friends help: My friend can be so, so rude to me sometimes, and I don’t understand why. - Help.com

hey guys… i think the same that you should go tell your friend how you feel then maybe they willjust think “what have i done. She my friend” and maybe you can be friends agin!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

i’ve had a friend for about 5 years now & at the beginning we were super close but now like u said she is insulting everything about me, being super perverted & disgusting & rude to others then just me. i’ve tried to talk to her about it but then she just finds excuses. i’m really at the standing point of what do i do now. it’s not an easy thing to decide. do i tell her goodbye or continue being emotionally abused….i think what you really need to do is just tell her off once & for all. & if she doesnt change or treat you better then its goodbye to her….its guna be hard for me to do it but i know that i still have other friends beside her

My friend is the exact same way. She’ll be extremely rude to me and pick fights with me, and then she’ll be super nice. I try to tell her how it makes me feel but then all of my other friends side with her and I’m left with nobody.

I don’t understand why “friends” sometimes do that. I have made, and left, many friends in my life; also made, and am still friends with many. I don’t understand why some people are like that. Does it help boost their own esteem regardless of how it makes others feel? Are they just focusing on other people’s problems thereby avoiding their own?? How do you not know when you are putting someone down?

I think maybe it’s because when someone puts me down, after numerous times, I have so much resentment built up, that I say something I regret (I stoop to their level) and make fun of them. Time after time, I get insulted for whatever reason, and then I eventually retaliate. I think if I confront it towards the beginning, then it may make a difference. But what if I’ve left it alone for too long? Do I just leave them be and walk away?

Or what if I’ve established a pattern why I get made fun of and people know I don’t like it so they continue to push buttons to get a reaction? Amusement of some kind to them. Also, when is enough, enough? When do I walk away from the abuse? After 2 times of verbal abuse? 3 times?

When is enough, enough?

gahh juss tell her “why dont u have anything nice to say?, are u tht insecure?”

yeah…………i can understand cause i have been through it ……..its really tough to console but act in a calm manner or u too be rude…………..

your right!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!SHE ACTS LIKE SHE IS SO TOUGH AND COOL AND GANG STER

Same thing here but you know what? I think my friend got bored with me and try to tell me in a polite way to leave her alone,so I blocked her number and whatsapp so she doesn’t contact me anymore. It will make her think twice b4 doing stuff like that again. I really don’t need her in my life . Do what u gotta do.

i don’t know how to tell my cousin that i know she is family but you need to meet her to understand what she is like and when i try to talk to her she just says yea yea yea i understand again and again and again.we have been in many fights and she says sorry and sorry and cries so i feel bad but i think if she dose it one more time i am going to have to tell her and show her that i mean it this time.even my mom thinks i should do that.thanks.

I know how it feels but my so called friend is mean to me I gave her a birthday present and she was really happy and stuff but then the next day I said hey to her and she shouted at me saying what is it!! I said to her are u okay she said its none of your business. I said to her I’m sorry, have I done anything and she shouted at me again saying you would think that wouldn’t you It’s nothing to do with u but in like a really mean way I started crying not infront of her but later I can’t understand what happened we were so close Funny thing is when she is around populars she always listens to them she doesn’t want to be seen with me! It really upsets me alli want is her to be my friend but sometimes it feels like she hates me!!!