i think that you should just get over your feers you never know this kid might actually bring the nice side of you out if you like the girl then just give the kid a go could you not she probabley throwing all her heart in to giveing this relationship a go cause she prob dont want to introduce some in to her kids life for them to walk out so you might find it all wrong to be with her before you meet the kid
i am alredy doing the nice guy stuff.. like today we planed to go to the beach to have dinner and watch the sun go down.. i bought a nice bottle of wine so that we can enjoy it.. i also got a wicker basket to go along with it.
i might be just ranting now… or i might be just running my nervesness throught you guys. i mean she is due to this house in about 30 min from now
omg is she bringing the kid too lol
I agree… you could try to keep an open mind about the kids… you might be surprised! But if you really, really don’t like kids, then she probably is not the right girl to be dating… so maybe just be straight with her about that… don’t just see her out of desperation if this really isn’t going to work out… don’t mislead her either.
OK, I see she’s bringing the kid…. so give it a chance!! :) Kids can be fun.
no.. she told me she like to keep the kid out of guys she meets… so im not shure if that is a good thing or a bad thing..
no she is not bringing the kid this is the first date for us…
she told me that she is 3 months out of a 2 yr relasonship and i talked to here about it and she told me only one that she is not on the rebound.. so i realy do think that she is not on the rebound. she knows that it has been 3 years since i dated anyone.
should i be conserned that she might still be on the rebound?
oh right ok then there you go see it from her point aswell she dont want the kid to have guys come in and out of the child life so it not to unstable for him/her untill she know this is a stable thing for her then she wont prob introduce you to the kid
no i dont think you should be caus it has been three months she will hae moved on by then just take her word for it
its not that i dont like kids its that….. whell kids runined my mothers life when she had me.. it runied my grandmothers life when she had her…i just dont want my life to be runined…..
good point lillmisscrazy… thanks i know what you mean.. i would not want to have some women come and meet my kid and then another random women and another…
Ahhh…. I misread!!! Sorry!
I believe she would be the best person to know if she was really over the past relationship or not… so I’d believe her. How long it takes for a person to heal depends completely on the circumstances of the break up. She’s probably just ready to get on with her life now.
And yeah, I understand her keeping the kid out of her dating life… I mean unless something gets really serious… because she doesn’t want the kid to get too attached to someone who might not be staying either.
It might do you good to see another point of view on kids then… from someone who sees the kid as the joy of their lives… :) Most people do not feel kids ruined their lives at all. Try to keep an open mind on it. You are not your mother or grandmother and you’re certainly not in the same circumstances they were in to have felt that way about it…
agreeded cattail…
ok im over the kid problem for now…
what kind of music should i be playing in the bake round… and no i dont know what she likes.. she has told me she has been to raves and that she enjoys them.. i have smooth jaz on now… any ideas.. i want to promote a relaxing atmopher.. i have candles and a big beach banket in the center of my room
i tink that you should play something like seven spanish angels if you know that
someting like that anyway or something like footsteps by leowna lewis
Smooth jazz is always relaxing…. sounds good…. but maybe after awhile you can ask what kind of music she likes and change it if she says something different…
I think the smooth jazz would make excellent background music though.
yea i think i will keep smooth jaz on and ask here if she wants somthing else before we sit down and eat.
o man she is here… wish me luck….
right well i hope that eerything goes alright for you but am off to sleep cause it like quarter to one in the morning lol
Best of luck… have a good evening!! :)
If you are not intersted in kids, do not be selfish and let her go.
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You don’t want to raise some other dude’s kid. You’re never so desperate or so lonely that you should sacrifice yourself for nothing.
Grab your manhood, get off the sidewalk, and march on, soldier.
There’s a reason you’re afraid of her kid. You’re not ready to be a daddy.
Like I said: March on.
cattail