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xotiffanyjoan
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My friend has changed and I can’t stand it.

She always tries to outdo me even if its schoolwork or sports. She has joined a ton of clubs and always brags about it. She always brags about her schoolwork and implies that me and my friends are stupid. She has even said it to our face before. She always tries to join the sports I’m in and tries to outdo me. She joined track this year even though she has always wanted to play softball and i believe she did it so she could letter in something b/c I had lettered in cross country. She has treated my friends and I so rudely that we all pretty much hate her. She has no idea about it and we cant reallly stand her anymore. My friends and I arent sure what to do. We don’t want to be rude and hurt her feelings but we have to tell her. Do you have any advice to help us?

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lkjs offline Verified User (1 year, 8 months) Long Term User Shouts: 2 #
Northbrook, IL, US | 1 year, 8 months ago (2 minutes after post)

Everyone has one of these situations.. Your friend will change, you will change, everyone will change. Just tell her what’s going on and how she’s being rude. If she doesn’t feel like caring about it then just leave her. Talk to her A.S.A.P

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wallflower-x offline Verified User (1 year, 8 months) Long Term User Shouts: 0 #
Madrid, 29, ES | 1 year, 8 months ago (6 minutes after post)

ive been in this situation before and trust me its better than her not talking to you at all. if you are all unanamous about it then you need to tell her. Maybe just one of you and dont shout or be mean about it. try not to be confrontational and probably two people is best to tell her. if its just 1 she wont believe you and if its more than 2 she will get the impression that you are ganging up on her.

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rose_chan91 offline Verified User (1 year, 8 months) Long Term User Shouts: 5 #
An Unknown Location | 1 year, 8 months ago (10 hours, 51 minutes after post)

i would talk to or ask her about whats been going on… don’t be mean about it but tell her the truth

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An Unknown Location | 1 year, 4 months ago (3 months, 3 weeks after post)

i am currently in this situation and i know how it feels. just confront her about it and hope for the best. but u just have to remember, everyone changes either in a good or bad way and we all have to accept it as it is some way or another.

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kay.dwey offline Unverified User #
An Unknown Location | 3 months ago (1 year, 5 months after post)

I think I’m that friend that you can’t stand… I changed alot because I started joining alot more clubs and it made me more confident… I made lots of new friends.. and hung out with my old friends less. They thought I was showing off and they resented me… when all I was doing was growing as a person. Sometimes you grow out of friends.. maybe your friend is bored of you… or you’re tired of her.. either way.. it’s time you guys went your seperate ways.. because your not growing togehter.. your growing apart. Keep the good memories though! And don’t hold any resentment.. it’s just life..

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