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Girl I like has a boyfriend.

We met last September at school and have been talking since. I didn’t know about the guy until January when I found her on myspace. From the looks of her page I could tell she wasn’t crazy about him…so I kept contact. She still has NOT told me about him! She knows now that I like her because I gave her something for Valentines Day. I keep seeing her and we flirt a lot. I try to show her that I can be a potential lover. I haven’t told her how I felt yet. I’m not trying to get in the way of their relationship because that’s plain wrong…I respect it! I just want to know if it’s a good idea to continue doing what I’m doing. Should I wait to tell her how I feel?

If I keep building a strong friendship with her could it lead to something romantic in the future?

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Tyler. offline Verified User (1 year, 10 months) Long Term User Shouts: 1 #
Birmingham, AL, US | 1 year, 8 months ago (3 minutes after post)

well, if you really want her stick with her and as soon as you have a chance take it and tell her how u feel

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Cell offline Verified User (2 years, 9 months) Long Term User Shouts: 64 #
Winnipeg, MB, CA | 1 year, 8 months ago (5 minutes after post)

It depends. Is she worth the wait and potentially never getting a chance with her? Or would it be better to refocus your efforts on someone available? Only you can really decide that.

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SGTJordan offline Verified User (1 year, 9 months) Long Term User Shouts: 1 #
An Unknown Location | 1 year, 8 months ago (5 minutes after post)

you have to becareful about her bf if she leaves him for you he might become upset and blame it on you, however i would say go for it keep doing what your doing tell her how you feel if it seems like the right time and you will stand a chance aslong as you dont pressure her to dump her bf or anything beacuse she might come to resent you for that.

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Serina the Best offline Verified User (1 year, 8 months) Long Term User Shouts: 25 #
US | 1 year, 8 months ago (56 minutes after post)

well id say do that but i think dont get soo close to her that ur always just going to be friends leave space to get closer in the romantic way when they (her and her boyfriend) break up give her a little time to take everything in and breathe then you can probably make your move and tell her how you feel if you get really close to her it’ll probably be like nick jonas and miley cyrus ur too good of friends that when you start you romantic way you cant do it cuz you think of them as a friend or something like that lol (im really addicted to disney kinds of artist and like mtv lol) hope i helped! =) ♥ ~serina

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An Unknown Location | 1 year, 8 months ago (1 day, 22 hours after post)

i am a girl and i know the feeling that when you like someone that they like someone else. is the girl you like really close to this guy……like is she the age to get married?

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mar98 offline Verified User (1 year, 8 months) Long Term User Shouts: 7 #
Dracut, MA, US | 1 year, 8 months ago (3 days, 21 hours after post)

Sunshine_star5: she is not really close to this guy.. I think he pushed her into a relationship..and no she’s 18 he’s 24.

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An Unknown Location | 1 year, 7 months ago (3 weeks, 4 days after post)

buddy, im in the same position as you.

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Tyler_Lake 92 offline Unverified User #
An Unknown Location | 1 year, 7 months ago (1 month, 1 week after post)

I know how you feel, im going through the same thing, keep in contact, hopefully that will work for me too!

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An Unknown Location | 1 year, 5 months ago (2 months, 2 weeks after post)

I know what your saying too man…. Its really hard and confusing.

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An Unknown Location | 1 year, 5 months ago (3 months, 1 week after post)

im in the same position as u but the girl i like is actully like dumping her bf and then im gonna make my move

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An Unknown Location | 9 months, 2 weeks ago (11 months after post)

You should think about the situation twice. I feel like since she has been in a relationship for a while now, she should have let you known that she has a boyfriend. Doesn’t it make you wonder that if you were in a relationship with her she might flirt with other guys as well? I know that when you’re really into someone, it partially blinds you but do you really wanna get involved with someone like that? My best advice is that you should bring up the topic of her boyfriend, ask her if she’s involved with anyone and if she says yes, ask her how serious the relationship is. If she says no, there’s your chance to ask her out man. Life is too short to play around with someone’s heart as she is with yours. Good luck

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junior696 offline Unverified User #
An Unknown Location | 7 months ago (1 year, 1 month after post)

na dude dont keep talking to her *** a friend or thats all ull ever be tell her u dont want 2 be friends with her u want her 2 be all yours and stop talking 2 her and if for some reason she tries talking 2 u just act like your not interested .if she trully likes u shell hit up and sayng she left her boyfriend if she never hits u up she doesnt like u and she was just a flirt !!! dont ever talk to her ever again

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hunterass9 offline Unverified User #
An Unknown Location | 5 months, 1 week ago (1 year, 3 months after post)

junior696 u dont have the best advise….i am good friends with her and i dont wanna not talk to her and i know she likes me and she knows i like her…but its tat i dont wanna make them break up cause shes happy how do i just slowly come in to the pic as i push him out more…it would be best if a girl helped us out here…

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An Unknown Location | 1 month, 1 week ago (1 year, 7 months after post)

the best thing for u to do would be to keep in touch with her and keep make her realize that u do like her..she likes u but she is in a relationship with someone.. if she is she is definately serious about him. Try to help them out in whatever way u can and keep on talking abt their relationship trying to know whts going on. At the same time u also get to know her better. The moment u see there is a crack, just try to tell her not to worry. Be as funny as u can be, she’ll like it, trust me. It iwll bring her to a point when u can ask her if she wasnt with the guy she is with would she be with u. Then cut off and wait for her to contact u. Say that it was not possible for u guys to talk as she was with someone else. Shez gunna miss u and come back to u eventually. It will work. Im on the last stage and waiting, been 1 day and she txt me a already. It works.

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