friends help: me and my boyfriend started going out 5-6 months ago. - Help.com

If you were so sad That you had to drink that much to get him away, you are in love. I am sure that after you tell him how you feel he will understand that you love him and you two will become even closer.

Every breakup is hard, and just cause you’re upset hardcore doesn’t mean you’re still in love, and it doesn’t mean your not either. There will always be those memories that bring a tear to your eye, regardless of whether breaking up is the right thing to do. If you do decide to part ways, you’ll just have to eventually replace the memories with new ones. It will take a while. One question I have is, if you religion means you cannot be physical, then wouldn’t it have some requirements about abusing yourself with alcohol? Just some food for thought.

The best way to see if you need him is to have some time away, and see how things go. Try just being friends. If its meant to be, then it will just move in that direction again…

what religion allows you to drink yourself to illness but not touch your lover

it has requirements about abusing alcohol its called causing your self damage… and also inappropriate behavior, and i screwed up royally and am now paying for it.
thanks for both ur great advise

Hey everybody makes mistakes, even those who think they are uber-high-up on the religious food chain. No-ones perfect.

You’ll have your day. Besides, boys are quite over-rated (I know, I am one).

;-)

no ones perfect but you have to try hard to be…some part of a reigon are easyer to follow then others and you take on what you can do and have something else to work on if you take on too much you will crash and burn.

I’d still stay on the break with him, tell him your friends overreacted(although they probably didn’t) and that you just need some more time.

I’m not sure what religion you follow, but its most (if not all) religions are influenced too much by people. Religious leaders are just humans, and you should listen to God himself (or read the bible/quran/other holy book) rather than just take it from the mouth of a religious leader. No offense intended of course. You may find that there is a lot in there you don’t know, especially when if comes to rules and such…

Just MHO

i don’t know my religion perfectly but i know enough to tell whats right and wrong

Thats all you need to know. The rest you can work out.

religion causes more problems than it solves.
Trust in yourself and in god, would god think it so bad that you kissed and hugged the man you love?
If your religion wasnt so tied up in your relationship do you think things would be easier for you both.
Can you talk to your preist or whomever about it?
You know right from wrong but love is never wrong

seggle is right, do whats feels right, not what your told right is. just think for yourself and trust your feelings. relationships are tricky, especially at the start, but if your sure he is the one for you, then let nothing stand in between you two, love can prevail over all other things, and in many religious contexts, god IS love. just food for thought.

g-d doesn’t think kissing and hugging the man you love is wrong in fact he encourages it. in a proper setting of marriage.

lost in life wrote:
g-d doesn’t think kissing and hugging the man you love is wrong in fact he encourages it. in a proper setting of marriage.

in a proper setting of marriage? antiquated…
will god punish me for kissing and hugging my partner because we are not married?
I live a good honest life filled with love and compassion and god will not judge me wrong

this isn’t a topic of religion. thats a matter i don’t feel comfortable getting in to b/c i am not trained to talk about it

if youre willing to drink urself to a pt that u would have to go to the hospital, maybe u shud put the “not touching ur bf” thing aside too and just touch him (at least. doing mroe would be good for your sanity), at least to see if the chemistry is still there.

I will pray for you.