Love help: When you are 17, and hate everything about yourself, that’s not healthy is it? - Help.com

I don’t know if it’s healthy, but it is something that every single high schooler seems go to through around that age… just tough it out :D

Well, stop worrying so much… Just go out and have fun! Life’s too short, if you spend it worrying and complaining, you might miss it… You’re 17, so its normal to feel weird and out of place…

A very good movie that kind of shows what I mean is “Ferris Bueller’s Day Off”

what kind of filling becuase there is many diffrent filling. i know what tou mean I say that becuase I too have only one true friend but it fills so lope sided that it is some times hard to know what to fill

Well, I’ve had a few long term relationships, and I gotta tell you… People say that a person you really connect with comes once in a lifetime, but the truth is that if you’re open to it, you can find other people you connect with just as easily… There’s alot of people out there!

Also, it seems like you’re a person who is afraid of taking a chance… Maybe you should do that more. When I was 17, I was always kind of scared of taking chances, because I worried that my world would fall apart, the friends I had would stop being my friends… Honestly, these things hardly happen, and nowadays I have so much fun just testing myself. I’m not saying you should start off by skydiving, but maybe just flirting with a random girl on the car next to yours… Or maybe just a random funny comment to someone you don’t know; innocent harmless fun… It worked for me!

Also, if ever you get cut off by a friend, or someone decides to stop talking to u, its their loss! You don’t have to worry about that too much, and even if you do something really stupid, people will respect you for taking a chance and doing it. Trust me, most people are really scared of doing what they really want to do, and they look up to people who do it (even if its a silly thing).

when you get older.. you will have a job, bills and a boss to hate.. think of this time as just practice

Well, its not easy for anyone unfortunately… But as you do it, you get better… I have gotten laughed at so many times, just for trying new lines or trying to improvise… But every once in a while it works, and you say the right thing for the right girl, and its unbelievable! Its worth all the times you didn’t succeed.

About this girl, you should take a chance… But do it your way… If you want to give her flowers and call her to go paintballing, you should do exactly that. My first date with my current girlfriend was go-karting, and she loved it! Usually its what works best, just doing what comes to mind, taking a risk… What’s the worse that could happen? If she says “no.”, you’re back where you are now. And don’t feel ashamed of trying to get with her… You like her, there’s nothing wrong with that… Plus, if she says no, then maybe it wasn’t such a great match (relationships are so much more than just the beginning, the chances of it not working out in the long run at 17 are enormous!). You will be free to move on, because you won’t obsess about the “what if”. Also, if you’re good friends, looks won’t affect you at all, you’re already past that.

oh.. forgot to mention.. going bald.. loosing stamina and strength.. smaller diets..

It may be awkward for a while… But think of the possibility that she goes for it… The upside is so much greater than the downside… Plus, usually the awkwardness comes from the feeling of shame from getting rejected… But there’s no shame in that… Maybe right now she has a crush on someone else; but its a good sign that she doesn’t talk to u about other guys (I figure if she did, you would’ve mentioned that she’s into someone else)… Its a REALLY good sign!

But about the whole “I have everything”, try being more positive about things… You’ll find things work out better for you. Its kinda corny, but the saying “A smile brings a smile” is kind of true… If you’re a positive guy who doesn’t let himself get down, it projects as confidence in yourself, and makes people feel better around you… Its a virtuous circle!

I think everyone has that time, yeah. Whenever I start feeling I hate everything, I just try to remember how much worse it all could be… then I skip a class or skip h/w or something and go enjoy myself for a bit.
Also, I agree with Eddo. If you guys are really good friends, she’s hardly going to stop talking with you just when you tell her you like her. She’ll probably feel flattered at least, and at best she’ll tell you she has feelings for you too. And even if she doesn’t right now, remember for girls, once a guy has told them they like them they often end up liking the guy. So go for it!

Hey…MASSIVE RESPONSE ALERT…APOLOGIES! :O)

As you’ve quite rightly pointed out in your post, friends exist of every calibre. I’d rather one diamond than a thousand stones. So what if you have one friend? Count yourself lucky buddy, as that’s one more than I, and ,many others, had at your age and I’m being deadly serious!!

And thankfully for you (and me and countless others), life doesn’t start or end at 17. You are clearly capable of developing good friendships, and so you’ll collect your gems with time: through work, college, etc… Trust me, if I did it from where I was, then you’ll definitely do it. You’ll look back on this moment in a few years’ time and laugh out loud to yourself…my friends still tease me about it now!!

Also, about you fancying your friend, have you considered that it may be a result of restricting your view to only her? Hanging out with one person all the time would probably confuse your feelings somewhat, as it would encourage you to think about the person even when you weren’t with them. This is a perfectly natural and normal reaction. Perhaps if you joined societies and clubs and tried to loosen up and widen your social circle a little (even through Facebook/ Myspace?), she may seem less attractive?? Just a thought.

You may, on the other hand, genuinely like her. And I understand what you’re saying about being worried about losing the one friend you have in that case. Here’s my advice: Start hanging out with her some more and hopefully you’ll grow closer and she’ll start confiding in you more and you’ll figure her feelings soon enough hopefully.

In terms of being content with what you have, it is only by comparing yourself to those less fortunate than yourself that you’ll EVER be able to truly appreciate what you have. Everybody, every single person on this planet faces problems and challenges in life, and trust me: for every single person with a problem there is always someone out there that’s a whole lot worse off. You say that things never work out for you. Is that a self-fulfilling prophecy? You expect to fail and therefore you do? In any case, I SEVERELY doubt that you have failed at EVERY SINGLE THING that you have ever tried to do in your life.

And even if you did fail a few times, whoop-dee-doo…So you didn’t succeed at first…Fine. Just don’t ever stop believing in yourself and your potential. Also, never stop being grateful for the blessings that you have been bestowed with, before even what you do have is taken away. And then you’ll regret all of this.

You need to start by making a list of all of the comforts that you have. Don’t focus on the things you can’t change, focus on the things that you can. If you’re unhappy with your appearance, then instead of moaning, do something! Try different clothes, different hair, lose weight/ bulk up, do whatever it takes. You only get one punt in this life, so enjoy it and have fun, before it’s too late. Don’t let your fears hold you back…if you don’t try, you’ll never know! :o)

Every single experience in life, no matter how unsavoury can have a positive perspective. Check this:

I was widowed four months ago when my husband’s car fell off a bridge. No amount of crying or moping about will bring him back, will it? I like you could complain that nothing ever goes right for me. I could look at all my happy couple friends and be on a permanent downer. No. I avoid that circuit and also anything that makes me feel bad. Yes, I cry sometimes and there’s no shame in that. However, more importantly, I also try to stay positive and keep busy at all times. I’m always hatching plans of new things to try. If funds don’t allow, it’ll force me to work a little to earn the money to do it. Life is exciting and you should view it that way! :o)

Also, as I’m sure you know, the sad truth is that many friends will only carry somebody on a permanent downer so far. Think about going for coffees with somebody who was uber-negative or moany. You’d only put up with it so long before seeing them became a chore as it’d deflate your mood. Hey, I’m not saying that you’re like this, but from what you’ve written, I doubt that you’re a motivational speaker either!!

Start looking at things in a different light. Every time a negative thought enters your mind, zap it. Replace it with a moment in your life where you were really proud of what you achieved (even if it was 10 years ago, trust me!) and focus on how you felt. Keep yourself busy and fill up your calendar with things to do. Even flimsy friends would be willing to meet up to go out or whatever. Everybody gets bored and feels grateful for the company at times.

I wish you the best of luck…feel free to message me anytime Xx