Love help: i hurt someone a few hours ago who i once cared a great deal about. - Help.com

Hey.. I had the same thing happen to me but instead i was on the side your ex is on. He probably feels terrible and you do too but if you don’t have the right feelings for him, the relationship wouldve been a lie. And I agree, being a girl, that if my bf can’t get along with my best friend, then…ya, i don’t like that.
You’ll feel guilty, and terrible about it, but you did what was best for you, which isn’t wrong. Its healthy.
And don’t feel bad about loving his friend, I mean, if he found out he certainly wouldn’t be jumping for joy, but…”nothing can stop love.” .. (my little lame quote for you.)

Hope this helps..

I understand how it would be confusing, but it happens. It’l stop eventually, with time.

Every breath thae you take that he knows of does hurt him for now, and right now you are the only thing that can help him. if he really loves you he will only be able to think of you. But it has to happen if you cant take it becuase it can only cause you pain. if you can keep the best friend thing a secret for a while… a long while it would probably help everyone. If you love his best friend and he loves you waiting to make you 2 public shouldnt be too bad. You cant hide it forever though, just til he has had sometime to get over you…

Dear Lilu08,

I think you need to sit down and try to concentrate on the meaning of Love and figure out what love means to you. I know my post is very long but I request you to please take sometime and read through it.

Let me tell you something which seems like a myth but it really exist, i know it because i am experiencing it right now. When you fall in Love with someone and you are in a relationship which is built on love and respect then it is absolutely impossible to fall out of love. When you love someone you should love them so much that their bad things do not effect you as much as they should because you love for him makes you cover up your partners shotfalls. You may joke and jibe about it but you know deep down that it really does not bother you as much.

Most people mistake infactuation for Love. It feels the same with all the tingling sensations and the feeling that you cannot do without each other and all that but infactuation usually does not last very long.

I would advise you to please sit down by yourself and reflect on the meaning of Love and what it means to you and put down on paper what all you expect from a relationship, and i would advise you to do this before you get into a serious relationship. It is only when you understand and realise what it is that you are really looking for that you can identify the traits in your potential mate. And it would be the wisest thing to do.

When you are getting into a serious relationship you should be thinking long term, and believe me when i say it does not take too long to realise that you have met the one who you should be with. My wife and I knew that we wanted to be with each other in just 3 months from the date we met. I saw all the traits i was looking for in her and obviously she saw the ones she was looking for in me. Yes we do fight and sometimes the neighbours can hear us very clearly but most surely the Love we share and the respect we have for each other always takes over before we can really hurt each other :O)

You did nothing wrong by ending the relationship with your boyfriend, if you had an on - off relationship then it is not a relationship to have. But yes you have to go through one of these before you can see and cherish the right one. I went through one and believe me that it is best to end one like that.

Before you take your relationship with this other guy to a serious level i would request you to please reflect. You are a nice person and that is evident because the thought of hurting your ex is rattling your inner peace but please dont worry it is healthy and normal and more over human to feel that way.

holy cow, you wrote a meaningful essay there Jingo. Love it though

Don’t let him makes you feel guilty ,you took the decision you felt the right so stick to it & concentrate on yourself & your feelings .