Love help: Why is it pretty girls get treated like crap? - Help.com

Omg little, pretty cute girls are the biggest slobs ever, cause they’re so used to being treated like princesses.
Trust me, life as a plain girl or, GOD FORBID, an overweight girl, is a horror no pretty girl can contemplate.

everyone gets treated like crap at some point.

It comes down to stereotypes. Same reason an “ugly” girl is treated like crap. They are both treated like crap in different ways though.

People who let themselves be treated like crap will be treated like crap.
Some people like to treat others like crap, because it makes them feel in control and powerful. They will treat people like crap until eventually some people let them get away with it. Then, they’ve found their “punching bag,” so to speak.

Why pretty girls?
I think that is an over generalization.
And “Pretty Girls” is certainly subjective.

But if you are talking about the “Barbie doll fashion model” types… it could be that often the makeup and glamour is really there because those girls don’t feel secure in being who they really are… so the makeup and glam is just a fake front so that makes them feel secure.

When that is true… then the reality is they get treated like crap because they do not feel they are worth anything better.

mabye because your over generalizing, and putting what you have endured and applying it far tooo broadly

wooooooooow!

i think ive offended some people here!

What i meant was, im 25 very good looking, very intelligent doing my masters, i just feel my bf resents this. That i am this and remain 100% faithful. hes laways said i dont go for pretty girls but i fell for ur heart not ur beauty. but then he treats my horribly

However, I will admit blondes do get a pretty harsh stereotype from people.
I read about this study people did where they observed how men act around blonde and brunette women, and turns out most of the guys used smaller vocabulary and avoided discussing issues like politics and global warming cause around the blonde cause they assumed she wouldn’t understand, but engaged in lengthly discussions with the brunette lol (even though both women had similar educational backgrounds).
Ouch.

interesting

hes a nice enough person, hes not violent. but he forgot my b.day - no prezzies, forgot our anniv. nothing for xmas, nothing for valentines day. he did show his face so i should be glad of that.

but he feels he doesnt need to show his love in this way

because some guys wudn;t feel good enough for them and try to control them.
im not gonna say im pretty as that wud make me vain but i have been controled by guys before. its not nice. funny thing is, most the guys whod treated me like crap asked me out at some point or said they liked me.

Are you KIDDING me?

Thats just a guy thing - thats not him treating you badly. Its always been known that men forget things esp anniv’s = and its true for most. Im luck to have a guy that remembers these days :) even if he doesnt know what to get me. Perhaps you should remind him when these days are coming along. That way he cant forget :)

how is this treating you like crap??
CRAP is my ex bf beating me.
girl you have it lucky

Guys are frequently intimidated by smart and beautiful women’s intellect.

im fat and ugly and i get treated like crap

exactly RC-walsh (sorry you had to go thru that) so he forgot a few days and didnt get you a present! this is a lot better than most. Maybe he just didnt know what to get you and hid? both species are crap at finding good presents :) maybe he just didnt have any money?

Excellent reply, freakingid.

just be lucky with what you have! if you pretty, smart AND have a fab bf whats the worrying about ayy?

I’m still trying to grasp what you said…what?

Don’t say pretty girls get treated like crap. Try to go in an “unpretty” girls shoes.

Pretty girls get treated like royalty.

anonymou wrote:
Because it works, Because you girls go for guys who treat you like that, because you think we are better then you. This guy however is just infatuated with you and needs to get over it

Most girls want respect and compassion.
The girls who end up with abusers are commonly sexually and emotionally abused as children by male authroity figures (usually fathers, step-dads or uncles), which makes them feel insecure and inferior as adults, thinking the abuse was ‘her fault’. She doesn’t learn to stand up for herself, as she thinks there is nothing to stand up for, and that attracts a certain type of man, while repelling the good men who want a woman with self-esteem.
People get used to being treated a certain way.

the thing is i dont hear from him for days, and comes back like nothings happened - its like - hello! where have u been? it just makes me wonder, am i just his trophy gf?

ask him..

JesusMurphy! wrote:

anonymou wrote:
Because it works, Because you girls go for guys who treat you like that, because you think we are better then you. This guy however is just infatuated with you and needs to get over it

Most girls want respect and compassion.
The girls who end up with abusers are commonly sexually and emotionally abused as children by male authroity figures (usually fathers, step-dads or uncles), which makes them feel insecure and inferior as adults, thinking the abuse was ‘her fault’. She doesn’t learn to stand up for herself, as she thinks there is nothing to stand up for, and that attracts a certain type of man, while repelling the good men who want a woman with self-esteem.
People get used to being treated a certain way.

ive had that problem. i wudn;t stand up for myself.

Anonymous wrote:
the thing is i dont hear from him for days, and comes back like nothings happened - its like - hello! where have u been? it just makes me wonder, am i just his trophy gf?

Yeah, he shouldn’t do that.
Well, men need honesty. They’re certainly absoloutely terrible hint-takers and even worse mind-readers, I’ve learned. It’s no good for the relationship to be mad at him and he doesn’t know why- he probably doesn’t even realieze he’s making you feel this way.
You need to tell him it makes you worry that he does this, and that you feel unappreciated.
If he apologizes and explains, he’s definitely cares about your feelings, and is a keeper.
If he brushes your concerns off or says something along the lines of ‘get over it’, he obviously doesn’t care about how you feel, which is a huge red flag and should be dumped.

i think sometimes he likes to sulk - so he can

u guys have been great

have a fab weekend !!!

RC-walsh wrote:
how is this treating you like crap??
CRAP is my ex bf beating me.
girl you have it lucky

who is this too. u don’t know what happened to other people so i think ur judging far too quickly

thats your oppinion

spiritedsoul wrote:

RC-walsh wrote:
how is this treating you like crap??CRAP is my ex bf beating me.girl you have it lucky

who is this too. u don’t know what happened to other people so i think ur judging far too quickly

RC-walsh wrote:
thats your oppinion

Mine too.

pretty girls get treated like crap because they act like crap

alrite, help some girl who NEEDS it cuz her bf forgetts things. did u not just watch sport relief on tv? people are DYING…

this is nonsense.