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MY BEST FRIEND HAS A NEW BEST FRIEND AND WE DONT TALK ANYMORE, I NEED HELP OR IM AFRAID IM GOING TO LOSE HER!

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A new girl come to my school and started hanging with me and my friends, which was fine. This was about 6 months ago. About 4 months ago my best friend started getting really friendly with her and about 3 months ago my BEST FRIEND completely stopped talking to me and hanging with me! for no reasons that i can think of.

i cant think of anything i have said or done to her for her to stop talking to me and hanging around with me. i dont know whats so good about this new girl or what she has got over me. and to make things worse this new girl doesnt like me. she looks at me like im a loser and thinks shes better than everyone else. i dont know what mt friend sees in her!!

Me and my friend used to be so close, i stayed at hers every weekend and we spent most of our time together. Went on holiday together, she knew things about me that i havnt told anyone else in the world. Shes the kind of person that you only meet once in your live that you have a real connection with and have genuine love towards them. (in a non lesbian way)

i havnt spoken to her in months and the only time she talks to me is to ask me a question or for help with school work. I feel that she seriously doesnt care anymore, but i dont know why or how.

im so upset over this and i just dont know how we got here. it feels like yesterday we were sitting in the park laughing and joking and munching on junk food together. I love her to bits and no matter how angry i am with her i dont want to lose her! i just dont know what to do or to say because i dont talk to her and i dont know if its too late or even if she’ll care.

Someone help me please!!

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lkjs offline Verified User (1 year, 8 months) Long Term User Shouts: 2 #
Northbrook, IL, US | 1 year, 8 months ago (41 minutes after post)

Call her up or talk to her about this situation. If she can’t be serious with you on this then talk to one of her friends about this too. Try to call her to hang out and stuff. Even though it will be different than usual, try to accommodate to her changes if you really still want to be friends with her.

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wallflower-x offline Verified User (1 year, 8 months) Long Term User Shouts: 0 #
Madrid, 29, ES | 1 year, 8 months ago (45 minutes after post)

im not sure talking on the phone is what i want to do. The problem is our friends are all the same. She hangs with two girls that me and everyone else dont like and my friends dont talk to her either but they dont know how i feel about the situation. No one else seems to care that she has gone off with these other 2 but they werent as close to her as i was.

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lkjs offline Verified User (1 year, 8 months) Long Term User Shouts: 2 #
Northbrook, IL, US | 1 year, 8 months ago (49 minutes after post)

In a situation like this there’s only two options and they’re both painful.
1. Move on
2. Talk to her about this problem.
It will be **** hard as hell to do either one of them but if you can’t do either you’ll never be able to be friends with her again. I understand you because I lost a friend this way and was just being an ******* and hated for leaving.
Best of Luck..

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wallflower-x offline Verified User (1 year, 8 months) Long Term User Shouts: 0 #
Madrid, 29, ES | 1 year, 8 months ago (51 minutes after post)

Thanks very much….im not sure why i posted on this site you know. ive always known that the only way to fix my problem was to move on or talk it out with her but i guess im just scared to do it. See, im not the kind of person that talk openly about emotions to (anyone). i have never cried in front of anyone or talked about my feelings. (exceot to her) So i dont know what to say or how to say it.

but thanks for helping

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lkjs offline Verified User (1 year, 8 months) Long Term User Shouts: 2 #
Northbrook, IL, US | 1 year, 8 months ago (52 minutes after post)

No problem, I hope things work out between you two.

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mars199 offline Verified User (1 year, 8 months) Long Term User Shouts: 0 #
Schaumburg, IL, US | 1 year, 8 months ago (1 hour, 27 minutes after post)

just ask her why it seemed like she was ignoring you and try to fix it.

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JP | 1 year, 8 months ago (5 hours, 12 minutes after post)

Believe in yourself and know that you are a good person. If these girls fail to see that, then they are the ones who have lost something special.

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An Unknown Location | 4 months, 1 week ago (1 year, 4 months after post)

The best thing to do is the hardest… Move on. Moving on hurts knowing your leaving some of you best memories. But if your best friend has moved on … dont you think thats your call to move on too? It will take time and YES it will hurt .. things like this always do.. but its not till later when you find a new best friend replacement that you will realize this was the best thing to do indeed. Try this for a test … Stop all contact with your Bff…. See how long it took her or takes her to figure out that you have stopped speaking with her. Time will tell where you relationshipp stands… Mines tooke me a month and a half… and that was the most painful month and a half ever. When he realized it… we talked about it and how to make it better,,,, :] Hope i helped…
Ann,ony,mous

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