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I have a broken heart. I cannot deal with this at all. I thought I could but I am not strong emotionally.
I posted about it a few times but I have had a friend for 2 years a very close friend who I fell in love with. He told me he loved me as well. I stuck by him through so muc & never gave up on him but one day out of the blue he disappeared for a month. I thought he went back to what he did before & I was scared. My friend messaged him & told him I was hurting & I head back from him. He thought that I was avoiding him but I wasn’t. Anyway I ended up buying him a BDay present & he was gone for another week. After he spent it he was gone again a few more days. I had a weird feeling that he had met someone so I e-mailed him & asked. He said he did meet someone but that we would always be friends & for me not to be sad.
He still wants me to be in his life & said we would work this out together. I do not know if its worth it at all. I do not know what to do.I love him so much.
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you may think that noone is there to help but there really is. i went through rough times and just broke down crying to one of my friends who i didnt expect to understand and surprisingly she did. i can talk to her about anything now and she will understand. make sure you drink water and eat to keep your body strong if you are getting no sleep. try to read or something to get yourself to sleep. even if you cry yourself to sleep, you still get sleep. i dont know you but everyone is better then suicide. god out you here for a reason. and like my favorite quote says ” when life throws you a pit, plant a cherry tree”.
Well the thing is I have no friends that live near me besides him. The people I was close to moved away & we lost touch & I cannot find them anymore. A girl who I thought was my best friend for 12 years ignores me & the other person I am close to lives in NY. so I am alone. :(
Honey I am so sorry for your pain. Please hang in there and know that in time you will be ok. Many of us have felt a similar pain as you are feeling. I promise if you hang in there and take care of yourself you will be ok! Know that you deserve better and don’t allow him to have control over your life. It is time you take back control! When he told you he loved you did he mean romantically? Have you ever had anything with this man besides a friendship?
It is possible that when you final learn to let go of him, someone new will appear in your life. Sometimes the people we think are our soul mates, are just really good friens who are cute! There is someone else out there for you!
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Honey I am so sorry for your pain. Please hang in there and know that in time you will be ok. Many of us have felt a similar pain as you are feeling. I promise if you hang in there and take care of yourself you will be ok! Know that you deserve better and don’t allow him to have control over your life. It is time you take back control! When he told you he loved you did he mean romantically? Have you ever had anything with this man besides a friendship?
He said he was in love with me & he said many other things. We have always had a friendship but it was not like just any regular friendship. He wasn’t ready for anything serious because of certain things he was going through & I waited. I proved to him I wasn’t like the other girls or people who would abandon him but I guess that wasn’t good enough. A week earlier before he disappeared we were supposed to meet up & the things he said to me you do not say to someone you think of as JUST a friend.He even told me one time he wanted to work on a relationship with me. I dunno what happened.
Have you been able to get an explanation from him? You need to give this situation time, which means you are going to have to be patient. In the mean time you need to do what is best for you. This means picking yourself up and living your life, whether he is in it or not. Guys are strange sometimes. Sometimes they have no idea what they want. The whole being friends with a girl seems to confuse them so much. Maybe you need to sent him a message that he has to explain the situation to you, or risk losing your friendship.
The other thing I want you to know is it is ok to cry yourself to sleep. Sometimes are souls need the cleansing. If you feel like crying than cry, but don’t give up on yourself. NO man is allowed to determine your worth. You are a strong intelligent beautiful young lady who deserves life.
Should I paste his replies in here? He has answered but still regardless its so weird to me.
It is up to you! You can either paste his replies or give us a summary.
one second please, what cant you forget? what has happend? we cant help unless you tell us?
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I’dgive a summary but I cannot thing straight.
Here is his first reply:
“I cannot tell you how much of an impact you have had on my life. You are an incredible person and I would never want to lose you in my life or at least on my buddy list, as you have been.
I have met someone. I am sad to hear that you have been crying. I do not wish to say goodbye to you, though. That is, unless you don’t want to talk to me anymore. I think that would be a real tragedy.
So, please don’t take this the wrong way. I still care about you and I always will. I hope you will still be my friend. You have been so much more than a friend to me. I think the timing must have been off or something.”
oh YAY typos up there that I made & cannot edit. (there is no way to edit on this site…right?} Those typos are bugging me now. heh
Okay his second reply:
“I hope and pray that our friendship will outlast these circumstances. As you said, everything happens for a reason. You will without a doubt find someone who deserves you. Love him unconditionally, as I am well aware you are capable. Love is not something you keep in a box. Love as freely as you can, with the care you did with me. Did… nothing has changed. We are still friends, as always.
Everything does happen for a reason, and G-d put you in my life to see me through a very difficult time. I hope I will be able to return the favor someday. For some reason, our relationship is meant to be as it is, and not as it isn’t. That might make you sad. Don’t let it. Our relationship is beautiful.
I am sorry it took me so long to come clean with you. I hope you will forgive me.”
I wonder what the “Did was supposed to be.
Ok, you need to let him go. He has met someone else. Whether this person is love or a novelty that won’t last you don’t know. The thing is you deserve better. If he led you on, then he was not being a good friend. It is probably best if you don’t socialize with him for a while, at least until you are feeling much much better. He may care about you as a friend, but it is clear he does not like you as more. Like I said earlier guys confuse friendship and something more too often. He was confused about his feelings for you and now he seems to want you as a friend only. He sounds like he is sincere and wants you to be happy. It also sounds like he realizes he led you on and is sorry for this. It is possible in the future that he will realize the error of his ways, but you are to precious to wait. You deserve a man who would never choose someone else!!!!!!! *Maximina gives bublz a big hug and whispers this to shall pass*
Thank you Maximina. I will do as you suggest & I hope & pray that I can get through this. *hugs back*
Please let me know how you are doing in the next for days!! I will be worried about you! You will be ok!!!!! Shout me if you need any more support. I have added you to my friends list. To add me click on the little guy with the + sign by my name. This way if you need to reach me you can find me!!
Hi, I don’t know what it is about male female relationships that always ends up so complicated. As you already saw, I am going through a similar complicated relationship…but at least he had the decency to let you go when he knew he couldn’t be what you deserved. I feel your pain so so much you have no idea…I found this site the same way you did. But as painful as heartbreak is and feeling things spin out of control, I feel like it only lays a path for clarity and better things. Your thoughts of harming yourself makes me ache for you.
If more people had souls like yours, there would be much less hurt in this world. Please do us all a favor and stay good, and open and unchanged. True love has to be in store for you, this just wasn’t it and it sucks that you became the victim of this guy’s confusion. Stay open always and don’t let disappointments make you bitter. I wish you so much of the best.
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bublzdablond wrote:
Thank you Maximina. I will do as you suggest & I hope & pray that I can get through this. *hugs back*
I know you will get through this. You are a lovely person.
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Hey, take a deep breath and everything is going to be ok
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I am at work now & I am trying not to think about it but its really quiet here so I cannot concentrate at all.
When he disappeared in Feb. I thought he was back to doing what he was before & I was so scared. I know now that he was with a girl & turned off his feelings for me with no care at all. If he cared like he said he wouldn’t have put me through that. Its all just words.
How can people treat someone that way & feel great still? Ugh I feel like I am going to throw up
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