Person help: I’m an incredibly shy person. - Help.com

do you know what “social phobia” means?

how old are you?

well, try to make a test and see it for yourself. there’s this test also in the internet, it’s called leibowitz test

http://www.anxietyhelp.org/informatio…

there are very helpful courses to get over this thing.

well, I would start to google my city where I live or the country and “social phobia” and look what I get. I personally went to a course in Israel that help me deal with social phobia. it was funded by the state.
you can go to a private group therapy or therapy but it will probaby cost much money. will you be able to talk about it with your parents?
I don’t know how it goes in USA, maybe you can get psychologist therpy as a part of your insurance?

Talk to a doctor also. I had issues with shyness for 35 years before it was realized that there was a medication that could help. Not that meds are for everyone, but I sure feel better about myself. Therapy was also helpful. There are some churches that offer a counselor for free.

what is idk?

listen, what you have can be treated with something called CBT that means Cognitive Behavioural therapy. I studied psychology and I have social phobia myself, I had severe, now it’s mild. I know much about it and want to help you, but give me some more info. what you will be willing to do and what not.

basically CBT therapy is about checking your thoughts for example let say you need to go to the store and buy something and than you have thoughts like “The sales person will think I am stupid” and then you try to see it objectively and assess how realistic is your thought. for example you try to check evident from reaity. lets say “he has no reason to think I am stupid, I am not stupid my math teacher said I am smart”. and than you do those excersize togther with your psychologist and it can really help.

before I write more what do you say? how do you like it?

Talk to as many people as you can, the more you talk to people the easier it becomes. Be brave, be bold. Do not care what anyone thinks, say to yourself i am a good person no matter what anyone says. I think being shy has to do with condifence, self esteem. just get out there and speak up when you think or want something

The best way to get over your shyness is to just go out, no matter how much you don’t want to. Life isn’t going to drop the perfect social situations into your lap just like that. You need to go out and get them. The easiest thing to do is start talking with strangers as if you’ve been friends forever. And the best way to do that is to talk to people who you need to interact with anyway, like bank tellers or video rental employees or fast-food servers. You don’t have to get into a deep conversation about life and its possible meanings; just say something off-the-cuff, like current events (’You hear about the indictment of the mayor of Detroit?’) or sports (’You excited about the NHL playoffs?’) or even the weather (’All this cold weather; when do you think it will let up so Spring can start?’). More often than not you’ll get a positive response from someone and you can have as much as a two minute conversation which should be plenty to get you into the pattern of talking to people on a whim.

anoni200 wrote:
what is idk?

It means ‘I don’t know.’

My therapist started me out by having me just ask strangers what time it was.

uxbridge2009 wrote:
lol the problem is that idk how to be confident.

Confidence is being assured of yourself. confidence is ONLY concerning yourself with what YOU think of yourself. Think your great and you will be great

well in the begining it feels not real. but when you keep doing it it changes how you think. there are also self help book about this issue if you think you can make it alone and don’t want to go to therapy

the ideal thing is to find a good CBT therapist. give it a tought. you are young it’s the best time to change it.

Get help while young. Don’t waste the years.

exactly. I wish I had this site when I was 17 and someone could tell me what I should do!

if it makes you feel any better. i just got marked severe social phobia. i took the quiz a couple of times to make sure.
its like everyone else knows how to act and you dont doesnt it.

danillanavarro. who doesnt?

i used 2 be shy so that means it is possible to not be shy any more what i did is start a new school or group a make a first impression like what i did was on the first day i picked a personalaty now i am the sassy sexy girl that is has 0% shy i her
hope i could help

u tlkin 2 me i am yo frin now i gonna hlp u well what u should do is
weel u shud jz be ur self nd dont worry bout wat oda peplz sai talkin to gurls aint bad iz normal nunz gun happen to u