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Heey…

I have a little problem with my best friend.. we are hanging out a lot without other people around, he acts differently though when others are there.. say we are at a friends house with at least 10 people he even ignores me entirely… I admit that people start saying that we are dating and the bad part about it is, that I like him, I like him soo much that it hurts thinking about being with him but not being able to because he said that “relationships destroy friendships.. I never want a relationship.. its a waste of time” If I wouldnt know that we are friends I would think that he is embarrassed about our friendship… I really dont know what to do… I know this is a little confusing but try to make sense out of it.

Thank you!!
sunshine!

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cattail offline Verified User (1 year, 10 months) Long Term User Shouts: 8 #
Newark, NJ, US | 1 year, 8 months ago (19 minutes after post)

Maybe it is just because people start saying you’re dating and he doesn’t want them saying that?

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need help offline Verified User (1 year, 8 months) Long Term User Shouts: 0 #
An Undisclosed Location | 1 year, 8 months ago (27 minutes after post)

i think its because he might like you but some how his friend have slaged him about you, it happens you need to just ask him and if he doesn’t like you as in love then you will have to go with that sorry but just find out where you stand with him?

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beyond borders offline Verified User (1 year, 8 months) Long Term User Shouts: 0 #
Rotterdam, 11, NL | 1 year, 8 months ago (48 minutes after post)

yea the problem is, that he said that he really doesnt want a relationship he also told me (only drunk people and little kids say the truth) that I am his best female friend which I think is really nice of him to say but doesnt get me further… makes sense?

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samantha..stardust offline Verified User (1 year, 8 months) Long Term User Shouts: 0 #
Wishaw, V8, GB | 1 year, 8 months ago (49 minutes after post)

it could be something to do with a guys pride. i’ve found before that male friends act differently on their own than what they do when they’re with they’re mates. he might feel like he can only act like himself around you and he might just like you but he is scared of admitting it. and relationships dont destroy friendships, they only wll if you let that happen, keep smiling for now :)

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cattail offline Verified User (1 year, 10 months) Long Term User Shouts: 8 #
Newark, NJ, US | 1 year, 8 months ago (1 hour, 1 minute after post)

Samantha has a good point!

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