home help: My parents keep fighting:( I want to go to a foster home but im under age… what should i do? - Help.com

yeah:(

why would you want that, you have two parents who care about you. my parents fight to i just go to a place where no troubles can find me…

well the thing is my parents dont let me go anywhere without an adult and with one adult they start yelling about the other one and i am caught in the middle

its not your falt…. and you dont have to leave your home all you have to do is hide in your own mind because no one can fight unless you let them

i try to stop them but they always yell at me to leave them alone but than when i leave them they get tooooooo into the fight

what can i do????????

you can talk to any one as long as you trust them… you cant really do any thing about it show them that you are more important then their stupid fight…

maybe i should run away

than they would know how much their fights hurt me

ur too young to go to a foster home!?!?!?!

i wudnt run away, i think that wud affect u more than it would them

how?

you cant run away because what if something happens to you? when you run away….you just cant trust us its the wrong thing to do..

well if ur too young togo into a foster home, then ur obv too young to b away from ur family,running away would cause future problems in ur life- it def wouldn’t b pleasant, my friend ran away wen she was 15 and became a heroin addictt …

if i were u i’d tlk to ur mum & dad to try & dissolve the situation, i mean there are other options…

Picia.Peachk wrote:
you cant run away because what if something happens to you? when you run away….you just cant trust us its the wrong thing to do..

cant trust us :S

well i can go to a foster home but my parents have to say yes

but if i stay here something can happen to me too:(

and if i were to talk to my mom and dad… they would just fight 2 days later

wow….. i like the way you think… that could help alot…:) thanks

well the worst that can happen is emotional trama…. they wouldnt hurt you would they? yea or if u run away, run away to a relative

no they wouldnt hurt me thay would get me INTO the fight more than i already am:(

I reckon if ur parents r just rowing if u spoke to them they’d realise how it’s affecting u…

what does a social worker do?

yea u can just call and say they are abusing you just bc they arnt hitting you they are still putting emotional trama witch can lead to bad things

and now… their not talking to eachother so if someone needs to say something to the other im the messenger:(

LOL its what i’m studying to become :P a social worker in this situation would work with your parents & yourself as a mediator, if the social worker decided it was an unasfe situation they wud have the power to take you away n put u in a home

oh:|

But you can’t get one without goin to another adult like a teacher

thats neglect and dont do it they cant force u even tho they are ur parents

i want to live with my parents but i cant live the way i am:(

this makes no sense, i think ur just upset because ur parents keep yelling at each other and need to sit down & speak with them

I cant…

yea tell them how them fighting effects you

why not ??????

cuz they will yell @ me

tell them to shut up and listen “stop fighting for like five min. so i can tell you something this might just be the most important thing ever.”

:|

Dont b scared, and don’t yell, be mature and civilised and say

mum, dad i need to talk to you both, I can’t cope with the arguments you have and it’s making me not one to live here anymore. I love you both very much but if this keeps going on the way it has been I’m going to have to leave

they cant keep doing this to u it efects u more then it dose them

i agree with kimmeko

hmmm… you think it’ll work?

yea just ask them how them fighting will effect you?

ok thanks you pplz

Well it won’t hurt to try, what’s the worst that can happen- no more than what’s happening now.
If they see how mature you respond then mayb they’ll realise how stupide they’ve been acting and share whats really wrong with you

no problem and yea kimmeko is right they might just realise how stupid they have been and see how it can and might effect you as u r now and as u grow up

ok.. ill try…and since u guys helped me ill help u too!:D

^.^

Contact child services…?

and my problem has already been solved but thank u any way

so has mine i guess!

what was ur problem?

the parent fighting thing and the running away and alll that stuff:(

Picia.Peachk wrote:
what was ur problem?

rofl keep up- u jus solved it

me?

:)

Picia.Peachk wrote:
me?

go bak to sleep picia.peachk

…?oo plz call me alicia