximina wraps her arms around lilies and whispers “you will be ok”*
Lilies you have such a beautiful soul that transcends through these virtual wall into all of our hearts. I wish we could all be there with you to give you a big group hug. I am happy to hear you are doing better, but I am still worried about you. Sometimes letting out what you are thinking and feeling is the best remedy for your sorrows. If you don’t share what is going on with us, please share it with someone close in your life. If you don’t feel like you can tell anyone you know, please seek professional help. In time you will be ready to let out the thoughts that are haunting you and when you do you will be free. We will be here when you need us!
Saint Maximina …!!!!. That is exactly why I still come back to this site , what you said to lillies was so warm and genuine , I can feel how much you care for her , really well said ! PLEASE if you ever happen to see me in need on here I would really appreciate your HELP as well.
That was really helpful Max. You and all those who took their time to listen to me, but since i did not say anything much, it helps to see people sitting with me and just be there even if they don’t say anything much other than the hugs.
I have been talking about it with someone close to me. Well, males do not have much of the ears to ‘listen’. So sometimes, i stop talking because i don’t need anyone to feel that i have become a burden to them.
Actually, i am finding the skill on expressing these thoughts into words. or just by expressing it through another outlet other than work. I grew up not being able to express it well, maybe because i was taught to keep things to myself–to my mom, that was a sign of strength. These things and those that have been kept with me are preventing me trust others. I turn out to be insecure, selfish and spiteful.
But i know i don’t have to express everything here, but i could get help from your words. That is all i ever need, it is never too late to help myself.
I wish i can give you back the hugs!
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