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Im worried about my friends but i don’t know what to do!

Ok, i have a couple of friends, but for some reason this is troubling me alot. My best friends name is Tom, and i like to go out with him alot. Though, he has a friend named James. I will probably call him Shaggy here ‘cos thats prettymuch his name. Well, i am worried about my friendship with Tom, because he has seemed to go out alot with Shaggy, and… Well… Not me. Now shaggy is my friend aswell, but not really close friends. He is a really nice guy too. Tom also is really close friends with 2 other people at my school called Will and James. I will call Will ‘Cotesy’ and james ‘Papa’. Those are just their nicknames and have stuck like glue to them forever.

Tom has been my best friend for sooo long now. It’s just that whenever i call him to go out and stuff or talk to him at school, he always already has plans with them. I’m starting to feel a bit jealous too. I don’t know why i feel this way. Whether it’s that i miss going out and having lunch with him or just not going out with Cotesy, papa or Shaggy much. Im worried i might get left out of this friendship. What should i do?

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Bex offline Verified User (2 years, 8 months) Long Term User Shouts: 5 #
An Undisclosed Location | 1 year, 8 months ago (8 minutes after post)

Make new friends, lot of them. Don’t limit yourself to just a few friends. Make as many as you can. It’s nice to have 1 really great best friend, but even better to have 100 really great friends.

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Dan99iel offline Verified User (1 year, 8 months) Long Term User Shouts: 0 #
An Unknown Location | 1 year, 8 months ago (9 minutes after post)

Thankyou for that advice = P. Just for some reason i cant find anybody social… I will try to find some new friends though, thanks.

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Im worried but i don’t know what to do!

Ok, i have a couple of friends, but for some reason this is troubling me alot. My best friends name is Tom, and i like to go out with him alot. Though, he has a friend named James. I will probably call him Shaggy here ‘cos thats prettymuch his name. Well, i am worried about my friendship with Tom, because he has seemed to go out alot with Shaggy, and… Well… Not me. Now shaggy is my friend aswell, but not really close friends. He is a really nice guy too. Tom also is really close friends with 2 other people at my school called Will and James. I will call Will ‘Cotesy’ and james ‘Papa’. Those are just their nicknames and have stuck like glue to them forever.

Tom has been my best friend for sooo long now. It’s just that whenever i call him to go out and stuff or talk to him at school, he always already has plans with them. I’m starting to feel a bit jealous too. I don’t know why i feel this way. Whether it’s that i miss going out and having lunch with him or just not going out with Cotesy, papa or Shaggy much. Im worried i might get left out of this friendship. What should i do?

Bex offline Verified User (2 years, 8 months) Long Term User Shouts: 5 #
An Undisclosed Location | 1 year, 8 months ago (13 minutes after post)

You’re welcome. It can be hard making new friends and putting yourself out there but you’ve got to give it a go. Look around you i’m sure there are people who would love to be your friend. Invite your friends out rather than waiting to hear from them.

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Drk_Princ offline Verified User (1 year, 8 months) Long Term User Shouts: 1 #
An Unknown Location | 1 year, 8 months ago (13 minutes after post)

Try hangin with the other guys too.If he’s going to lunch with shaggy - why cant you go too? Infact try asking the other guys to hang out once or twice without inviting tom. if you all start hangin with each other seperatly then you’ll eventually meld into one group. it happened with all my friends by accident.

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Dan99iel offline Verified User (1 year, 8 months) Long Term User Shouts: 0 #
An Unknown Location | 1 year, 8 months ago (15 minutes after post)

Good idea, thanks = P. Im kinda shy, but only in a way because i dont want to embarrass myself, and go the safe way. I have no problem making new friends, i just…. Havn’t had a great friendship with Cotesy before. He’s just a bit…. Crazy.

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Dan99iel offline Verified User (1 year, 8 months) Long Term User Shouts: 0 #
An Unknown Location | 1 year, 8 months ago (34 minutes after post)

Any more help people? I really want some more advice please.

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goldenchemica offline Unverified User #
An Unknown Location | 8 months, 1 week ago (1 year after post)

dan99iel, i have the same problem going for me right now. i moved to a new country and i happen to land in a school where there are only 4 international students, and out of the 4, only 2 are worth trying to be friends with. i was amazed when i saw that you had that problem of feeling jealous or the feeling of being left out of this friendship, and in my opinion, its what hurts me the worst. im a very empathetic person, to the point where its really crushing me and, after having talked to my counseler for 2 hours, she said she wanted to talk with me more becuase she could tell i was torturing myself with all of this. i have such great expectations that i might be scaring people away…im lost just as much as you, i dont want to go out and meet other people because these three are already making my life a living hell to keep up with..i hope you get your answer as ill accept it as mine too

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