Family help: My dad is crazy, he tries to control every situation possible.If it were possible, my dad would try and control the world. - Help.com

im not excatly sure wat to sayy or how to help u wich isn;t much help im terribly sry but i hope u make wat U think is the best decision ~ good luck ~

You don’t say which one of your parents you mainly live with. It sounds like it is your dad. Men seem to handle insecurity often by trying to control those they care about. Probably he was already that way which contributed to the divorce. He is overstepping his authority with your mom who really does not have to take that behaviour from him. They are divorced. As you are willing to it probably would be best to go to court with your mom. you are both entitled to not have him bullying you like that. Unless he is willing to listen to you both and back off a bit, then you should consider that.
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All the best
gill

hi greendayluvr14 again,
I made another post but it seems to have vanished to wherever lost posts go!
I have read quite a lot about people who try to control others. My marriage ended because my husband had been brought up by a mother who did this. Some people can not give up trying to control people’s lives because they think they know best. They do not realise that not everyone is the same, and that they have to let their children have their own experiences, which might be different to theirs.To give them the benefit of the doubt, they do not seem to be aware of what they are doing.

Sometimes it is possible to let them know what they are doing, and that it is damaging the relationship, because they are suffocating you and not giving you your own space. Sometimes you can say to them “look i know you want to be in my life, and i want you to be, but i need to do things MY way”.

Some situations are a bit more scarey. And that is when you need help. From the courts, or possibly a Domestic Abuse hotline, who will be able to advise you better, because controlling behaviours can be a form of abuse if they are disturbing your life, or making you frightened.

I got his number from a book I have. In America and Canada it will allow you to get a hotline in your area to discuss your problems with someone. It is for teens as well as women. Sometimes it is enough to do that, to help you feel empowered in the situation. It is 1-800-799-SAFE.

Hey greenday,

two years till you can legally move out :-)

No seriously, I moved out at 17 and suddenly my relationship w my parents became amazing…

its heaps better now.

1. talk to him about his innapropriate behavior
2. refuse to enter into conversations where he is being a control freak

eg- dad: what homework are you doing?
you: just some maths.
dad:let me see that?
you: It would be more appropriate for me to do it by myself as that way ill learn more.

it seriously works.
also metaphores work… like you could tell him a story about a guy who let a butterfly free, or about someone opening a door to let the light in, or someone letting a flower grow how it wants to grow…

whatever you do
Goodluck
G