Love help: Ok so i am still madly in love with my ex boyfriend! - Help.com

no you don’t!

i do!! i have a new boyfriend who almost dumped me cause we were kissing and i said i love u ( name of ex)!! i dont love my boyfriend!!

OK. so you’re not better then he is. Maybe you deserve eachother. To me it seems like he is a player. and if you want to play, then go ahead.

You need him like a hole in the head, you need him like you need some extra heartache in your life. Why are you convincing yourself that you “need” any of this? He obviously is very flighty and doesn’t love you enough to stick with you, and it just didn’t work out before. You won’t trust him now… you can’t feel secure in his love and commitment to you. And you know he’s not “in love” with you really, not like he should be, or he wouldn’t keep being interested in others like this. He’s just not ready to settle down, so let him fly… he’d only hurt you again. Avoid more heartache. I know you “miss” each other and that’s normal, but sometimes you just have to use your head. If he now loves your best friend, that should be more than enough reason to be clearly fed up with him now… doesn’t that hurt enough??

It does but i do trust him!! i trust him with my life!! i am just sick of him hurting me in the heart!!

You trust him ‘with your life’ in what way? You trust that he loves you? You trust that he’ll always be there for you? Please read your post back and then reassess your feelings. You are potentially setting yourself up for a whole lot of hurt here (not to mention STD’s!). I wish you the best of luck in finding a man who will love, respect and treat you right. xx

But how can you really trust someone who keeps hurting you?? Your heart is not safe in his hands, don’t you see? Maybe you can be friends eventually, but as a relationship it just doesn’t seem to work and he can’t seem to figure out WHO he loves, but clearly if he loved you enough he wouldn’t be all over the place like this… and he now “loves” your best friend?… that’s low. Would this happen if he really cared enough about you???

well he does like to play around!! my heart says he is playing around with them to make me jealous!! that is working but my brain says move on! which one do i follow???

There’s nothing good about a guy who would go this far just to make you jealous either… the line has to be drawn somewhere. It’s just too low to do something like this. If that’s what he’s doing, he enjoys hurting you… and where will it end???

Really, you should listen to your brain right now. He’s only going to hurt you and hurt you.

umm ok thanks!! i think we had something special he was the first bf i have had that i really commited to so ill never fully forget him!! but i guess i should move on

Yeah, I know it’s hard but he hasn’t really committed to you, unfortunately, so it looks like he has some growing up to do before he’s ready for that. It’s too bad, but it’s his loss….

i dont wanna see him get hurt though cause my friend hates him!!

You are too sweet to be worrying about HIM getting hurt, when he’s about to go for YOUR best friend? What’s he doing to YOU?!! Let him get hurt, he’s being a jerk, asking your best friend out! I know you care, but he’s being pretty heartless toward your feelings!!

Great advice cattail…I completely agree with you.

Ya i need to take a stand!! screw you heart i am folling my brain!!

Way to go Allie. Don’t settle for a stone when there are diamonds out there waiting to be found! xx

Now lets see how long i actually ask!! should i even be his friend???

Well, the best solution (as I’m sure you know) is to get as far away from the dude as possible emotionally, mentally and physically. We all have someone like that in our lives; someone who we love so dearly that they can use and abuse us and we just keep taking it. The only way that this cycle can end is if you draw the line and keep well away. Keep yourself busy and engage your mind with other things where possible. Make more of an effort with your current boyfriend and do fun things together. Try not to be ungrateful for the great things that you have and appreciate and enjoy life while you still can. This guy is not worth the sole of your shoe in the grand scheme of things :o)

Honestly, he’s not really being a friend to you… so the more distance you can handle, the better (and also will make it much easier for you to get over him and move on). He doesn’t really deserve your friendship.

You go girl!! Don’t settle for crap, you deserve much better… and certainly not someone who will obviously only break your heart repeatedly!!

Thanks!! you guyes helped alot!!

Good luck… be strong!! There’s something better out there!!

wow that is Exactly wat happened me!! exactly!!