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Hi there. Just keep trying and never give up. You’ll find something soon. It’s just that some people have a hard road to get to what they want and some others get there sooner…but when you’ll find what you are looking for or what’s right for you, that would be worthy…and sometimes you may get tired but it’s ok..everyone gets tired at times..you must regain your strength by doing something not usual or something you really like every while and then…It’s good that you have been to so many cities..that’s an advantage lol…goodluck

Perhaps you can try volunteering for while until inspiration comes to you. Sometimes when you get this point in your life it may mean that you have to be still for a while and see what happens.

Well as a writer I am so tired of hearing the cliche ” One can paper thier bathroom walls with all the rejection letters”
I myself have been trying over five years to see some of my work published. I have entered contest after contest, and you know two have kept my manuscripts but had to cancel the contest out of lack of entries… I have bought book after book on how to hone my skills, how to even publish yourself, ( That takes moooola) and where to look for agents… but you know, as much as I love to give up, I can’t because the passion of writing is in my blood, it’s a part of me and always will be.

I stumbled on a publisher last September, and after submitting my synopsis, they agreed to publish, I signed a contract and after that was signed, found out that I had to do a total rewrite of my manuscript because of legal issues… I wasn’t willing to compromise and so I am re writing… it’s hard and it’s lonely and frustrating but i guess that’s the same reason why you don’t throw in the towel, because hope is around the corner to success whatever that may be for you. There is a big wide world out there, and somewhere there is a position that has a need for what you have to offer…
A needle in a haystack will eventually be found, if you are willing to keep looking…

I think you need some time out. by the sounds of it, youve had a pretty rough time with this illness and with all the job problems, it couldnt have done it any good. sometimes when things go wrong in life we end up in a downward spiral partly due to things that are not in our hands, but i think it carrys on because we get pulled into this habit of negative thinking, eg im a failure, i have no job, im not getting anywhere. I went through this a couple of years back and still think like that sometimes as im not completely content with where i am, thinking i could do way better. but i think what you need to do is sit down and make a list of things you have accomplished in life. things like graduating from college, the 3 job offers from the gov, etc recovering from the illness shoud motivate you in that u have a 2nd chance to do things right. look at this list and realise you are not a failure, but that you actually have loads to offer. its easier said than done, but think positively about yourself and you will see the results.
best of luck!

Two peices of advice from my dad when I left for school:

1) If you never give up, you will never fail. Even if you never achieve the goal you set out for, you cannot call your undertaking a failure if you never give up striving for it and continue to pursue it, regardless of the time it takes. It is the pursuit of your goal that defines success, even more than the goal itself.

2) If you want something to happen in your life, DO NOT TRY TO DO EVERYTHING in your power to achieve it, you only have to do what is necessary. Do not overburden your endeavor. Invest your time in narrowing down what the “necessary” is, and then apply rule 1.

I would add an addendum to rule #1 based on my own experience. You are allowed to give up on a goal in favour of something else, but recognize that you also must give up on any pining for it or remorse over the failure of acheiving it. If you can’t let go of that failed goal, then go back to pursuing it and respect that the commitment you are demonstrating is “success” in and of itself.

It sounds like your current goal now is to determine how you want to spend your time on this earth. Invest your time now in figuring that out rather than stressing about what has failed in the past. Your future potential is limitless. Good luck.

Your dad is wise ‘tictactomm’ I liked your (or his) advice :)

Yeah, I liked it too, I need to remind myself of it sometimes ;)

Try to gain more skills , always improve yourself . Try to submit your C.V on every available recruitment agency & sites .

Try to work as a cashier in a shop or find any temporary job but don’t stay waiting at home.

Thanks guys for all of this advice guys. (Tictactom, your Dad is a wise man.) I just need to start doing something in the meantime not too demanding or carried away with and take some time to reflect on what is worth doing. Hopefully it will come to me. Or, more likely, I’ll stumble into it.

All the best,