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i have been with my GF for 3 1/2 years and we just

recently split up, 5 days leter a guy from norways is coming over to see her and now he has her slightly hooked to him, i love her with all my heart and want to get her back, i get the feeling it wont ever happen tho,im afraid she aint ever going to love me again :( sounds stupid maybe i know but she seems happy with the norway guy, even ater such a long time together an s short distance apart…. she also pinned me to a bed and kissed me and said ‘i still love you’ 2 days before he came but then a few days later she regrets it, can yeli reg somthing tht yaad for so long? :(
i think the problem we had was bout the last 5 months of our relationship, where we spent too much time on PC games and not talking about us, then she said to me …. we need a break, and becos i love her so much i agreed….. now she is stuck into this other lad and i have no hope for getting my love back, please help me try, i hurt like everyday and evertime i breath, i am in so much agony as to why all this has happened and she dont text me or ne fing either, its like she has totaly forgot me after such short time like a week, i really want us to have another go but i cant while this guy is around, and dont think when he is gone now either… myself and a few other people close to her are worrying as she has managaed to find someone so fast and completelyfrget bout us, and just worried that she may make a mistake or get hurt… surley we all deserve another chance to put things right…

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lexie* offline Verified User (1 year, 10 months) Long Term User Shouts: 1 #
North Olmsted, OH, US | 6 months, 2 weeks ago (4 minutes after post)

if she truly loves you she will realize tht the guy shes w/ isnt the right one. you should just give her some time. try to sho her u have changed (dont spend so much time playin w/ games) maybe start a FRIENDly relationship and thenit will grow from there. DONT WORRY BE HAPPY!!!! hehe

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cowd21 offline Verified User (6 months, 2 weeks) Long Term User Shouts: 0 #
GB | 6 months, 2 weeks ago (11 minutes after post)

lexie* wrote:
if she truly loves you she will realize tht the guy shes w/ isnt the right one.

i really do understand this i quit playing the games the day she walked out, she played em too…. i just want to show her im the guy she fell in love with and wont ever change…. but im afraid she aint ever going to love me again :( sounds stupid maybe i know but she seems happy with the norway guy…. she also pinned me to a bed and kissed me 2 days before he came but then a few days later she regrets it :(

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lexie* offline Verified User (1 year, 10 months) Long Term User Shouts: 1 #
North Olmsted, OH, US | 6 months, 2 weeks ago (15 minutes after post)

mhmh… is there something better about him than you, looks, brains, strength? anything

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忍者™ offline Verified User (1 year, 6 months) Long Term User Shouts: 4 #
Jackson, MI, US | 6 months, 2 weeks ago (16 minutes after post)

Girls do that what I think you should do is try to find his deepest darkest secret out, and than black mailhim to go back to norway, and never talk to her again. That is certainly what I would do if that was my problem

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Burbank, CA, US | 6 months, 2 weeks ago (16 minutes after post)

She is probably with the other guy because she doesn’t want to be alone and breaking up was very painful for her. Then along comes this other guy and instead of dealing with her pain she jumps into another relationship.

I can relate to your pain, I had this happen to me many, many years ago. I broke up with a man I was seeing for almost 3 years and then 4 days later he went on a date with someone he had been working with, I was broken hearted and confused. He ended up dating her. The pain seemed unbearable but what I learned was to take care of myself and my emotions. The most important thing for you to do right now is to allow yourself to feel the pain but now wallow in it. Talk to your friends, but also get out and keep busy. I am not going to lie, it won’t be easy. I would also suggest to not have contact with her right now for a month or so and then see how you feel. This way you aren’t dealing with the source of pain on a regular basis and hearing about her new relationship. I know right now all you want is her back with you, I know that is one of the deepest pains there is. I also know you can get through it.

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lexie* offline Verified User (1 year, 10 months) Long Term User Shouts: 1 #
North Olmsted, OH, US | 6 months, 2 weeks ago (18 minutes after post)

wht was ur relationship like w/ her did you just stare at the computer screen and play games w/ her or did you actually ever sit down and share ur lives w/ each other?

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cowd21 offline Verified User (6 months, 2 weeks) Long Term User Shouts: 0 #
GB | 6 months, 2 weeks ago (26 minutes after post)

lexie* wrote:
wht was ur relationship like w/ her did you just stare at the computer screen and play games w/ her or did you actually ever sit down and share ur lives w/ each other?

we wernt glued to it… but we didnt talk much bout oyr relationship…. i feel such a fool and letting go is hard yes… but so soon …. thats what gets me…. i hope things will work out

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Dots offline Verified User (6 months, 3 weeks) Long Term User Shouts: 3 #
An Unknown Location | 6 months, 2 weeks ago (3 hours, 16 minutes after post)

If it was meant to be, it will happen again.

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i have been with my GF for 3 1/2 years and we just recently split up, 5 days leter a guy from norways is coming over to see her and now he has her slightly hooked to him, i love her with all my heart and want to get her back, i get the feeling it wont ever happen tho, i think the problem we had was bout the last 5 months of our relationship, where we spent too much time on PC games and not talking about us, then she said to me …. we need a break, and becos i love her so much i agreed….. now she is stuck into this other lad and i have no hope for getting my love back, please help me try, i hurt like everyday and evertime i breath, i am in so much agony as to why all this has happened and she dont text me or ne fing either, its like she has totaly forgot me after such short time like a week, i really want us to have another go but i cant while this guy is around… myself and a few other people close to her are worrying as she has managaed to find someone so fast and just worried that she may make a mistake or get hurt… surley we all deserve another chance to put things right…

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