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Unless he is willing to stop being petty you are not going to be able to change the way he feels about things. It would be an amazing world if we could all just get people to understand where we are coming from, however we cannot make them listen or understand unless they want to. I would simply say that you should not beat yourself up about this, he will move on and eventually get over it. Just give him time.

i Think you should talk with him ! If you wanted to broke up with him it mean that you weren’t happy with him . after this broke up you don’t have to tell anything to him so you didn’t do any wrong . He must understand that you go on with your life and that he is just a friend ! He is probably jealous ! I’m sure he will be ok with time :) But talk with him and say what you feel honest :)

yes you see it right your not the one who is hurting! you live your life and he is the one who is upset from a thing he shouldn’t be ! he’s not your bf so he shouldn’t be upset! You have your right to have bf even if that person is he’s friend ! And your bf told to him whats happening between the two of you so you don’t have to feel guilty

I think it has something to do with the ‘ego’ thing. He still had feelings for you so it must have hurt him a lot so when he knew it from his friend whom you are dating with, he felt like exploding. I know you’d say he does not have the right to feel that way, but i guess he still does — only that he was not able to control his disappointment.

There is nothing you can do now to fix it. I don’t even think there is need to fix. Because you are moving on. Whether he likes it or not, you are on your own now.

Becoming friends with an ex may take a while, you can’t force it. When the hurt is healed, then that’s the time when you can face each other smiling.

Eeeeesh…this is a bit of a rough one.

Me and my girlfriend’s ex were from the same Cadet squadron. We were allies for a good two years. After she left him, she met me, and the two of us became very close. When I found out that they’d been dating before, I was a wee bit shocked. And…because she hadn’t told him that we were close yet…I talked to him. Just for the sake of making sure that everyone was out of the dark, and for the sake of keeping things from blowing up later on. That…and they’d been together for years before that, and I figured he deserved to know.

Simply put, he was pretty mad. Really, really pretty mad. We had some words. I figured it would be the last time I ever talked to him again.

Months later, he started working at the company where I am right now. At first, yes, things were awkward. Fast-forward about four months to present day - we sit in the same group of people, and we constantly fool around, joke, laugh, and make idiots of ourselves every weekend morning that we, and our merry band of morons, are at work.

I know this is me going off on a bit of a tangent…but I guess what I’m trying to say is that two people can be angry at each other. Two people can hate each other. Two people can feel betrayed by each other. But just because that’s how they feel at one point in time doesn’t mean that a couple years from now you can’t let bygones be bygones and shake hands. It sounds like he feels betrayed…and from his point of view, you may have betrayed him. So…how do you fix this?

About the only thing I can recommend is talk. Tell him how you feel, find out how you feel. If it’s possible, try to understand and appreciate each other’s points of view. It might be possible that he doesn’t want to talk - he might still be extremely upset. But…someday, he might want to talk again. And if you want to build a friendship, I say go for it.

As for you and the one you’re going out with now…understand that you’re not doing anything wrong if you two love each other, care for each other, and want to be together. If you share true feelings for each other, then I think you two are going to come out of this just fine. You two might really need each other’s help getting through this - but, if you can weather the storm, you’ll probably be all the better for it.

Again…as I’m pretty sure I’ve said a MILLION times…I’m not an expert. But I hope this helps.

do you and be happy if he really cared he wouldn’t be mad but happy that you found happiness