life help: i am sooo tired of trying to do everything right, be happy and good. - Help.com

They say ignorance is bliss, but I doubt that people who live a constant selfish and ignorant lifestyle really have bliss… they never got a chance to really care for other people and things that matter in the world. It’s a good thing to care… that means you’ve learned compassion… and if more people had it, the world would be a much better place!!

You are who you are, and it sounds like that’s a good thing. Yeah, sometimes caring about things brings us a lot of heartache… but it’s better than not feeling anything or not knowing how to care for others or be cared for… ’cause it’s pretty hard for anyone to love a totally selfish person.

Well, I don’t really know where I’m going with this though… :) What is the question??

who are you trying to be happy and good for? parents? friends? you do not have to be happy and good all of the time. but what what are sad and bad to you?
it could be that other people have the same struggles as you do but to expose them would make them vunerable.
you are brave. you came here and while you stayed anon you questioned. questioning is always good. do you need to fill your soul with something other than other peoples expectations of you? do you like children, or pets, or sewing? find something or things that make you feel. poetry, monster truck rallies?
feeling good is a choice that you can share with others; it is easy to find darkness. it is everywhere; when it finds you, choose to overcome it. Being aware of the pain and fragility of the world can freeze you or put a fire in your soul.
Share your intelligence, share your joy. you can even share your pain, the world will not stop and look at one tiny little being and point because you became aware of your smallness in the universe.
if you need to jump up and down loudly; then by all means do it. if you want to wear stripes with plaid, that’s cool. if you need to find a safe place to just unwind, then take a blanket and a book and run away from being good for a day. life is too short to live it for other people, even when those other people tell us it is for our own good. even when thay say we will understand later. if you are not engaging in self-destructive behavior then be bad. dessert before dinner bad.

well i love the concept of life, i love the arts (especally), love, questioning, exploration (externally and internally), humanity, animals, the earth, the cosmo, those out there ideas of science, nature and conciousness. i am also most happiest sharing all the above with lovers, family or friends, even if they understand or not. i certainly do not judge there comments or level of understanding, as i know little myself.
but i never expose my problems, until like now when it is outwardly apparent i have problems, and only ask for a brief guideline as to how i should approach life as it was, and now as it is very painful and difficult.
tough one huh?!?!

Most people are walking around with problems inside that they’re not talking about… but we try to work on finding the best possible solutions to them and cope the best we can by acting as normal as we can I suppose. Problems are generally only temporary… so hold the thought that this too shall pass. You can work it through!!

thanks cattails and ms.kosk, for wonderful words of wisdom ;) i’m sure fate will kick in at somepoint. i will keep trying and also leave my fate in the lap of the gods i guess (greek gods metaphorical saying btw, not modern ones! ergh!)

lol what was the point in being anon in the first place after that mess up?!?!

I have decided to name you Noni. There are lots of place to go and be smart, but because you are smart you have to look for them. People who question can get stuck in the metaphorical mud or find an outlet for their out of control brain activity. (In the past I believe it was called “independent thinking”) Don’t be afraid to be an independent thinker, Noni. Without them we would still think the earth is flat and ice cream would only come in vanilla.

Just be who you are.