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Hey blackmark,
Yeah, toughy that one, however I would really advise that although its hard to continue to try to put your point ahead of thiers in thier way of understanding it will be something you will need to comprehend and have strength for.. Now please don’t get me wrong and think that I’m telling you to go against your parents wishes but tell them exactly whats going on in your mind and of your uncomfortablness to move.. Even if you have to tell them that the way were brought up doesn’t mean that they have to bring you up the exact same way.. you know even if you have to give them examples, yes they may have wonderful and highly respectful views and upbringings but sometimes it can be overbearing… so just a little advise for me is think about where they are coming from so that you can work around it by compromising on thier situation to yours, but ultimately you will have to step up and take a few on the chin for this one….

no probs bro,
but yeah really if its going to effect your education, or effect your social well being tell them aye, or any other excuses to do or ask them if you could go out on your own for a while?
just overwhelm them with questions…. the worst that could happen is them saying no, if they get angry then there might be a bit of a problem with them there but thats on them, otherwise go hard!!

Is there some sort of program that you could enlist that you stay where you are with a host family maybe or a friend that you could stay with. If you give your parents alternatives that you have thought out they might be more cooperative to your strife and how important this is to you. Talk to a school counselor and see if there is something that you could do to stay. Your parents would still have to help you out and the host family as well, but it would keep you from going through this stress…Good Luck.

Is there a way you could stay with friends until you finish your years of schooling? or stay with family?

I understand that moving around is very frustrating and unerving, but you know perhaps there are opportunities out for you there? Perhaps doing a bit of research on the area where you will be moving to will help you get a jump start on things… Looking for a forum or message board in that area, and posting with an introduction of yourself and questions of “what is there to do?” and perhaps signing up with the community meet and greet will help you guys get your foot in the door this time.

You know sometimes we just have to make the most of these kinds of situations and look at them as stepping stones in life… perhaps ask your parents since you are almost 18, if you can compromise and try this until you are of age, and if you still don’t like it, if they would help you out to get you settled elsewhere?

You are in an amazing time of your life, and when you are older your memories of you moving will be fonder… I know a few people who moved around as they were kids, due to thier dads being in the military and although it is hard… they had looked back on thier experiences with growth and different attitudes when they were older( It’s great stories to tell the grand kids!)

Here’s a thought, perhaps finding a military forum, may help you, since you may be able to ask people on there, how they cope with moving around so much?

I would suggest finding something that you like to keep you “grounded” and something that will take your mind off your troubles… poetry/song writing, music, pottery, art…

You don’t realize it now, but you are in an amazing position to see the world as you do! ( I had a taste of travel as a kid, and as an adult, the money isn’t there to do so)

The best to you!
Your friend, Shannon
Nice pic!