She’s obviously just after spending time with her new found interest and in a couple of weeks will be back to her normal self and spend time with you. Some people when they get into a relationship find the need to spend loads of time with the person, and quickly tire and will stop avoiding you.
I just wanted to write the same like Wuce. She is absolutely right.
Don’t worry
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yeah, it’s normal. Chill with it for a bit and she’ll come back. If you’ll do that for her you’re a special friend and they don’t grow on trees.
Oh, and try not to hate her bf. In the circs it can be hard not to!
Ok i believe you both. thanks alot :) just its been hard. you know but itll be ok like you said
yeahh its sooo easy to hate her bf thats for sure. umm, so do i like not go near her and just give her space ?
Nah, bump into her all the time and always be cheerful and friendly.
so is it cool to like … idk….kiss her heehee “on the cheek” lol
what if she acts like she doesnt wanna be near me?
if that’s what you do, do it! Why not? Soon she’ll want to tell you all about him.
Just make it really, really easy to stay friends with you and that’s what she’ll do.
That’s kinda hard, bcos you’re prob feeling quite jealous, and that’s normal. But friends make allowances, so you’ll just have to! :o)
Good luck!
Its totally normal. Shes going to be like this because its something new it happens all the time. Eventully as they go on in there relationship things will go back to normal.
yes i am jealous lol. i also envy her .. she gets all she wants. she gets clothes, a bf, and car ..etc. it just sucks for me. i just get avoided daily … and it feels we arent friends anymore. i dont kiss her anymore….but we used to kiss each other yeahh ..
yeahh i hope youre right JennyLove. its not easy … lol. she is avoiding me :( and idk whether to talk to her or not. she goes right by me and she doesnt speak .. i hate it
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yeahh i hope youre right JennyLove. its not easy … lol. she is avoiding me :( and idk whether to talk to her or not. she goes right by me and she doesnt speak .. i hate it
Have you told her how you feel? She may not know that she is hurting you.
Maybe she feels awkward? If she knows you feel bad and she feels so good? But yeah, maybe you’ll have to give her some space.
When I was at school, all the girls used to fancy my mate. Even when I had a long term gf, she fancied him a bit. And the girl he married he stole from under me.
It was sooo hard. But a girl is only a girl (if you’ll pardon me saying so) but a best mate is a best mate, so I stuck with it. We’re still friends now. He was my best man and is godfather to my eldest son.
And gosh, he used to reeeeeally envy me, so he tells me. Still can’t work out why.
My heart goes out to you. Maybe you’ll have to give her some space, but stick around and she’ll come back.
by ‘under me’, I don’t mean anything smutty, I just mean we liked each other and were thinkin of going out…
i havent no…i try but everytime i do…she doesnt like wanna talk to me ..
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rebel101 wrote:
yeahh i hope youre right JennyLove. its not easy … lol. she is avoiding me :( and idk whether to talk to her or not. she goes right by me and she doesnt speak .. i hate it
Have you told her how you feel? She may not know that she is hurting you.
i do understand what you all are saying. just i dont know….we were once close and now its like if i go near her i am obsessed with her ..so she says
Awh, rebel. :o( Sounds like you’ll have to give her a bit of space. But when you do bump into her, try to be easy and friendly however much you’re hurting inside, and in a week or so, it’ll all sort itself out. Smile at her rather than going near her. It’s nice to be smiled at.
I feel for you!
i miss her hugs though :(
it isnt the same without her honestly… she is only 16 … im 19 lol but oh well
:o( Give her the space she needs and she’ll start to miss them too. How long’ve they been going out?
and umm shes 16 .. hes 21 OMG
Long while then.
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and umm shes 16 .. hes 21 OMG
Do you disapprove?
well hes a good guy for her .. just i miss her
i shouldnt disapprove huh
Well, here’s what I think, which isn’t worth half a nickel, but anyhow…
When you first go out with someone, it’s wonderful, yeah. But also maybe frightening.
Maybe she’s scared of what the bf will think if you hug n kiss? I’m not saying he disapproves of it, but I think she may be afraid he does.
If he’s so much older than her, she’ll want to look grown up, but not actually know how.
And if she thinks you disapprove of him, whether or not in fact you do, it’ll make it harder for her to spend time with you.
yeahh i know and i agree with you. but even when they were together she huggged and kissed me “on the cheek” its just different now and idk why.
i dont know how to act around her. should i talk to her? should i not? should i hug her should i not ? you know? its complicated
It is real complicated, yes. I’m out of advice, tho I’ve still brimful of sympathy.
Well no, never out of advice. But only you’ll know if it’s good advice.
I think you should do one of these three. Whichever one you dislike least.
First, you could just avoid her and give her loads of space.
Second, you could run into her often but be low key, so no hugs or kissing, maybe only a smile instead of a chat.
Third, you could run into her only occasionally, but when you do be closer, hug, kiss, chat for ages.
Any of those appeal? I’m really only guessing at this point… :o(
i like the 3rd one ;) and no…you have been a BIG help James :D thanks alot
Well, i hope I have but I have my doubts!
Drop me a shout and let me know how it goes? Good luck! I gotta go cook tea now…
okay i will write you when i know how it goes. im gonna see her tonight as a matter of fact lol
Give her a hug from me then, and tell her to snap out of it, friends really matter…
Nah, I don’t really mean it. It’s what I wish you could say tho!! XD
yeah me too. thanks James. I will try and hug her though … if i can and if shell let me ?
Cor, it’s like being a bloke. I have a friend who I wanted to hug for ages. We got there in the end. Lol!
awww .. thats good. i hug her every now and then but the hugs are different now. she used to give me tight hugs now theyre just like pat pat ya know…..and yeahh i dont like it …. HATE IT
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