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What’s happening?

I don’t understand, i really liked this guy, hes funny and smart and all that other stuff. Anyways, he liked me too, well, sort of. he slept with me and then basically said that he is incapable of actually liking people. he is about as close as you get to being a sociopath without actually being one. anyway, im not angry at him, the way our thing went, it was the best outcome i could hope for. the real problem is that i know im hurting, like i am shaking, and not smiling and stuff, but i dont feel hurt, i dont feel pain…im kinda, numb i suppose…this isnt really a question, i just dont understand what is happening, when i should be hurting, im not…but at the same time i am…i just dont get it…anyone able to explain it to me?

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chiPmUNK! offline Verified User (1 year, 8 months) Long Term User Shouts: 65 #
An Undisclosed Location | 1 year, 8 months ago (21 minutes after post)

is it guilt?

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tea ali offline Verified User (1 year, 9 months) Long Term User Shouts: 1 #
An Undisclosed Location | 1 year, 8 months ago (41 minutes after post)

Maybe you don’t want to believe that you were rejected…that someone you liked doesn’t (or claims to be incapable of) liking you?

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sanetty offline Verified User (1 year, 8 months) Long Term User Shouts: 1 #
Tuggeranong, 01, AU | 1 year, 8 months ago (1 hour, 9 minutes after post)

believing it isnt the hard part…its almost like im pushing it down, like my body doesnt want to acknowledge it or something, i dont know im confused. I dont know if its guilt, it may be, but i dont feel guilty…when i feel guilty about something, i tend to dwell on it, but at the moment i cant seem to dwell on anything, like im too full to feel anything anymore…is this making any sense?

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XfineprintX offline Verified User (1 year, 9 months) Long Term User Shouts: 1 #
An Undisclosed Location | 1 year, 8 months ago (1 hour, 55 minutes after post)

sleeping with him… so you mean like actual s*x?

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1 year, 8 months ago (12 hours, 9 minutes after post)

sanetty wrote:
believing it isnt the hard part…its almost like im pushing it down, like my body doesnt want to acknowledge it or something…

Acknowledging that you were rejected means you have to face it ‘head on’ and accept that it’s real, which makes the hurt more painful/intense. If you don’t acknowledge it, it won’t be so painful. Just an opinion based on what you posted.

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sanetty offline Verified User (1 year, 8 months) Long Term User Shouts: 1 #
Tuggeranong, 01, AU | 1 year, 8 months ago (18 hours, 8 minutes after post)

I don’t know how to face it head on, i want to but i cant, no matter how much i think about it, or dont think about it, or anything i do i cant seem to find it in my self to be affected…..yes, actual s*x

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sanetty offline Verified User (1 year, 8 months) Long Term User Shouts: 1 #
Tuggeranong, 01, AU | 1 year, 8 months ago (18 hours, 14 minutes after post)

I think i may have left a crucial bit out…It was me who essentially rejected him, he said that if i was ok with having a “friends with benefits” relationship then that was awesome, but if my liking him was gonna be in the way (which it obviously was) then we should just keep things the way they were…so in the end, it was me who rejected him….thanks for replying guys, i kno im probably not making much sense but all your replies are greatly appreciated.

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