Love help: I don’t particularly care what others think of me - Help.com

If I understand properly what you’re trying to say, you have a low self esteem and you know it. I have the same issue and can’t seem to fix the problem, although told otherwise, bad thoughts about myself come up over and over again and I just don’t see what someone could possibly see in me.

Your hair looks very soft and strokable, if that helps….

Very few people are completely happy with their appearance, which is sad because it’s given far more importance than it should be. Despite that, I still fret a lot over my image.

I used to hate the way i look, im not as bad as i used to be but im more self accepting now

so I don’t need to repeat myself, here is what i put for another post

“When I was at school I was told I was “ugly” and a “tramp” all the time, eventually I started to believe them and label myself as what they called me and it had an extremely bad affect on myself esteem. I even became mentally unwell later on in my life because I kept thinking I was ugly and based my self esteem on other peoples compliments like when they said I was “beautiful”. Even if 99/100 people said I was beautiful and one person didn’t, I would just focus and think about the person who didn’t and get uptight about it.

Now after time and help from people and those on this site I have been told there is more to value about a person than how they look. I now know it is more healthy for me to be happy with the way I am than focus on how others perceive me. I feel much happier when I know that the person inside my body is far more of value than the figure itself. It makes me feel more special.”

that was from this post http://help.com/post/144280-am-i-ugly…

i agree with spiritedsoul

That was a great post spiritedsoul. I hope bailio that you can focus on who you are not what you look like. Because that will never change.

If you can think ‘I’m good looking/pretty/handsome’ then that’s great, but how much better to think ‘I’m a great person who’s learned to love who I am’.