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EVERYONE tells ME to dump HIM…

but what do YOU think?

Ya see…I have posted something like this before but I am still having a serious problem with it. I have alot of friends, and all of them are guys. My boyfriend doesn’t like that at all. He thinks that I like some of my guy friends. He even claims that he saw me kissing one of them at the movies. GEEZ…For him to even think I would go that low!…I joke around with my friends and laugh at their jokes alot, but my boyfriend always says “You never laugh at my jokes like that!” It’s not my fault that I find some of their jokes funnier than his…He is being really immature about this whole ordeal, and I’m soooo torn. I’m not getting rid of my friends, I love them too much. And as for my boyfriend, I would rather him dump me if it came down to that, so I wouldn’t feel like it was my fault it is over. I am just so confused, and all this stress is building up on me….OMG, what can I do?

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:o, offline Verified User (7 months, 1 week) Long Term User Shouts: 24 #
An Undisclosed Location | 5 months ago (1 minute after post)

well does he treat you good

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sillisarah32 offline Verified User (5 months, 1 week) Long Term User Shouts: 0 #
Melbourne, FL, US | 5 months ago (1 minute after post)

heyyyy!!! its my friend!!! lol i remember wwaaayyyy back at that post!!! u shouldnt dump him!!

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sillisarah32 offline Verified User (5 months, 1 week) Long Term User Shouts: 0 #
Melbourne, FL, US | 5 months ago (2 minutes after post)

wen u tell him u luv him, look in his eyes and like half whisper it..

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texaspur offline Verified User (5 months, 1 week) Long Term User Shouts: 0 #
Winter Park, FL, US | 5 months ago (5 minutes after post)

I would say he treats me good…but…he is kinda how do I say this..like touchy feely, I don’t like that..and he knows that…

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sillisarah32 offline Verified User (5 months, 1 week) Long Term User Shouts: 0 #
Melbourne, FL, US | 5 months ago (5 minutes after post)

but if u really wanna dump him…. u should… OOOO!!! OMG!!! I GOT AN IDEA!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! YIPPEEEE!!!! give him a chance. tell him its bad enough ur thinking bout dumping him, and give him like a day or two!!

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texaspur offline Verified User (5 months, 1 week) Long Term User Shouts: 0 #
Winter Park, FL, US | 5 months ago (6 minutes after post)

I have given him a week to snap out of it..but he still says he doesn’t knwo what he is doing wrong…BUT HE DOES!

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An Undisclosed Location | 5 months ago (6 minutes after post)

touchy feely…i dont know what that means

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Joy♫ offline Verified User (5 months, 1 week) Long Term User Shouts: 880 #
An Undisclosed Location | 5 months ago (6 minutes after post)

Dont dump him!!! Just explain to him that you and your guy friends are just friends and thats all that you guys and gal are ever going to be…You should explain to him that you wouldn’t do anything to hurt him…(unless you would lol) and that you love him and your friends are friends and thats how its gonna stay

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sillisarah32 offline Verified User (5 months, 1 week) Long Term User Shouts: 0 #
Melbourne, FL, US | 5 months ago (7 minutes after post)

tat means he likes to TOUCH and FEEL!!!! lol

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texaspur offline Verified User (5 months, 1 week) Long Term User Shouts: 0 #
Winter Park, FL, US | 5 months ago (7 minutes after post)

I have told him they are JUST my friends repeatedly..He says whatever and walks off

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Joy♫ offline Verified User (5 months, 1 week) Long Term User Shouts: 880 #
An Undisclosed Location | 5 months ago (9 minutes after post)

Well Hes just stubborn…He will get the point one day or another…I dont think that you should waist your time telling him over and over again…Let him think what he wants but dont dump him… If he was a true boyfriend he would trust you and know whos your friend and whos more than a friend…which is him and if he is too dumb to figure that out…than let it stay that way eventually he will stop thinking that and you guys will hopefully continue on…

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An Unknown Location | 5 months ago (10 minutes after post)

It’s all about TRUST. Period and end. If he doesn’t trust you, then you will always have issues like this. But you also have to set the groundwork for trust. Guy friends are good, just don’t be overly flirty with them.

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sillisarah32 offline Verified User (5 months, 1 week) Long Term User Shouts: 0 #
Melbourne, FL, US | 5 months ago (10 minutes after post)

tell him again… and if he walks of, grab his hand and be like listen, i hate it when u do this their just my friends. please stop acting like this or i cant be with u anymore

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texaspur offline Verified User (5 months, 1 week) Long Term User Shouts: 0 #
Winter Park, FL, US | 5 months ago (11 minutes after post)

yall all have good ideas..but I’ve tried pretty much all of them….especially the grab his hand and tell him to listen…I’ve done thata t least ten times…I just don’t know

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Melbourne, FL, US | 5 months ago (12 minutes after post)

tell him he has one last chance, and if he doesnt listen n keeps being all grr.. then dump him.

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An Undisclosed Location | 5 months ago (13 minutes after post)

Just dont say anything to him about your guy friends if he mentions them change the subject…So it will be like this

Him: Why are you always laughing at their dumb jokes and not mine

You: Hu What?? So how was your day babe

lol That worked things out when me and my boyfriend were stuck in a corner

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An Unknown Location | 5 months ago (14 minutes after post)

Your friends are obviously more important than this guy is to you. You sound young, dump him. He seems self centered and uptight. Go have fun!

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texaspur offline Verified User (5 months, 1 week) Long Term User Shouts: 0 #
Winter Park, FL, US | 5 months ago (14 minutes after post)

I have gave him at least ten million last chances…AND he refuses to let me change the subject about stuff like that..he keeps on till i give him an answer.

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Melbourne, FL, US | 5 months ago (15 minutes after post)

Likes Trouble wrote:
Your friends are obviously more important than this guy is to you. You sound young, dump him. He seems self centered and uptight. Go have fun!

idrt that she thinks friends r more important, but he thinks that about her….
may b u should dump him… srrry!!

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Winter Park, FL, US | 5 months ago (15 minutes after post)

and yep..im pretty young…im only 13 yrs old…the age of pretty sucky love.

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Winter Park, FL, US | 5 months ago (16 minutes after post)

BUT I don’t wanna dump him..if it comes down to that..I want him to dump me, so I won’t feel like it is all my fault that it is over

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An Undisclosed Location | 5 months ago (17 minutes after post)

Oh wow…I say drop him off at the curb and keep going cause he it seems like he is making it hard for you to have fun…And like i said if he was a true boyfriend he would trust you…He seems self centered and obnoxtious (did i spell that right???LOL) well you know what im trying to put… but yea i never even met him and already i dont like him

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Winter Park, FL, US | 5 months ago (18 minutes after post)

LOL…umm I think you spelled it right by the way…I just don’t know..i appreeciate all yallz help..I am still not sure though.

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Melbourne, FL, US | 5 months ago (18 minutes after post)

ya im 13 too.. but my bf and i trust each other… and weve had figths… like MAJOR fights (im atheist hes super religious) but ya u gotta trust eachother….. ANYWAYS… if he dumps u… but ur not the prob… he is!! dump him!

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An Unknown Location | 5 months ago (19 minutes after post)

sillisarah32 wrote:

Likes Trouble wrote:
Your friends are obviously more important than this guy is to you. You sound young, dump him. He seems self centered and uptight. Go have fun!

idrt that she thinks friends r more important, but he thinks that about her….
may b u should dump him… srrry!!

Ummm…. Texaspur wrote in her post…. I’m not getting rid of my friends, I love them too much. And as for my boyfriend, I would rather him dump me if it came down to that, so I wouldn’t feel like it was my fault it is over. I am just so confused, and all this stress is building up on me….OMG, what can I do?

Again, I say - dump him. It has to be done. Trust me when I say you will be happier in the long run.

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An Undisclosed Location | 5 months ago (19 minutes after post)

Oh…Sorry if you dont want to dump him…Then just keep doing what you are doing…Having fun eventually his stupidity will overcome him and he will dump you… Boys are dumb like that…Lol! But its obvious that he cares about you cause he worries sooo much about everything that you are doing so..his annoyance and errogane is just his way of showing how much he loves you…im 13 too by the way

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An Undisclosed Location | 5 months ago (19 minutes after post)

i ment errogance…LOL

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An Undisclosed Location | 5 months ago (20 minutes after post)

…if thats how you spell it… lol

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Melbourne, FL, US | 5 months ago (20 minutes after post)

ya.. he may be jealous…

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Winter Park, FL, US | 5 months ago (21 minutes after post)

But…the thing is..and I didnt wanna mention this..He likes another girl, and I only know about this because thank god, his friends are my friends and they told me.
I just think he is trying to find something to make me feel bad about so he dont have to feel bad about liking another girl.

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An Unknown Location | 5 months ago (22 minutes after post)

Dump him - you will be doing both of you a big favor!

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Melbourne, FL, US | 5 months ago (23 minutes after post)

omg!! my bf likes my bff and my bff ikes my bf!! look, if ur friend is a true friend, she’ll be suportive of u.

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Winter Park, FL, US | 5 months ago (23 minutes after post)

But i don’t wanna dump him..if anything i want him to dump me so i wont feel like it was my fault that it ended….

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An Undisclosed Location | 5 months ago (24 minutes after post)

Gf i think you should just dump him…cuz he is just overall stupid…Sorry but i had to say it. You will be helping both of you out!!!! And in the end trust me you want feel bad…Just say it in a nice way…I dont think that this is a good idea…if you cant trust me than you must not care about me… and if he does he will drop everything and you two will stay together…

and my bff likes my bf too…we have a lot in common…

Trust me you will not feel bad…its his fault anyways not yours…he needs to stop being a boob and understand that they are your friends…

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Winter Park, FL, US | 5 months ago (25 minutes after post)

the girl he likes is not my friend..she is anything but my friend

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Melbourne, FL, US | 5 months ago (25 minutes after post)

well then shes in for trouble

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An Undisclosed Location | 5 months ago (25 minutes after post)

Why does it say my comment is waiting approval…man that sucks….I had a good idea…

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Winter Park, FL, US | 5 months ago (26 minutes after post)

lolz..sorry that your comment is awaiting approval..it does that to me too..why I dont know

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Winter Park, FL, US | 5 months ago (27 minutes after post)

she is in for trouble..she flirts with him right in front of me..on PURPOSE!

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Evanston, IL, US | 5 months ago (38 minutes after post)

Hes paranoid, hes being defensive, just try to reassure him. If anything he should break up with you.

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Winter Park, FL, US | 5 months ago (42 minutes after post)

I have reasured him like ten million times..he still just says whatever and walks off

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