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7moondog

Im a married man,totally in love with my wife.She has

showed me at times what seems like bi-polar symtoms.I have allways been totally honest,and faithful.And she also goes through a depression phase,taking sleeping pills,ect.I do it all in the house,cook, clean,I am the provider,she doesnt work.Everyday,I come home from work,I serve her and rarelly gives me affection…I would love so much to go out with her,like normal couples.Please,I need advice.

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An Unknown Location | 1 year, 8 months ago (3 minutes after post)

plan a romantic dinner at a nice fancy resturaunt

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erin 1 #
Augusta, GA, US | 1 year, 8 months ago (4 minutes after post)

if you think that she’s bi-polar, and nothing is changing, then you should suggest taking her to a counselor/therapist person. There are drugs that help with bi-polarness, and after a few weeks, she’ll feel so much better.

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An Undisclosed Location | 1 year, 8 months ago (5 minutes after post)

Have you spoken to her about what you think?
Has she seen a doctor?
Sometimes people when suffering from depression very rarely see how they are acting towards others, they need to be told, I have had depression and I am bi polar, I know i can’t often see when I am being unkind or un feeling towards people around me.
Tell her that you love her and you want to make things better for her but you doing al the work and getting no affection is makeing you feel low to.

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An Unknown Location | 1 year, 8 months ago (13 minutes after post)

I do greatly appreciate you answering me,she has gone to the doctor,she is taking medication.It just fustrates me that she does not want to go to conseling,and I do everything to satisfy her and its never enough.I wish I could get her to understand me.

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An Undisclosed Location | 1 year, 8 months ago (17 minutes after post)

Has she been on the medication long?
Sometimes at the start of meds things get a little worse before they kick in properly, does she see the doc on a reguar basis?
Maybe you should recommend her going and changeing the meds or upping the dose if they don’t seem to be helping her much.
I know when I am on meds they help my motivation and also control my moods so there should be some change in her.

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An Unknown Location | 1 year, 8 months ago (21 minutes after post)

Shes been on meds.since 1996,she wont go to any conseling,and frankly I am running out of ways to deal with her,But I love her so much.

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An Undisclosed Location | 1 year, 8 months ago (48 minutes after post)

What have the doctors recommended for her?
I know that the ones I see are very strict on seeing someone to talk to etc..
Maybe you are just going to have to be more firm in how you tell her, you love her I know but sometimes you have to listen to the saying “Be cruel to be kind”, she can’t live the way she is for the rest of her life and nore can you, she needs to know that depression does not just affect the person suffering it but everyone around her too and you need to tell her how it is affecting you and that for you he should get out and talk to someone about this, both of you.

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An Unknown Location | 1 year, 8 months ago (51 minutes after post)

Thank you Lazydaze,I will try once again,God bless you……

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An Undisclosed Location | 1 year, 8 months ago (52 minutes after post)

You are welcome Moon, I hope it works, just don’t give up there is always a way :)

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An Unknown Location | 1 year, 6 months ago (2 months, 1 week after post)

7moondog…

I have been wrestling with the exact same situation you are…in fact your initial paragraph sounds exactly like my life. Things have gotten so bad that I decided tonight to look around on the Internet for some help or advice. My wife is not on medication or anything. About 10 months ago she did go in and talk to a counselor but they told her she was just ADD. I had thought for the longest time that she was bi-polar. I am an educator and have taught and worked with bi-polar students. I felt she had all the symptoms. Anyways, to make a long story short things have gotten worse. She’s been in a huge state of “seeming” depression for the past month. She sleeps almost 16 hours a day and doesn’t help with anything. She doesn’t have a job and doesn’t help with any cleaning or cooking around the house. I feel completely helpless as to what to do. We haven’t even been married for one year but I can’t continue to live the rest of my life like this. I love her very much and just don’t know what to do. I can’t afford expensive counselors or doctors but realize I may not have an option. Any help…please.

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An Unknown Location | 10 months, 1 week ago (10 months after post)

sounds like everyone I know. They’re all married, cared for and provided for. I say dump her.There are beautiful, brilliant , educated and hard working women out there who would love to be in her shoes.

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