Love help: alright i have two girls my first baby’s name is krissyann

rebek~always

alright i have two girls my first baby’s name is krissyann

and my 2nd baby’s name is kaseymay when krissyann was born she was 3lb and kaseymay was 2lb they are both my life i have worked my but off for them and they mean the world to me i would do anything for my babys, the problem is that i dont feel as close to kaseymay as i do to krissyann i dont know if thats b/c krissyann was my first kid or what i do know that when krissyann was born that she stayed in the hospital for 2 week’s but i got to stay with her the whole time and never missed a moment now with kaseymay she stayed in the hospital for 3 week’s and they transfered her to a different hospital and i stayed in the one she was born at i had a c-section with her so i could not go see her for several days i only got to see her twice after she was born and i only held her once i remember when they brought her to my room she was so tiny and looked like an angel,they told me that they were only going to bring her in for about 10 min and then check her temp. and if it was low then they would take her back to the inkurbater (spelled wrong i know) well anyway they did take her back and then i got to see her before they transfered her but i did not get to hold her or even kiss her goodbye,well now i feel like their is a void like we never connected like me and krissyann did i mean dont get me wrong i love my baby’s, both of them but i just dont feel like we bonded like me and krissyann did and i try to bond with her as much as i can but she is more interested in other thing’s like walking and talking and i feel like a bad mother b/c i dont feel the same bond with her as i do with krissyann do any of you think that it may be b/c we were split up when she was born or is it that im a bad mother or what i would like to know what all of you think even if you dont have kids and if you have had or have the same problem i would love to hear your comment’s
thank you all for hearing my story!!!

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Anonymous #
1 year, 8 months ago (10 minutes after post)

three pounds!? two pounds! oh my goodness, are they alright?!

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rebek~always 1 #
US | 1 year, 8 months ago (28 minutes after post)

yes they are just fine kirssyann is 3 now and kaseymay is 1 and they were just small but they are just fine thanks for asking!

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rebek~always 1 #
US | 1 year, 8 months ago (30 minutes after post)

ok then neujersey… ihave two girl’s and i feel like im not bonding as much with my second little girl as i did with my first dose that help?

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Tyler. 1 #
Birmingham, AL, US | 1 year, 8 months ago (34 minutes after post)

i dont know what to say. how old are you rebek? and i think grow up and say they have a great mother because your nice, funny, and smart..(well sort of) id love you as a mom. :)

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rebek~always 1 #
US | 1 year, 8 months ago (1 hour, 33 minutes after post)

awww thank you ty that means alot to me i really do,do my best so thank’s for your input!! :)

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sillisarah32 0 #
Melbourne, FL, US | 1 year, 8 months ago (1 hour, 37 minutes after post)

do u have a husband or parent you can give your 1st girl to for the day while u spend one day with ur younger???

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rebek~always 1 #
US | 1 year, 8 months ago (2 days, 2 hours after post)

well that dose make sence but i really do feel like i should feel the same for both my girls,i just thought maybe the reason i fill so far from kaseymay was b/c i did not get that first few bonding moment’s with her maybe your right maybe it’s b/c i have more responsibilities and i can not really focus on her the way i could with krissyann,….thank’s never thought about it that way :)

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rebek~always 1 #
US | 1 year, 8 months ago (3 days after post)

yeh now when i spend time with her i try to look at the situation a little different and that help’s i have to remember that i dont have all the time in the day to spend one on one time with her but if i can just spend it with her when i can then i know im doing my best and we will bond even if it’s a different way that i bonded with krissyann :) but anyway thanks agian im glad you gave me your peace of mind:)

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US | 1 year, 7 months ago (3 weeks, 4 days after post)

thank you mas1s that helps :)and dont worry bout the cigg.sometimes we just need one LOL

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rebek~always 1 #
US | 1 year, 7 months ago (3 weeks, 5 days after post)

you know as i sit here i am in aww!!! i dont know how you knew that i felt that way!! but you did i guess in a way i dident know how to say that or i was to scared to addmit that i felt that way but i do it’s scary to say it outloud it’would kill me if i lost either of my girl’s but you knew hmmmmmm……your good!!LOL. but i have been doing better with her trying to spend every moment i can with her and krissyann. and i do always thank god for my girls they are my life and they are number 1. that will never change. but thank you for knowing, i think that maybe i was also scared that i might be the only one that felt that way. And so i dident want to say anything thinking i would be seen as crazy or something!but thanks it mean’s alot to meet someone how know’s how im feeling!!!

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rebek~always 1 #
US | 1 year, 7 months ago (3 weeks, 6 days after post)

thank you!!!!!:):):):)and god bless

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tmmr 0 #
An Unknown Location | 1 year, 7 months ago (3 weeks, 6 days after post)

I have the same situation, but I think it’s just bc kids are different and we are bonded in diff ways.

jtread02 #
An Unknown Location | 1 year, 7 months ago (1 month after post)

I have two daughters also, I do understand how you feel. The relationship that I have with my older one is not the same as the younger. But I feel that I was 20 yrs old when I had her and still doing a bit of growing up myself. My younger daughter didn’t come until I was 27 yrs old. I know that doesn’t seem like alot of time difference, but life’s experiences and maturity (I think) made alot of difference in our relationship. Like you said–its not bad, its just different!!

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punx990 #
An Unknown Location | 1 year, 7 months ago (1 month, 1 week after post)

I just have to ask how old you are?

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punx990 #
An Unknown Location | 1 year, 7 months ago (1 month, 1 week after post)

I just have to ask how old are you?

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