Love help: I’m 18 and I act like a baby. - Help.com

First of all, if you were 10 - you didn’t let anyone do anything to you sweetie. He was the adult and he took advantage of the situation. I think we need to figure out who we like and want to explore a relationship with first before any sort of intimacy gets involved - because then you are thinking with hormones and not being smart in choices. This choice when you were 10 was not yours to make. It is good that you told but this guy is probably moving on to hurting someone else. Have you gone to the authorities or called child protective services to report what has happened to you? I am sure you could really benefit from some help and probably counseling and they could probably help you best. They might even (depending on where you live) help you find a better job and pay your rent - to help you get set up. Sorry you had a bad experience - your childhood should not have included being used by an adult.

And you are not a loser so don’t listen to people who have to be negative about your situation to feel better about their own.

You might also want to consider getting a roommate or two - friends that you trust because a lot of us live with friends in a bigger place to cut back on the costs of living.

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Here is a great post to read and many people discuss stories of courage and pain and all that goes with this awful issue.
Im so glad you have a want to love and respect yourself. That is a step some struggle to even get to. You have mine, respect.

Awwwww honey…. I am sorry this is happening to you…. (((Hugs))) We all go thru stuff, on our way to adulthood, and thru out that too….. There is much we all need to learn about life. There are good answers that bring good results. We cannot change someone else. We can change us.

We can see what is happening and what we would like to happen, and make the necessary changes.

I am quiet sure that your mother loves you, probably more than you will ever know. She is flawed, just like the rest of us, and is using the tools that she understands to try and get the job done, of raising a daughter, and surviving in this world.

Try to understand where she is coming from. Try to be patient, and loving, and kind, and forgiving.

These tools will reap great benefits, for everyone involved.

Try to stand your ground, and take ground at the same time.

Help her to see how you feel about things.

Make a positive plan, toward your future, and stick to it.

Try to maintain family ties, if possible.

We all need family, but, sometimes we also need space from family.

You are coming into young adult hood, and need all your strenght, and resources now, to develop your own life.

She needs to be able to stand on her own.

This won’t be easy, for you or for her, but, the apron strings need to be cut.

She came from a dependant background, and has never understood ,how to develop independance.

You on the other hand, desire it, and feel bad, because you see no way of achieving it.

You can do it, though.

Quiet strength and determination….. steadily moving forward.

Life does not move at a pace that we like at times, but, this helps to develop
strength and perserverance in us. So, learn to enjoy the journey.

Make a list of the things that you can be grateful for, and concentrate on those, daily. This will bring you peace and help you to move forward.

Wishing you the best…..