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I am feeling distressingly full of rage and I don’t want to be. I have carried a lot of anger around for many years, but this situation is new. The stupidest things are causing me to explode - most of the time within myself, but at times publicly and it is not good.

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☆miss lilies☆ offline Verified User (2 years, 7 months) Long Term User Shouts: 271 #
An Undisclosed Location | 1 year, 7 months ago (1 minute after post)

Hello, would you like to talk about it?

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Buckland, B9, GB | 1 year, 7 months ago (6 minutes after post)

I guess i need to

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mberube55 offline Verified User (1 year, 7 months) Long Term User Shouts: 0 #
Detroit, MI, US | 1 year, 7 months ago (7 minutes after post)

well what is the problem. i tend to keep things bottled up until i explose also. get it out on here and we can help hopefully

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Buckland, B9, GB | 1 year, 7 months ago (7 minutes after post)

But dont know why I feel so angry

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mberube55 offline Verified User (1 year, 7 months) Long Term User Shouts: 0 #
Detroit, MI, US | 1 year, 7 months ago (7 minutes after post)

well, whats happening in ur life right now? anything happen to upset you?

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☆miss lilies☆ offline Verified User (2 years, 7 months) Long Term User Shouts: 271 #
An Undisclosed Location | 1 year, 7 months ago (8 minutes after post)

Well, this morning i felt like exploding. They say anger are results of the feelings we have suppressed. Do you believe it’s true with you?

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Buckland, B9, GB | 1 year, 7 months ago (8 minutes after post)

I guess that things are just building up and are hard to deal with

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Buckland, B9, GB | 1 year, 7 months ago (9 minutes after post)

I supose so..

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☆miss lilies☆ offline Verified User (2 years, 7 months) Long Term User Shouts: 271 #
An Undisclosed Location | 1 year, 7 months ago (9 minutes after post)

AJF wrote:
I guess that things are just building up and are hard to deal with

that’s it. The first thing we have to do is to pin point and identify these things that make us sad. when they are not addressed, they would turn into anger.

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mberube55 offline Verified User (1 year, 7 months) Long Term User Shouts: 0 #
Detroit, MI, US | 1 year, 7 months ago (10 minutes after post)

well what kind of things are building. girls, life in general. shes right, you need to find the cause of this, and figure out a way for you to somehow fix or help deal

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Buckland, B9, GB | 1 year, 7 months ago (13 minutes after post)

Well - I have had a lot of stress, conflict and frustration, and dissapointment this past year…

I’m also at the moment trying monastic life so many adjustments and frustrations…. also many past issues are coming up that upset me for differect reasons, regrets and sadness for some things lost - anger and rage over others. all this on top of my trying to fit in here in a system that does’nt always seem fair. also on the spiritual level - so much is dry and distant at present so I’m hurting !!!

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Buckland, B9, GB | 1 year, 7 months ago (14 minutes after post)

Been here at the mon, just 3 months so far

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Buckland, B9, GB | 1 year, 7 months ago (16 minutes after post)

It was also while here that the issue of my previous post arose - this adds into the mix - I can only hope that it is all just a process of coming to know myself better before others and the Almighty.

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☆miss lilies☆ offline Verified User (2 years, 7 months) Long Term User Shouts: 271 #
An Undisclosed Location | 1 year, 7 months ago (16 minutes after post)

You know, i made a post that did not tell the details of what my emotional thingies. But two or three people asked me if i am still in touch with my spiritual growth. I guess i can ask you the same thing. If the distance is not helping, it is not too late to grab it and hold it to you once more.

Things are not going to work over time, but with patience in your part, they might end up nice. Not necessarily they way you WANT them to be, BUT how they should be for the betterment of all.

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mberube55 offline Verified User (1 year, 7 months) Long Term User Shouts: 0 #
Detroit, MI, US | 1 year, 7 months ago (18 minutes after post)

ever think about maybe getting some friends together, go somewhere to get away for a little bit. maybe just think everything over and cry it out. sounds like you need a getaway for a little while. i tend to bring up past alot, past tends to hold alot of regret and sadness for everyone. but people learn from that, and you better yourself. im not religious, so i cant exactly help you in that area.

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Buckland, B9, GB | 1 year, 7 months ago (18 minutes after post)

Re the spiritual side of things - Yes i can do more, but it just is so hard feeling nothing. But i agree that perseverance in a key here.

I just find this rage so upsetting

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Buckland, B9, GB | 1 year, 7 months ago (20 minutes after post)

your also right - talking really helps and i do have someone i can potentially talk with - they are away right now however. Thanks for your being around and willing.

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☆miss lilies☆ offline Verified User (2 years, 7 months) Long Term User Shouts: 271 #
An Undisclosed Location | 1 year, 7 months ago (20 minutes after post)

Oh the rage, oh dear. I don’t know the details but did you all the things that you can to solve it? do you believe you could not do anything about it no more? because sometimes, i feel helpless and i get frustrated. The same thing with you?

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Buckland, B9, GB | 1 year, 7 months ago (22 minutes after post)

Well yes I can do more re the rage - I will talk with a friend about it and on the spiritual level attempt to address it there - it just leaves you feeling so helpless

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mberube55 offline Verified User (1 year, 7 months) Long Term User Shouts: 0 #
Detroit, MI, US | 1 year, 7 months ago (23 minutes after post)

well, then when that person gets back, take a couple days and go out, have some fun, get a load off your mind for awhile. talking always helps, always makes anger disapear. dont feel helpless either. one way or another, things will work out. things will lighten up, they always do. if there wasnt depression and anger, happiness, love, and all the good feelings wouldnt be much at all.

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☆miss lilies☆ offline Verified User (2 years, 7 months) Long Term User Shouts: 271 #
An Undisclosed Location | 1 year, 7 months ago (26 minutes after post)

Oh yes, i can feel the helplessness. No fun at all. See, you are not alone and wait up, there are more posters coming up to tell you they feel exactly the same way. I am glad that we are normal. Sometimes i feel like an alien feeling the same thing. Well, in this post, it makes the two of us. At least not alone.

The spiritual level, whoever the name of your god is, he knows you are in need of help. Since he cannot talk back like hearing his voice literally, take sometime off and listen to yourself. sometimes, the voice of peace comes when you are in silence.

Yes, just like he said above, take some time off. It will be good. Maybe for some days. Take a drive at the country spot or at the park where no one knows you. Or at the beach.

Take a journal with you.

Talk to a friend. We need human contact most of the time. :)

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Buckland, B9, GB | 1 year, 7 months ago (28 minutes after post)

Thanks both :)

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An Undisclosed Location | 1 year, 7 months ago (29 minutes after post)

We really hope we helped. Do take care, keep us posted.

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