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I’m glad you found someone to love and someone to love you, too. There are lots of people longing for that and not finding it.

I don’t know why people are discouraging you. Let your heart and conscience lead the way and hold on to her!

ignore everyone? sounds like you know that anyway ;)
i think i’m right in thinking you can be engaged and still get a six-figure salary? so goodluck with it!!!!!!!!!!!
that doesn’t mean it will work out, but we are all entitled to mistakes, even big one’s!
“its better to regret the things you’ve done rather than the things you haven’t done”

Hey, I guess i could say im in a similar kinda situation. I have been with my girl for 3 years were the same age as you guys. Her family hate me because of sum **** in the past were she left me for someone else and they feel its my fault, my family dont want me to be with her because she left me ect ect. I want her though i want to grom old next to her and share every waking and sleeping hour with her at my side. Its so hard sometimes and i feel as you do as if im loosing site of what matters but keep it close to your heart and be true to yourself. If its what you both want then seize it and make it work…. goo luck mate

I think theres not a ton you can do, perhaps you can make yourself look a bit better by spending a lot of time with her family so that they can get to know you.

Or you could completely detach yourself from your relatives, but i think that they may come in handy monetarily and as a support system.

Overall your parents need to do the work (learn to accept you guys), not you.

Best of Luck

Urgdu

It’s really between you and your partner. Parents are quite often difficult as far as accepting who their child chooses as a partner, for whatever reason… different religions, ethnicities, or just simply the fact that they’re losing their little girl/boy can make them react in a negative way for some time. You know, nobody’s really good enough for THEIR child! Usually, hopefully, sooner or later they come to accept the relationship and see that it’s what makes their child happy!

Friends too, they all have their opinions….or sometimes jealousies and ulterior motives…. but the bottom line is, nobody knows better than the two of you about YOUR relationship.

I know it gets frustrating to hear all the negativity, but you can keep on toward what you know is right… you can prove them wrong and they will see…. and hopefully, they will eventually be big enough to be happy for the two of you. It’s your life to live! Show them you intend to live it by following your own heart, regardless of their opinions! :)

is she the same species as you? good. then go for it.

just don’t sacrifice your or her education.

Many thanks, all…you have no idea how encouraging your replies are to me right now. I’ll admit it’s been a rough road here, especially in the last few months…but things feel a little bit brighter right now.

We know what matters to us. We know who we are, and who we want to be. We know that we want to be together. We love each other. It doesn’t get much better than that. ^^

I hope that one day our families can accept us…and I hope that everyone can, frankly, just all get along. It might not work out that way…and I’ll prepare for the worst, but I’m hoping for the best.

I guess it’s easy to lose sight of things when the going gets tough…thanks for helping me set myself back on my path. ^^

Again…thanks. It means a lot.

Be happy… I’ll bet they’ll come around, especially as they see how happy you two are!!! Hang in there, and live your life together, and don’t let the others get to you. Have faith they’ll come around!! :)