marriage help: hey my name is rachel and i live in fairbanks alaska, im 15 and pregnant. - Help.com

well first your parent are worng even if your didnt listen thay should be supprtive and if you boy frinds wants to take care for his baby he should how old is he

if you want to live in poverty, go ahead and marry your boyfriend. if he is much older than you, old enough to be financially secure, then he probably should be in jail.

if you have decided to keep the baby, please give it the best chance in life by putting it up for adoption.

Hi Rachel,
Try looking at this from your parents perspective a bit. I hope they will be supportive, but right now they’ve had a real big shock. Okay, I know you need a lot of support, and maybe their reaction wasn’t ideal, but you’re going to have to work this one out with them. You’re going to have to, because you’re not an adult, so they’re in charge to a certain extent.
First things. If your bf is about your age, then he’s probably okay, but if he’s several years older than you, then yes, he could be in real trouble with the law. At 15, the law says you’re too young to be able to decide whether or not you’re old enough for s**. You may think that’s total nonsense, but that’s what the law says.
Second, at 15, you’re very, very young to be thinking about getting married. Like very young. I’m not saying that marriage isn’t a good thing, and I’m hoping that your bf is the most amazingly wonderful person and that your marriage lasts fifty years and is incredibly happy. But the odds of that are not real good, and that’s what your parents will think when you tell them you want to marry him.
You are going to have to make peace with your parents. You’re in the wrong, and you’re going to have to be humble and apologetic. It’s no good telling them you’re mature and you want to leave home. You can’t do this on your own, either legally or emotionally. You need ‘em Rachel.
I don’t suppose this is really what you want to hear… But I mean it well.

And finally, good luck! Be strong, you’ll need to be.

is very good advice James. Remember that your parents do love you.
Even though they don’t look supportive they are looking at the big picture as they see it. That may not look very useful to you but you have to live for the rest of your life with your parents. They’re the only parents you have.

dont do the adoption if you dont have to a life of not know your praents sucks and can drive you crazy if you can care for it do what it takes if not then see if famly can help and if still no then think about adoption.

i agree that james’ reply is excellent. reidenmille, sorry if i was blunt.

I was in exactly the same situation as you.
Then my boyfriend dissapeared off the face on the earth.

I tried to look afte my baby alone at 15 with no support, when he was 5 monthes old I started back at fulltime school, I bassically had a nervous breakdown with the stress.
I called the child services to come and take my baby because I didn’t want the state I was in to affect him.
A few weeks later I’d pulled myself together and went back to try and get my child back..
They never gave him back, because I had no support. It’s cheaper for the social services to adopt children than to actually help you.
He was adopted against my will.
A few years went by, a dozen or more suicide attempts..

Now I’m older and have had another baby and every says wat a great mother I am, but I will NEVER EVER be truely happy, EVER, Because the constant pain I feel inside, is like having to live out a limb, I would rather of had my legs torn away. Maybe I’ll meet him again, but his childhnood with me, his mother, will be forever gone.

So my advice to you, is to really make sure that you have the best support you can possibly have in order to be the best mother you can to YOUR child, because this is your child, you give kittens away, not babies.
Please make ammends with your parents even if you have to beg, you do need them so much, you’re still a child yourself, if not there must be some family member or longterm friends who cares enough to help you right now.