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i need advice about my marriage.

we got married very young and now we may be coming to the end of it. he works a lot and likes to dominate and i want to be independant and work too but the relationship takes it out of me.i have health issues or mental health issues also and i just want to have a better life.

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2 months, 4 weeks ago (2 minutes after post)

im sry, but it sounds like u already know it over.

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2Hazel offline Verified User (4 months) Long Term User Shouts: 10 #
An Undisclosed Location | 2 months, 4 weeks ago (3 minutes after post)

cant really be over when you have a house a kid etc

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An Unknown Location | 2 months, 4 weeks ago (3 minutes after post)

Do what you want to do.
It is your life, no one should take charge of it but yourself.
You are still alive, you can do whatever your heart and mind pleases, but try to have balance and choose wisely what you will be doing.
If the relationship is not working and you are not happy then quit it.
No one is going to make you happy, only you will! They may help you be happy but they wont make you happy for themselves.

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Otis, OR, US | 2 months, 4 weeks ago (23 minutes after post)

It takes two people to make a relationship work. Both of those people have to want the relationship to work. Both of them have to agree to help each other and to compromise so that each person’s needs are met as much as possible.

If one you is not having your needs met and the other one is not willing to help, or if one of you has already given up on the relationship and decides that it’s not worth fighting for, then there’s nothing the other can do. The relationship is over regardless of the house and family. It takes both parties to make it work.

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2Hazel offline Verified User (4 months) Long Term User Shouts: 10 #
An Undisclosed Location | 2 months, 4 weeks ago (26 minutes after post)

even if we want things to work I’m afraid of where we are going to end up. Some couples understand each other, and some friends do as well.

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2Hazel offline Verified User (4 months) Long Term User Shouts: 10 #
An Undisclosed Location | 2 months, 4 weeks ago (29 minutes after post)

but we just get each other riled up.

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Nyx (invisible) offline Verified User (11 months) Long Term User Shouts: 8 #
Otis, OR, US | 2 months, 4 weeks ago (33 minutes after post)

Perhaps you could consider marriage counseling.

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An Undisclosed Location | 2 months, 4 weeks ago (36 minutes after post)

not much luck with that. we aren’t that good when money is tight or time. hes high maintenance.

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Otis, OR, US | 2 months, 4 weeks ago (38 minutes after post)

Do you associate with any religion by any chance? I’m not saying that you should or shouldn’t, however, many churches and religions offer marriage counseling from the church pastors or leaders.

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An Undisclosed Location | 2 months, 4 weeks ago (40 minutes after post)

i wish my church was more touchy feely because its comforting but they basically say its on us, or on me as the woman.

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An Undisclosed Location | 2 months, 4 weeks ago (44 minutes after post)

anyway thanks for the connection, it helps. tommorow is another day.

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